Its a real concern, at least for me. I was actually outed at work last month and lost a job I have held for 15 years. So, yeah, I worry about those.
Sorry to hear that!
I mean, most of us would definitely lose our jobs including me, if my boss knew I was into this lifestyle. It's definitely not something especially in my country you could live openly with.
So I guess it would make no difference because that's their general perception at the moment, and reality of the matter is, it is very difficult to tell if someone is a real predator or not when it comes to these things when it comes to the law and trying to protect the innocent. As it's hard to determine if it's consensual or not, since some consensual BDSM can get quite rough up.
So the nature of BDSM, makes it difficult to protect victims. And I don't really see it ever being fully accepted.
One of the reasons it is so hard to handle predators in the community and protecting the innocent is because of the negative perceptions. People don't come forward and talk about being assaulted, for fear of being outed themselves. Communities have to police themselves, which means that some predators will always be protected. It is hard to investigate something properly without the cooperation of people involved, and the people involved won't cooperate because of the fear of backlash. If we could get past that, get things at least a little more out in the open, it would be much easier to ensure a safe community.
But like you, I agree that it will never be fully accepted.
Unfortunately, I just "lost" a post because not saving the detailed thing I had written. Now, I'm doing the quick version.
I would IMPLORE people to read the data breakdowns of the surveys conducted during 2014 by NCSF. The data that was acquired is such a valuable resource that I can't begin to tell you it's worth.
While I don't consider T_W to be a "leader" by even the most simplistic definition, when one of the surveys asked responders the "who" part of the person who violated their consent, A FULL 20% said it was a leader. Munch organizer, presenter, producer, member of staff, etc.
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