It took me about 6 months to get comfortable with the fact that I was pleasing my Sir. I was brand new to the lifestyle and dove right into a 24/7 relationship. He gave me his expectations and I fulfilled them - and if I didn't, he corrected me.
At some point you will trust your master to tell you what he wants and trust him when he tells you that you are doing well.
One thing I wouldn't do, because it screams insecurity and jealousy is to ask him to compare you to other subs/slaves.
thank you, kiwisub22. i was introduced to this lifestyle 6 years ago by my Master. and i was brand new to this lifestyle. we began on line, and after visiting back and forth, moved in together. W/we lived together on the westcoast for three years, and now W/we have recently arrived in Ontario. Master has given me His expectations. over time, additional expectations have been added. i don't really get told if i am doing well, but have been told to pay attention to cause and effect, and Master corrects me. i have been told to find the joy in service as my reward. i came in with trust issues, and work to develop trust (which i do/am). thank you for your response, as i do go through periods of insecurity and jealousy so i think i will hold off asking to be compared to others. for me, what's important is how i am doing, am i pleasing Master and Master has advised me that His relationships with other people, are exactly that...with other people, and not my concern. that my concern is His relationship with me.