MariaB
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ORIGINAL: Rush30 I'm very open and honest about my status on my profile about having HSV2. We all know STIs exist, but I don't see too much talk about it on this site or others. I've yet to see another profile that states they are HSV positive on this site. Im sure most people are afraid to admit their status. Herpes is the most common STI, most people who have it don't know it, because some people may never show symptoms, but can spread it without knowing. Most STI screenings don't even test for herpes, you have to ask for it. I've had it for 12 years now. I take anti virals on a daily basis, I haven't had an out break in 3 years. With condom use and anti virals, their is only a 0.5% chance I can pass it on. For prospective, If you had unprotected random sex with a stranger you have a 15-18% chance of catching an STI. The worst part about having herpes is the stigma associated with it. It's a non life threatening infection that is easily controlled. I've seen so many profiles that state all the sexual activities people engage in. Are these people using protection? Are they being safe? Are they not concerned about STIs? Do they just take the persons word that they are STI free? My question is, would you have a relationship of anykind ( sexual, just play partners) with someone who has HSV? If not, why? Because of the stigma? Fear of catching it? Their is still plenty of activities that you can engage that is safe for everyone. I guess I look at it like this, wouldn't you rather have a relationship with some who KNOWS they have HSV and take proper precautions, than taking someone's word that they are clean? Sorry for the length of this, I wanted to hopefully start a discussion about what people think about STIs, especially herpes. First off, kudos to you for being so open about this. It takes a brave person to do that and I for one respect you for doing so. Your question :"would you have a relationship of any kind ( sexual, just play partners) with someone who has HSV? If not, why? Because of the stigma? I certainly wouldn't have casual sex with someone who admitted to having HSV but I would play with them. Reasons… I am married and it would be irresponsible of me to risk catching something that I could then pass on to him. Also, like you, I would be very open about it and that is bound to limit play partners, even if we aren’t having sex. When me and mine got together we got tested for Hep, HIV and an array of STD's before having unprotected sex. Whilst awaiting the results we discussed how we would handle one or the other of us having HIV or Hep and we both knew that we couldn't let it ruin our relationship, even though our relationship was still only at the fledgling stage. I have regularly played with a friend of mine who has HIV. It makes little difference knowing he has this virus because I take the same precautions with other play mates as I do with him.
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