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what makes a good slave? - 11/23/2017 8:39:43 AM   
gem7


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hello, i am gem7. while i have been a member for several years, this is my first time posting.
i am in training as slave 24/7. i wish to learn more about serving, to improve my service to Master.
so i am asking, what makes a good slave? what qualities and attributes do you value in a slave? i realize that each relationship, Master, and slave is unique, however, i want to be the best slave i can be for Master, and would appreciate any comments intended to help me improve my service. thankyou for your time.
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RE: what makes a good slave? - 11/24/2017 7:24:30 PM   
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Depends on who you ask.

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RE: what makes a good slave? - 11/24/2017 8:41:07 PM   
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I would suggest you ask him....after all he is the one you will be serving.

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RE: what makes a good slave? - 11/24/2017 9:53:06 PM   
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Really wanting to be will usually get you there if you don't give up.

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RE: what makes a good slave? - 11/25/2017 12:48:28 AM   
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A good slave is one that pleases their M type well.

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RE: what makes a good slave? - 11/25/2017 7:10:21 AM   
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I would suggest you ask him....after all he is the one you will be serving.


thank you. yes, i understand. and i do ask. while there are many instructions Master has given me, i guess i would like to learn more. i don't know anyone other than Master in this lifestyle, and thought maybe be able to surprise Him (smiling).

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RE: what makes a good slave? - 11/25/2017 7:19:37 AM   
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Really wanting to be will usually get you there if you don't give up.


thank you. ... i could feel my heart open as i read, 'really wanting to be' and how good i feel when i see Master happy. Your comment also had me thinking of times when my self esteem gets low, and my thinking effected, and i do sometimes feel like giving up. Master helped me long ago with a list to refer back to when i feel 'off track'. (initially started by Him, and continued by me). do you have any advice for slaves when they are experiencing times of self doubt?

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RE: what makes a good slave? - 11/25/2017 7:28:46 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

A good slave is one that pleases their M type well.


thank you for taking the time to respond. yes, pleasing Master is my priority.

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RE: what makes a good slave? - 11/25/2017 7:39:19 AM   
gem7


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ORIGINAL: ThatDizzyChick

Depends on who you ask.


thank you for taking the time to comment. i know that because we are all individuals, 'what makes a good slave' will be different for different folks. i posted this thread in the hopes of learning, expanding ....being a better slave. and i do know asking my Master is the first place to ask (and i do). and i do read online as well. There is so much experience shared in these threads, and i have experienced lots of 'ah ha' moments reading the forums here. guess i'm hoping to expand my knowledge and understanding, and have a few more 'ah ha' moments.

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RE: what makes a good slave? - 11/25/2017 10:06:21 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: gem7


quote:

ORIGINAL: tamaka

Really wanting to be will usually get you there if you don't give up.


thank you. ... i could feel my heart open as i read, 'really wanting to be' and how good i feel when i see Master happy. Your comment also had me thinking of times when my self esteem gets low, and my thinking effected, and i do sometimes feel like giving up. Master helped me long ago with a list to refer back to when i feel 'off track'. (initially started by Him, and continued by me). do you have any advice for slaves when they are experiencing times of self doubt?


I have finally learned to talk to my Master more about thoughts/feelings i'm having related to my own inner doubts or insecurities. I ask Him if i'm pleasing Him as much as former slaves He has owned. I ask Him if i am behaving the way that He wants me to at different times in different ways. Overall, i ask more with my current Master than i ever have with my previous Masters. My questions usually result in a good conversation between my Master and me that has helped us both continue to progress in positive ways in our M/s relationship.

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RE: what makes a good slave? - 11/25/2017 11:16:22 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: tamaka


quote:

ORIGINAL: gem7


quote:

ORIGINAL: tamaka

Really wanting to be will usually get you there if you don't give up.


thank you. ... i could feel my heart open as i read, 'really wanting to be' and how good i feel when i see Master happy. Your comment also had me thinking of times when my self esteem gets low, and my thinking effected, and i do sometimes feel like giving up. Master helped me long ago with a list to refer back to when i feel 'off track'. (initially started by Him, and continued by me). do you have any advice for slaves when they are experiencing times of self doubt?


I have finally learned to talk to my Master more about thoughts/feelings i'm having related to my own inner doubts or insecurities. I ask Him if i'm pleasing Him as much as former slaves He has owned. I ask Him if i am behaving the way that He wants me to at different times in different ways. Overall, i ask more with my current Master than i ever have with my previous Masters. My questions usually result in a good conversation between my Master and me that has helped us both continue to progress in positive ways in our M/s relationship.


thank you, i will definitely do this. i like how it puts the focus on pleasing Master. i believe one gets what they focus on, and asking Master, as you do, will help me focus on improvement rather than self doubt.

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RE: what makes a good slave? - 11/25/2017 6:22:23 PM   
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It took me about 6 months to get comfortable with the fact that I was pleasing my Sir. I was brand new to the lifestyle and dove right into a 24/7 relationship. He gave me his expectations and I fulfilled them - and if I didn't, he corrected me.

At some point you will trust your master to tell you what he wants and trust him when he tells you that you are doing well.

One thing I wouldn't do, because it screams insecurity and jealousy is to ask him to compare you to other subs/slaves.

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RE: what makes a good slave? - 11/25/2017 8:21:24 PM   
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ORIGINAL: kiwisub22

It took me about 6 months to get comfortable with the fact that I was pleasing my Sir. I was brand new to the lifestyle and dove right into a 24/7 relationship. He gave me his expectations and I fulfilled them - and if I didn't, he corrected me.

At some point you will trust your master to tell you what he wants and trust him when he tells you that you are doing well.

One thing I wouldn't do, because it screams insecurity and jealousy is to ask him to compare you to other subs/slaves.


What a small mind you have.

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RE: what makes a good slave? - 11/26/2017 6:23:03 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: kiwisub22

It took me about 6 months to get comfortable with the fact that I was pleasing my Sir. I was brand new to the lifestyle and dove right into a 24/7 relationship. He gave me his expectations and I fulfilled them - and if I didn't, he corrected me.

At some point you will trust your master to tell you what he wants and trust him when he tells you that you are doing well.

One thing I wouldn't do, because it screams insecurity and jealousy is to ask him to compare you to other subs/slaves.


thank you, kiwisub22. i was introduced to this lifestyle 6 years ago by my Master. and i was brand new to this lifestyle. we began on line, and after visiting back and forth, moved in together. W/we lived together on the westcoast for three years, and now W/we have recently arrived in Ontario. Master has given me His expectations. over time, additional expectations have been added. i don't really get told if i am doing well, but have been told to pay attention to cause and effect, and Master corrects me. i have been told to find the joy in service as my reward. i came in with trust issues, and work to develop trust (which i do/am). thank you for your response, as i do go through periods of insecurity and jealousy so i think i will hold off asking to be compared to others. for me, what's important is how i am doing, am i pleasing Master and Master has advised me that His relationships with other people, are exactly that...with other people, and not my concern. that my concern is His relationship with me.

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RE: what makes a good slave? - 11/26/2017 12:06:18 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: tamaka


quote:

ORIGINAL: kiwisub22

It took me about 6 months to get comfortable with the fact that I was pleasing my Sir. I was brand new to the lifestyle and dove right into a 24/7 relationship. He gave me his expectations and I fulfilled them - and if I didn't, he corrected me.

At some point you will trust your master to tell you what he wants and trust him when he tells you that you are doing well.

One thing I wouldn't do, because it screams insecurity and jealousy is to ask him to compare you to other subs/slaves.


What a small mind you have.



and how helpful you are........

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RE: what makes a good slave? - 11/26/2017 12:08:03 PM   
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Oh dear - I just read tamaka's post and realise that i just basically called her insecure and jealous. No wonder she was snarky......oops, my bad!


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RE: what makes a good slave? - 11/26/2017 12:35:49 PM   
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Oh dear - I just read tamaka's post and realise that i just basically called her insecure and jealous. No wonder she was snarky......oops, my bad!




No you didn't. You just assumed that everyone is like you.

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RE: what makes a good slave? - 11/26/2017 1:57:04 PM   
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Now, you see, if you had posted that the first time, without the snark, it would have been much more helpful. And you are right - not everyone is like me. And comparing myself to other significant others would be a sign of insecurity and jealousy - for me. For you, apparently, not so much.

I would say you are more evolved than me, except you feel the need to slang at people rather than try to help.

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RE: what makes a good slave? - 11/26/2017 2:16:07 PM   
tamaka


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Now, you see, if you had posted that the first time, without the snark, it would have been much more helpful. And you are right - not everyone is like me. And comparing myself to other significant others would be a sign of insecurity and jealousy - for me. For you, apparently, not so much.

I would say you are more evolved than me, except you feel the need to slang at people rather than try to help.


I'd say i helped pretty well. Sorry if you don't appreciate my straight-forward style. But that's also your problem, not mine.

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RE: what makes a good slave? - 11/26/2017 4:44:19 PM   
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Your straight forward style isn't the problem - the problem was that i had no idea what you found to be a problem in my original post. So, basically, your lack of communication skills on-line would be the problem. Unfortunately, i couldn't hear the rest of the conversation in your head to explain your post.

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