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You are absolutely right. A very terrible message. To pre-write a message before you have even met someone is about the worst idea you can come up with.

Here is a clue, women DO NOT LIKE canned messages. They want to know that you are interested in them as a person. You message says nothing as to why you are interested in the person. What about their profile attracted you to them? What about their profile interested you? What about their profile makes you think the two of you have something in common to share.

BDSM is no different than courting a vanilla woman. Women want to be courted. So forget pre-written messages and go interact with a real person.

It may be a terrible message, but it was not pre-written. You are assuming, but you are new to the thread. Say it again and I will not be polite about it.

What about the profile? The "typical day". The emphasis on oral, watersports and sadism that made me think we were very compatible. Her skill for intellectual discourse. Wanting autonomy. I don't want a mindless slave who is rarely smarter than me. I want to learn from my partner. I want to admire her mind. Her drive to become educated was attractive to me.

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ORIGINAL: Wayward5oul

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ORIGINAL: Spellbinder83

Eviscerate was not an invitation for judgement. It was just meant to encourage replies. This is ask a Master, not Extreme Humiliation & Degradation.

From yourdictionary.com

eviscerate
To remove the entrails of; disembowel.
To take away a vital or essential part of; weaken, damage, or destroy:

Nest time you might want to choose your words more carefully before soliciting others' opinions.

I dont care what the official definition is, it was a metaphor. Continue to twist my words and you can forget your apology.

If you can't acknowledge that you were wrong about something, without it being conditional upon later perceived events, then it isn't an apology.

At this point, I could care less. I know what I said, or in this case didn't say, and I stand by it.

Your posts speak for themselves. They should be enlightening to anyone who is considering letting you control them.

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There is a distinction between acknowledging fault and apologizing. I never said I wouldn't acknowledge fault. When presented with evidence, I admit I am wrong.

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You can talk your way out of one with a disrespectful mouth.

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I am a responsible practitioner of hypnosis.

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If you no longer want an apology, you have no reason to be here.

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

<Waves to the folks from Spectators Only, No Participants.>

How are you folks doing? Are you enjoying the holiday season? I hope you're having fun with the show.

Oh, OP, you must be a little lost right about now. The above means that your thread has been 'spotted' from the people on another site who are laughing at this shite right now.

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ORIGINAL: MsLadySue

Because someone had to tell you what a fool you're making of yourself. I know you don't care because you think you're hot sh*t. Keep on being you and get nowhere just like you have so far.

You asked for advice, and instead of us patting you on the back and saying, "there, there everything will be okay," people provided advice then all you've done is bitch and stomp your feet. Grow up, learn to take constructive criticism like an adult, not like a petulant child. Better still, just close your account, you haven't got what it takes to be a dom.

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ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

You said you were "trying to be nice and make friends." You even seem sincere, a nice guy trying to interact within our forum framework and rules because you asked if "it within the rules to link one [profile]" in an attempt to explain the creepy context of your letter being written "to her profile." Those two things are why I am giving you a reply.

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.......... Sincerely dude, to most readers, that letter just looks like some genuine stalker shit. You haven't met her or even talked to her once and you're already telling her "sure", we don't match but I will change you. TPE isn't for everyone and is a major point of mismatch conflict if you don't mesh. In your letter you didn't say one thing about why you liked her as a person. You only focused on your kink, your "expectations" and some bizarre stuff about a married Asian girl's service where you "just close my eyes and enjoy her serving me."

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70 words telling them your expectations
122 words telling them what the relationship rule will be
97 words describing your weird married Asian nurse sex fantasy

You counted my words? Well now I know why you keep a creepy van handy.

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In your replies, we have learned nothing specific about why you liked her.

This is long, so maybe you were typing when I did answer this question.

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It is as if she doesn't matter, which is also the tone of your letter. She... the target of your letter, was inconsequential to your fantasy desires. Your letter is all about the kink, a fantasy... not the person you are perusing.

That is fair. The letter's tone can be perceived that way.

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Whether you realize it or not, saying "... they sent an extremely submissive Asian girl. She has an intense desire to please and goes above and beyond, offering to do things" sounds sexual. And if this Asian wife isn't sucking your cock, it sounds like you fantasize about it.

That is judgemental as hell and not true. We are friends and I go out of my way to keep things platonic. She is excellent at her job and I don't want them to send one that isn't dependable. Calls for respecting her are laughable. You don't want to respect her. You just want to make me look bad. And in all this you make her an object in some fantasy. Every one of you who has suggested such a thing is despicable.

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Sending a letter to someone you never met, telling them how your "search may be over"

Regret that part. Covered it already.

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wank fantasy about your married Asian nurse

Over the line.

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After you get a tempered response explaining your letter was creepy (it truly is).

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You try to sway the the their opinion offering to PM a link to a profile. They ask you not to PM them. "no need to link it or send it in a personal message. I don't engage in discussions off the forums with people I don't know." 10 minutes later you ignored their request request and forced your message upon them anyway. Anyone else starting to see pattern here? Wow... can you set off anymore creepy stalker dude red flags?

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Dude, the tantrum you threw in your replies, your insistence of imposing your fantasy on another, your lack of respect by imposing an unwanted PM on a forum member, the flounce, all make it seems like you have serious issues. This is apparent to all off us reading this. You are delusional if you think you "have control." Your actions show you have lost the struggle with your out of control emotions. Seriously, if you ever want to develop a relationship, you need to be relationship worthy. That means some inner growth is needed on your part.

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When you are emotionally strong enough to recognize that you have flaws and you're willing to grow, compensate and make changes in yourself, then you will be on the path to becoming relationship ready. But the emotional mess you are in now is so apparent, even the Internet can see it in what little you have written here.

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Yup... that was free advice telling someone else how to live. My bad indeed. Your life is the result of your choices. Hope you make good ones. Best wishes.

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Holy f^ck!!! I might piddle!!

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

<FR>

I simply must.

Waves back again. Hallo!!!

You made pumpkin pie today? Dreadful stuff. However, I was quite taken with the idea of cornbread stuffing..




Now, for the good stuff...

Ya know, OP, it occurs to me that's how you connect with people and start talking to them. I'm half willing to bet that I could write that charming girl right now, ask her question about pumpkin pie or how she makes cornbread stuffing, and because I'd be talking to her like a human, she'd respond. She might even smile.

It never ceases to amaze me that you so-called male Dominants can't grasp such things as ordinary conversation. <SMH>

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ORIGINAL: Spellbinder83
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ORIGINAL: DocStrange

You are absolutely right. A very terrible message. To pre-write a message before you have even met someone is about the worst idea you can come up with.

Here is a clue, women DO NOT LIKE canned messages. They want to know that you are interested in them as a person. You message says nothing as to why you are interested in the person. What about their profile attracted you to them? What about their profile interested you? What about their profile makes you think the two of you have something in common to share.

BDSM is no different than courting a vanilla woman. Women want to be courted. So forget pre-written messages and go interact with a real person.

It may be a terrible message, but it was not pre-written. You are assuming, but you are new to the thread. Say it again and I will not be polite about it.

What about the profile? The "typical day". The emphasis on oral, watersports and sadism that made me think we were very compatible. Her skill for intellectual discourse. Wanting autonomy. I don't want a mindless slave who is rarely smarter than me. I want to learn from my partner. I want to admire her mind. Her drive to become educated was attractive to me.

Here are the facts:
You asked for peoples input
People gave you the input your message was terrible
You attacked the people whom you asked for input after they told you the message was terrible
If you do not like the answer, do not ask the question

You can either choose to learn from the input you had asked for or you can continue to act like to 5 years old child who did not get his way. The choice is yours.

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

<FR>

I simply must.

Waves back again. Hallo!!!

You made pumpkin pie today? Dreadful stuff. However, I was quite taken with the idea of cornbread stuffing..




Now, for the good stuff...

Ya know, OP, it occurs to me that's how you connect with people and start talking to them. I'm half willing to bet that I could write that charming girl right now, ask her question about pumpkin pie or how she makes cornbread stuffing, and because I'd be talking to her like a human, she'd respond. She might even smile.

It never ceases to amaze me that you so-called male Dominants can't grasp such things as ordinary conversation. <SMH>

I already talked to her. And yes, she smiled immediately! Very friendly.

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70 words telling them your expectations
122 words telling them what the relationship rule will be
97 words describing your weird married Asian nurse sex fantasy

You counted my words? ...

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It is as if she doesn't matter, which is also the tone of your letter. She... the target of your letter, was inconsequential to your fantasy desires. Your letter is all about the kink, a fantasy... not the person you are perusing.

That is fair. The letter's tone can be perceived that way.

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Whether you realize it or not, saying "... they sent an extremely submissive Asian girl. She has an intense desire to please and goes above and beyond, offering to do things" sounds sexual. And if this Asian wife isn't sucking your cock, it sounds like you fantasize about it.

That is judgemental as hell and not true. We are friends and I go out of my way to keep things platonic. She is excellent at her job and I don't want them to send one that isn't dependable. Calls for respecting her are laughable. You don't want to respect her. You just want to make me look bad. And in all this you make her an object in some fantasy. Every one of you who has suggested such a thing is despicable.

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Sending a letter to someone you never met, telling them how your "search may be over"

Regret that part. Covered it already.

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wank fantasy about your married Asian nurse

Over the line.

Because you missed my point, I will explain it further. Mentioning that you have home care and a nurse is one thing. Any details should be about the extent of care or your needs. But telling someone the race, submissive personality traits "the intense desire to please and goes above and beyond, offering to do things...", explaining her level of physical attractiveness and marital status of your of your nurse... well, that sounds like obsession. When someone is obsessed, they may not see how far out of context their actions and comments are. Lets take a poll about your nurse comments. Does it bring to mind pic A or B?



So your righteous high horse and "despicable" response doesn't fly well after reading your feelings about your submissively beautiful married Asian nurse. You got some creepy issues for mentioning all that shit about your nurse... in your first letter to a stranger. Don't you see the mental image you are projecting? You come off sounding fantasy obsessed. You are flipping the reader's creepy red flag alerts with talk like that, which is your fault, not mine.

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The letter itself negates you as potential relationship material. The only thing you left out is how this stranger you wrote will make a good Stepford wife, shitting your babies out into the waiting arms of your cocksucking married Asian nurse.

I'm pretty sure she knows nothing of BDSM but if she did you would owe her an apology. You gonna whore her out too? Fuck you are nasty.

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

RS, I'm kinda thinking you're a really cool dude right about now. <wink>