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RE: worst thing your Dom/me can do - 8/15/2006 1:28:34 PM

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Here's my list, though many will be echoes of what has been said, in no particular order:
- To be ignored for no reason.
- Just to be ignored.
- To be released/left behind/abandoned.
- To not communicate with me.
- To not tell me what is going on when I am scared.
- To cause me harm/abuse.
- To pretend I do not exist.
- To be forgotten.
- To tell me he is disappointed with me.
- To lie to me.

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RE: worst thing your Dom/me can do - 8/15/2006 1:30:15 PM

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Spoken perfectly. Nearly exactly what I was going to say.

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the absolute worst is a toss-up between these two:

1. Lack of respect:
rationalizing the disrespect of their sub/slave by playing the "because I am the Dom/me" card.

2. Lack of Integrity:
misrepresenting themselves or their intentions thereby leading/fooling the sub/slave to believe that the relationship is something that it really isn't--either in the beginning or as time has gone by.

this slave doesn't consider punishment or discipline in degrees of "best" or "worst" in that Master is the one who chooses the implement and the method "best" for the situation that needs to be addressed.

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RE: worst thing your Dom/me can do - 8/17/2006 9:40:46 PM

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The worst thing is to not be true to herself. Whenever she is true to her desires and really demands what is in her most secret, dominant, unreasonable, evil (not really, just bad) heart of hearts, everthing is beautiful. When she tries to balance her need to dominate with some society imposed or self imposed limits regarding of what is proper, things fall apart.

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RE: worst thing your Dom/me can do - 8/18/2006 1:42:32 AM

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greetings to all

i read each and everyone of you post i am a domme and this made me see so much! going to far on the silent treatment is horrible to you all beatings go to far as well i had wrote a slave i had for consideration he was a wonderful thinker and so smart i adore him but he would not follow through on things . such call when i told him disreaspect in some ways. but i forgot one thing he is new to ans shy and nervous dates we not kept but now i see he was scared to death . i wrote him a letter that was now i see very mean and harsh to harsh he tried. when i read all of your rpely i see now i should had handle him in a different way. i did what many of you say hurts the most i ironge him for too long.

he would make anyone domme a wonderful slave my temper was in my way i should had waited a day and wrote something different. and i did something else you all said i told him i would not ever leave him and i did just that. i am not happy with me now and i wrote and told him what was really wrong.

you all have given me so much to think of and what really hurts and what is not always the best way to punish a person because this is what you are human with feeling that run deeper then most. thank all my eye are open and i will change what i do i will still have things and ways to handle submissve but it will and does not need to be cruel .

with respect to you all thank you again

mons

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RE: worst thing your Dom/me can do - 8/18/2006 1:53:12 AM

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I scare easy!! So beeing ignored is something I have over time respectfully asked the Doms I have been with not to be used as a punishment on me some people just cant handle it( My X Dom never used it on me because the one time he did I became such a reck it just wasnt worth undoing the upset the ignoreing had caused me and caused more harm to me then anything)... To me it is the worst thing in the world. So since that isnt really something that gets used on me ( I have left Doms for it because it isnt something I can handle) I would say the line "Im not mad Im disapointed" hits me right in the heart... LOL this makes me sound like a complete nut case doesnt it!?!?!?!

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RE: worst thing your Dom/me can do - 8/18/2006 8:48:23 PM

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I was surprised it took so long to post murder, lol.

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RE: worst thing your Dom/me can do - 8/19/2006 7:16:55 AM

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for them to tell me that conversations took place that i know damn good and well didnt.
then have them say they wish an intelligent slave.

yet when slave uses their intelligence in knowing that the conversation(s) didnt occur.............(time and time again)...to it is the point of the slave forgetting her place to prove an owner wrong because her future depends on it....showing the proof and still not being believed ....

well you get the picture

SOOOOOOOOOOOOO basically the worst thing an Owner can do to me
is insult my intelligence in a manner that
TOTALLY erodes the trust that is being built

< Message edited by fyreredsub -- 8/19/2006 7:53:45 AM >

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RE: worst thing your Dom/me can do - 8/19/2006 7:24:42 AM

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thats a good list

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RE: worst thing your Dom/me can do - 8/19/2006 7:45:23 AM

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my worst experience was having another female in the relationship that was to be building the bond and trust and training me, to totally play on my fears instead while allowing the master to think she was following his wishes and of course the new one never gets believed even when she is able to show proof*shrugs*

but i empathize with the 'having your fears played" and the Onwer knowing full well what is wrong and not doing anything to make it better and saying it is the slave.

and what truly sucks is so many times the slave will say they failed when in all reality that isnt the case.

master abandoned me to the womans wrath...he wears blinders so thick its a wonder he has any perceptions of his own and when i saw how out of control the female over me could get, i RAN like banshees were behind me and that is what it sounded like

reminds me of a bumper sitcker i saw not too long ago on my way to the airport
'if the wifes happy,i'm happy'

sometimes in poly one says they can share yet it is only there way not his way...sometimes the only way they can be comfortable with master having a slave at his feet..... is if that slave belongs to another Master and will go home at the end of the whatever with someone else.....and even then..........*chuckles*

the blinders are off....

....yet my heart does not forget....all that brought me under his spell of power to begin with and how wonderful it was at one time and the dreams that were weaved to capture me

being bound sucks in many ways because those dreams were NOT allowed to be realized

and he KNEW this ahead of time

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RE: worst thing your Dom/me can do - 8/19/2006 8:18:05 PM

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i feel one of the worst thing a Dom/me can do is leave a sub/slave scarred emotionally. subs/slaves don't forget - - ever.

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RE: worst thing your Dom/me can do - 8/19/2006 8:32:42 PM

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Cut off my genetals force me to eat it, then cut me up into cutlets and save me for later... That's the worst I could think of... then again there was that guy in germany who found someone to do it willingly

I could coupe with being ignored if I knew what to do to fix/attone for the situation; it'd probably drive me nuts if I didn't know what I did wrong.

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RE: worst thing your Dom/me can do - 8/19/2006 9:46:36 PM

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Another vote for being ignored.

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RE: worst thing your Dom/me can do - 8/21/2006 8:56:24 AM

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Being ignored.

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RE: worst thing your Dom/me can do - 8/22/2006 11:38:20 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: babyboyk

i was wondering what the worst thing a Dom/me can do to His/Her sub/slave. for me, i hate the cane, but, i have learnt to respect it, as i know ill get it , if i missbehave badly. just wondering what other peoples thoughts are on this topic.
babyboyk

For me, the worst thing my Dom could do was ignore me. i'm the type that stews in my own thoughts and i could spin an intricate scenario so fast it would make one's head spin ~chuckles~. When i've screwed up.. i generally have enough self-punishment to go around that He really wouldn't need to do much to additionally punish me.

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RE: worst thing your Dom/me can do - 8/22/2006 11:40:17 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: behindmirrors

Here's my list, though many will be echoes of what has been said, in no particular order:
- To be ignored for no reason.
- Just to be ignored.
- To be released/left behind/abandoned.
- To not communicate with me.
- To not tell me what is going on when I am scared.
- To cause me harm/abuse.
- To pretend I do not exist.
- To be forgotten.
- To tell me he is disappointed with me.
- To lie to me.

behindmirrors.

i have to say that i completely agree with your list.. all of those things would hurt and drive me crazy.

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RE: worst thing your Dom/me can do - 8/22/2006 7:39:11 PM

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I don't ask I tell them right up front, ignoreing me neglecting me or any other measure is grounds for dismissal.

quote:

ORIGINAL: BrokenDoll

I scare easy!! So beeing ignored is something I have over time respectfully asked the Doms I have been with not to be used as a punishment on me some people just cant handle it( My X Dom never used it on me because the one time he did I became such a reck it just wasnt worth undoing the upset the ignoreing had caused me and caused more harm to me then anything)... To me it is the worst thing in the world. So since that isnt really something that gets used on me ( I have left Doms for it because it isnt something I can handle) I would say the line "Im not mad Im disapointed" hits me right in the heart... LOL this makes me sound like a complete nut case doesnt it!?!?!?!

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RE: worst thing your Dom/me can do - 8/22/2006 7:44:00 PM

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My dad has a saying if momma aint happy, aint no one happy.

quote:

ORIGINAL: fyreredsub

bumper sitcker i saw not too long ago on my way to the airport
'if the wifes happy,i'm happy'

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RE: worst thing your Dom/me can do - 8/22/2006 7:47:13 PM

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I am a domme, and I was tld that the worst thing I have ever done to a pet was to stop talking to them. He did smoething I got very angry about, and rather than react right away, I got very quiet, sat on the opposite side of the couch and tried to cool off before deciding what should be done. He said it was the scariest thing I had ever done, worse than any punishment I had ever actually given him.

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RE: worst thing your Dom/me can do - 8/22/2006 8:59:46 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: kittensmailbox

Die

God, that's funny! Thanks for the giggle.

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RE: worst thing your Dom/me can do - 8/23/2006 2:44:10 PM

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Rip my collar off in a fit of anger.

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