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RE: Terrible Message? - 12/24/2017 1:57:42 PM   
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Because someone had to tell you what a fool you're making of yourself. I know you don't care because you think you're hot sh*t. Keep on being you and get nowhere just like you have so far.

You asked for advice, and instead of us patting you on the back and saying, "there, there everything will be okay," people provided advice then all you've done is bitch and stomp your feet. Grow up, learn to take constructive criticism like an adult, not like a petulant child. Better still, just close your account, you haven't got what it takes to be a dom.

< Message edited by MsLadySue -- 12/24/2017 1:58:40 PM >


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RE: Terrible Message? - 12/24/2017 2:27:34 PM   
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You said you were "trying to be nice and make friends." You even seem sincere, a nice guy trying to interact within our forum framework and rules because you asked if "it within the rules to link one [profile]" in an attempt to explain the creepy context of your letter being written "to her profile." Those two things are why I am giving you a reply.

.......... Sincerely dude, to most readers, that letter just looks like some genuine stalker shit. You haven't met her or even talked to her once and you're already telling her "sure", we don't match but I will change you. TPE isn't for everyone and is a major point of mismatch conflict if you don't mesh. In your letter you didn't say one thing about why you liked her as a person. You only focused on your kink, your "expectations" and some bizarre stuff about a married Asian girl's service where you "just close my eyes and enjoy her serving me."

Your letter didn't mention one thing in specific that you liked about them. Why should they respond if you don't tell them you like them? You spent:
70 words telling them your expectations
122 words telling them what the relationship rule will be
97 words describing your weird married Asian nurse sex fantasy

In your replies, we have learned nothing specific about why you liked her. It is as if she doesn't matter, which is also the tone of your letter. She... the target of your letter, was inconsequential to your fantasy desires. Your letter is all about the kink, a fantasy... not the person you are perusing. Whether you realize it or not, saying "... they sent an extremely submissive Asian girl. She has an intense desire to please and goes above and beyond, offering to do things" sounds sexual. And if this Asian wife isn't sucking your cock, it sounds like you fantasize about it.

Sending a letter to someone you never met, telling them how your "search may be over" on one hand while laying out the details of your wank fantasy about your married Asian nurse on the other hand might not warrant a reply. The letter itself negates you as potential relationship material. The only thing you left out is how this stranger you wrote will make a good Stepford wife, shitting your babies out into the waiting arms of your cocksucking married Asian nurse.

Asking for our opinion of this creepy letter, brought a predictable responce, " creepy and I would delete any such message immediately." Not exactly the evisceration you asked us for. To me, the only thing missing in your letter was an offer to pick her up for your date in a creepy white van.




After you get a tempered response explaining your letter was creepy (it truly is). You try to sway the the their opinion offering to PM a link to a profile. They ask you not to PM them. "no need to link it or send it in a personal message. I don't engage in discussions off the forums with people I don't know." 10 minutes later you ignored their request request and forced your message upon them anyway. Anyone else starting to see pattern here? Wow... can you set off anymore creepy stalker dude red flags?




Dude, the tantrum you threw in your replies, your insistence of imposing your fantasy on another, your lack of respect by imposing an unwanted PM on a forum member, the flounce, all make it seems like you have serious issues. This is apparent to all off us reading this. You are delusional if you think you "have control." Your actions show you have lost the struggle with your out of control emotions. Seriously, if you ever want to develop a relationship, you need to be relationship worthy. That means some inner growth is needed on your part.

Dominants need to be in control of themselves before they can inspire someone else to let them take control. Whether an inconsequential quirk or a personality flaw, we are all broken to some degree, in some way or another. It's nothing to be shamed of or hide, but it is something that should be recognized and dealt with. Whether professional therapy, a good self help book or just some good unbiased self analytical introspection ... it is something you should deal with.

When you are emotionally strong enough to recognize that you have flaws and you're willing to grow, compensate and make changes in yourself, then you will be on the path to becoming relationship ready. But the emotional mess you are in now is so apparent, even the Internet can see it in what little you have written here.

Yup... that was free advice telling someone else how to live. My bad indeed. Your life is the result of your choices. Hope you make good ones. Best wishes.

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RE: Terrible Message? - 12/24/2017 2:28:41 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Spellbinder83
*snip*

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ORIGINAL: DocStrange

You are absolutely right. A very terrible message. To pre-write a message before you have even met someone is about the worst idea you can come up with.

Here is a clue, women DO NOT LIKE canned messages. They want to know that you are interested in them as a person. You message says nothing as to why you are interested in the person. What about their profile attracted you to them? What about their profile interested you? What about their profile makes you think the two of you have something in common to share.

BDSM is no different than courting a vanilla woman. Women want to be courted. So forget pre-written messages and go interact with a real person.

It may be a terrible message, but it was not pre-written. You are assuming, but you are new to the thread. Say it again and I will not be polite about it.

What about the profile? The "typical day". The emphasis on oral, watersports and sadism that made me think we were very compatible. Her skill for intellectual discourse. Wanting autonomy. I don't want a mindless slave who is rarely smarter than me. I want to learn from my partner. I want to admire her mind. Her drive to become educated was attractive to me.


Here are the facts:
You asked for peoples input
People gave you the input your message was terrible
You attacked the people whom you asked for input after they told you the message was terrible
If you do not like the answer, do not ask the question

You can either choose to learn from the input you had asked for or you can continue to act like to 5 years old child who did not get his way. The choice is yours.


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RE: Terrible Message? - 12/24/2017 3:13:54 PM   
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RS, I'm kinda thinking you're a really cool dude right about now. <wink>



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RE: Terrible Message? - 12/24/2017 3:29:54 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Wayward5oul


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ORIGINAL: Spellbinder83

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ORIGINAL: Wayward5oul
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ORIGINAL: Spellbinder83

Eviscerate was not an invitation for judgement. It was just meant to encourage replies. This is ask a Master, not Extreme Humiliation & Degradation.


From yourdictionary.com

eviscerate
To remove the entrails of; disembowel.
To take away a vital or essential part of; weaken, damage, or destroy:

Nest time you might want to choose your words more carefully before soliciting others' opinions.
I dont care what the official definition is, it was a metaphor. Continue to twist my words and you can forget your apology.

If you can't acknowledge that you were wrong about something, without it being conditional upon later perceived events, then it isn't an apology.

At this point, I could care less. I know what I said, or in this case didn't say, and I stand by it.

Your posts speak for themselves. They should be enlightening to anyone who is considering letting you control them.



There is a distinction between acknowledging fault and apologizing. I never said I wouldn't acknowledge fault. When presented with evidence, I admit I am wrong.

However, apologies do not exist in a vacuum. They don't give you licence to say whatever you want about a person until they deliver. You can talk your way out of one with a disrespectful mouth.

I am a responsible practitioner of hypnosis. If you no longer want an apology, you have no reason to be here.

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RE: Terrible Message? - 12/24/2017 3:42:05 PM   
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There is a distinction between acknowledging fault and apologizing. I never said I wouldn't acknowledge fault. When presented with evidence, I admit I am wrong.


Oh, the evidence is there. As you yourself have stated, you just haven't bothered to look. Because you can't admit fault. This whole thread is evidence of that.

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You can talk your way out of one with a disrespectful mouth.


As I have already said, I could care less. My disrespectful mouth will say and do what it wants, irregardless of anything you say. That should be apparent by now.



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I am a responsible practitioner of hypnosis.


WTF does that have to do with anything???

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If you no longer want an apology, you have no reason to be here.


Oh, I have all kinds of reason to be here. This shit is entertaining, especially as I have some time to kill before family comes over for the holiday.

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RE: Terrible Message? - 12/24/2017 3:45:16 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

<Waves to the folks from Spectators Only, No Participants.>

How are you folks doing? Are you enjoying the holiday season? I hope you're having fun with the show.

Oh, OP, you must be a little lost right about now. The above means that your thread has been 'spotted' from the people on another site who are laughing at this shite right now.



The thread title over there is freakin' hilarious.

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RE: Terrible Message? - 12/24/2017 3:57:15 PM   
Spellbinder83


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ORIGINAL: MsLadySue

Because someone had to tell you what a fool you're making of yourself. I know you don't care because you think you're hot sh*t. Keep on being you and get nowhere just like you have so far.

You asked for advice, and instead of us patting you on the back and saying, "there, there everything will be okay," people provided advice then all you've done is bitch and stomp your feet. Grow up, learn to take constructive criticism like an adult, not like a petulant child. Better still, just close your account, you haven't got what it takes to be a dom.

If I think I'm hot shit WHY WOULD I ASK FOR OPINIONS in the first place? Use that gray matter between your ears. It's for thinking.

For the last time I'm angry because of being mistreated not from your advice. She rejected me. It's OVER. I. Don't. Care. Reading comprehension. Learn it.

A mod on another forum had a personal vendetta against me and banned me for no reason. I explained the circumstances to the group leader. He reinstated me instantly and promised to speak to the mod. Now, I told that little story, but I bet all you took away from it was that I got in trouble somewhere else. Watch.

And that crack about not being a dom? Fuck you.

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RE: Terrible Message? - 12/24/2017 4:20:35 PM   
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Holy f^ck!!! I might piddle!!


Thank you, OP, for being such a Christmas JOKE.


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RE: Terrible Message? - 12/24/2017 5:47:21 PM   
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<FR>

I simply must.

Waves back again. Hallo!!!

You made pumpkin pie today? Dreadful stuff. However, I was quite taken with the idea of cornbread stuffing..




Now, for the good stuff...

Ya know, OP, it occurs to me that's how you connect with people and start talking to them. I'm half willing to bet that I could write that charming girl right now, ask her question about pumpkin pie or how she makes cornbread stuffing, and because I'd be talking to her like a human, she'd respond. She might even smile.

It never ceases to amaze me that you so-called male Dominants can't grasp such things as ordinary conversation. <SMH>


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RE: Terrible Message? - 12/24/2017 5:54:31 PM   
Spellbinder83


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ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

You said you were "trying to be nice and make friends." You even seem sincere, a nice guy trying to interact within our forum framework and rules because you asked if "it within the rules to link one [profile]" in an attempt to explain the creepy context of your letter being written "to her profile." Those two things are why I am giving you a reply.

quote:

.......... Sincerely dude, to most readers, that letter just looks like some genuine stalker shit. You haven't met her or even talked to her once and you're already telling her "sure", we don't match but I will change you. TPE isn't for everyone and is a major point of mismatch conflict if you don't mesh. In your letter you didn't say one thing about why you liked her as a person. You only focused on your kink, your "expectations" and some bizarre stuff about a married Asian girl's service where you "just close my eyes and enjoy her serving me."

quote:

70 words telling them your expectations
122 words telling them what the relationship rule will be
97 words describing your weird married Asian nurse sex fantasy

You counted my words? Well now I know why you keep a creepy van handy.

quote:

In your replies, we have learned nothing specific about why you liked her.


This is long, so maybe you were typing when I did answer this question.

quote:

It is as if she doesn't matter, which is also the tone of your letter. She... the target of your letter, was inconsequential to your fantasy desires. Your letter is all about the kink, a fantasy... not the person you are perusing.


That is fair. The letter's tone can be perceived that way.

quote:

Whether you realize it or not, saying "... they sent an extremely submissive Asian girl. She has an intense desire to please and goes above and beyond, offering to do things" sounds sexual. And if this Asian wife isn't sucking your cock, it sounds like you fantasize about it.


That is judgemental as hell and not true. We are friends and I go out of my way to keep things platonic. She is excellent at her job and I don't want them to send one that isn't dependable. Calls for respecting her are laughable. You don't want to respect her. You just want to make me look bad. And in all this you make her an object in some fantasy. Every one of you who has suggested such a thing is despicable.

quote:

Sending a letter to someone you never met, telling them how your "search may be over"

Regret that part. Covered it already.

quote:

wank fantasy about your married Asian nurse

Over the line.

The letter itself negates you as potential relationship material. The only thing you left out is how this stranger you wrote will make a good Stepford wife, shitting your babies out into the waiting arms of your cocksucking married Asian nurse.

I'm pretty sure she knows nothing of BDSM but if she did you would owe her an apology. You gonna whore her out too? Fuck you are nasty.


quote:

After you get a tempered response explaining your letter was creepy (it truly is).

YOU ARE CREEPY. Look at all the different fantasies you came up with from a letter.

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You try to sway the the their opinion offering to PM a link to a profile. They ask you not to PM them. "no need to link it or send it in a personal message. I don't engage in discussions off the forums with people I don't know." 10 minutes later you ignored their request request and forced your message upon them anyway. Anyone else starting to see pattern here? Wow... can you set off anymore creepy stalker dude red flags?
I sent the PM BEFORE she made the post. I didn't send her another. So maybe this entire paragraph is WRONG?



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Dude, the tantrum you threw in your replies, your insistence of imposing your fantasy on another, your lack of respect by imposing an unwanted PM on a forum member, the flounce, all make it seems like you have serious issues. This is apparent to all off us reading this. You are delusional if you think you "have control." Your actions show you have lost the struggle with your out of control emotions. Seriously, if you ever want to develop a relationship, you need to be relationship worthy. That means some inner growth is needed on your part.

From mistreatment, was relating (and I don't fantasize about her), Is an unprompted PM really so disrespectful? If it offends so much just delete it) I got one today and wasn't offended in the slightest; take the stick out of your ass, at least you taught me something useful - that flounce is a word.I am in control but that doesn't fit your narrative. So I'm "out-of-control". Use your cam and call me. I welcome you to call it if you think its a bluff. That goes for ANYONE. Not bluffing. Make a throwaway account. And you can PM me for contact info. Since permission for a silly PM is a big deal. I might be composing a message or in a call so be patient. I have kik, skype, google hangouts, telegram, and FB messenger. If I dont get a call, all of you saying I'm out of control have to leave the thread.

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When you are emotionally strong enough to recognize that you have flaws and you're willing to grow, compensate and make changes in yourself, then you will be on the path to becoming relationship ready. But the emotional mess you are in now is so apparent, even the Internet can see it in what little you have written here.


If I accepted the opinion of people here, I'd never be deemed "ready" for a relationship. There would always be something wrong with me.

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Yup... that was free advice telling someone else how to live. My bad indeed. Your life is the result of your choices. Hope you make good ones. Best wishes.

Your free "advice" is laughable and rings hollow. Half of it is made up sex fantasies you've tried to blame me for. At least the images were

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RE: Terrible Message? - 12/24/2017 5:57:03 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Holy f^ck!!! I might piddle!!


Be sure you do a handstand first.

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RE: Terrible Message? - 12/24/2017 5:58:45 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

<FR>

I simply must.

Waves back again. Hallo!!!

You made pumpkin pie today? Dreadful stuff. However, I was quite taken with the idea of cornbread stuffing..




Now, for the good stuff...

Ya know, OP, it occurs to me that's how you connect with people and start talking to them. I'm half willing to bet that I could write that charming girl right now, ask her question about pumpkin pie or how she makes cornbread stuffing, and because I'd be talking to her like a human, she'd respond. She might even smile.

It never ceases to amaze me that you so-called male Dominants can't grasp such things as ordinary conversation. <SMH>


I already talked to her. And yes, she smiled immediately! Very friendly.

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RE: Terrible Message? - 12/24/2017 6:01:20 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: DocStrange


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ORIGINAL: Spellbinder83
*snip*

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ORIGINAL: DocStrange

You are absolutely right. A very terrible message. To pre-write a message before you have even met someone is about the worst idea you can come up with.

Here is a clue, women DO NOT LIKE canned messages. They want to know that you are interested in them as a person. You message says nothing as to why you are interested in the person. What about their profile attracted you to them? What about their profile interested you? What about their profile makes you think the two of you have something in common to share.

BDSM is no different than courting a vanilla woman. Women want to be courted. So forget pre-written messages and go interact with a real person.

It may be a terrible message, but it was not pre-written. You are assuming, but you are new to the thread. Say it again and I will not be polite about it.

What about the profile? The "typical day". The emphasis on oral, watersports and sadism that made me think we were very compatible. Her skill for intellectual discourse. Wanting autonomy. I don't want a mindless slave who is rarely smarter than me. I want to learn from my partner. I want to admire her mind. Her drive to become educated was attractive to me.


Here are the facts:
You asked for peoples input
People gave you the input your message was terrible
You attacked the people whom you asked for input after they told you the message was terrible
If you do not like the answer, do not ask the question

You can either choose to learn from the input you had asked for or you can continue to act like to 5 years old child who did not get his way. The choice is yours.


I answered this already. Read the thread you imbecile.

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RE: Terrible Message? - 12/24/2017 6:04:01 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Wayward5oul


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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

<FR>

I simply must.

Waves back again. Hallo!!!

You made pumpkin pie today? Dreadful stuff. However, I was quite taken with the idea of cornbread stuffing..




Now, for the good stuff...

Ya know, OP, it occurs to me that's how you connect with people and start talking to them. I'm half willing to bet that I could write that charming girl right now, ask her question about pumpkin pie or how she makes cornbread stuffing, and because I'd be talking to her like a human, she'd respond. She might even smile.

It never ceases to amaze me that you so-called male Dominants can't grasp such things as ordinary conversation. <SMH>


I already talked to her. And yes, she smiled immediately! Very friendly.

I talked to her too. She sent a polite rejection message. I didn't post it cause that's against the rules.

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RE: Terrible Message? - 12/24/2017 7:16:28 PM   
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Never write a cold call to a woman based on your sexual desires. We need to establish vanilla compatibility first or we will never be interested in anything to do with your dick.

And I challenge you to print this thread out and give it to your therapist to read.

You keep saying you don’t come across as rage filled. The problem is that’s all we’re seeing, rage.

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RE: Terrible Message? - 12/24/2017 8:07:23 PM   
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The raging, petulant little boy strikes again. You are a Christmas joke, just as LadyPact mentioned. Somebody the little boy needs it for his butt hurt.

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RE: Terrible Message? - 12/24/2017 9:08:12 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Spellbinder83
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70 words telling them your expectations
122 words telling them what the relationship rule will be
97 words describing your weird married Asian nurse sex fantasy

You counted my words? ...

Nope, my software does that.

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It is as if she doesn't matter, which is also the tone of your letter. She... the target of your letter, was inconsequential to your fantasy desires. Your letter is all about the kink, a fantasy... not the person you are perusing.

That is fair. The letter's tone can be perceived that way.

Often I have to think about what I write and how it can be taken wrong, to find a way to say something that only conveys what I intended.

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Whether you realize it or not, saying "... they sent an extremely submissive Asian girl. She has an intense desire to please and goes above and beyond, offering to do things" sounds sexual. And if this Asian wife isn't sucking your cock, it sounds like you fantasize about it.


That is judgemental as hell and not true. We are friends and I go out of my way to keep things platonic. She is excellent at her job and I don't want them to send one that isn't dependable. Calls for respecting her are laughable. You don't want to respect her. You just want to make me look bad. And in all this you make her an object in some fantasy. Every one of you who has suggested such a thing is despicable.


Despicable me for thinking that indeed. So exactly what service does she render that make you want to "just close my eyes and enjoy her serving me"... I don't know about the rest of you, but I would appreciate that being cleared up. I have never had a nurse do anything that made me want to close my eyes and enjoy it. But my limited nurse interactions involve them coming at me with needles, medicine and medical instruments. None of which I enjoyed. Although your interactions with your nurse are obviously different, you sound obsessed with her and telling that chick about it in your letter was TMI to a creepy level.




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Sending a letter to someone you never met, telling them how your "search may be over"

Regret that part. Covered it already.


Hindsight . . . glad you have that ability. Kudos to you.

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wank fantasy about your married Asian nurse

Over the line.


Because you missed my point, I will explain it further. Mentioning that you have home care and a nurse is one thing. Any details should be about the extent of care or your needs. But telling someone the race, submissive personality traits "the intense desire to please and goes above and beyond, offering to do things...", explaining her level of physical attractiveness and marital status of your of your nurse... well, that sounds like obsession. When someone is obsessed, they may not see how far out of context their actions and comments are. Lets take a poll about your nurse comments. Does it bring to mind pic A or B?



So your righteous high horse and "despicable" response doesn't fly well after reading your feelings about your submissively beautiful married Asian nurse. You got some creepy issues for mentioning all that shit about your nurse... in your first letter to a stranger. Don't you see the mental image you are projecting? You come off sounding fantasy obsessed. You are flipping the reader's creepy red flag alerts with talk like that, which is your fault, not mine.


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The letter itself negates you as potential relationship material. The only thing you left out is how this stranger you wrote will make a good Stepford wife, shitting your babies out into the waiting arms of your cocksucking married Asian nurse.

I'm pretty sure she knows nothing of BDSM but if she did you would owe her an apology. You gonna whore her out too? Fuck you are nasty.

You talking about the chick you are trying to hook up with in a BDSM dating site on the internet... or the nurse? I'm talking about the chick you wrote the letter to. I don't think I was vague about to whom I was referring to. Your retort is out of context, misguided.

Happy holidays I am glad you continue to maintain this thread with your replies. Although no one seems to provide you with opinions or answers you are happy with, some have tried to comply with your wish to be eviscerated... and it has been entertaining. For taking it on the chin and duking it out, we thank you. And in that spirit I leave you with this. I think this says it all.



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RE: Terrible Message? - 12/24/2017 9:33:44 PM   
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Thank you. I have always appreciated your temperament and your willingness to take the high road on these forums, as you did in your reply to him. I don't know if ya'll would consider my reply the high road, but for me, it was the best and most sincere reply I could muster. Although, I may have choked on one or two sarcastic speed bumps in the high road along the way. He seems insecure and easily offended, but sincere. Which makes me think he really doesn't know how many red flags he is tripping. As funny as this has gotten, I hope he gets it and himself all sorted out.

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Did I see you say someone is baking a pumpkin pie? My slave grabbed one from the bakery. I found it in the fridge with all the other fixins for Christmas dinner. It looks like it's going to be a good one. I hope you and your family have a great Christmas. Best wishes.
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RS, I'm kinda thinking you're a really cool dude right about now. <wink>





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RE: Terrible Message? - 12/24/2017 10:28:07 PM   
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Why didn't I reply in the manner you wanted the first time? Because that's what I think of your message and your post -- it's creepy, fetishizes Asian women, and fetishizes a woman who (unfortunately for her) works for you in your home. I don't feel the need to coddle grown men. Nor do I respect for snapping off in a rage because someone didn't speak in the kindly tone that would make you feel good.

Eviscerate is a word with a meaning, with a connotation of to tear something apart, rip 'em a new one, etc. You can't use a word and call it a metaphor just because you say it is. Besides that, you goaded people to be honest, and lay it on you -- "come on, I know you want to".

You have a lot of rage, and poor self-actualization.You say you're in control, yet post to a forum you still resent for judging you. Resenting the forum is weird, so is posting here if you knew you'd be judged and don't like the people.

People can look at other people's profiles without you being notified. You keep acting like you know everything, when you don't know all the features (or sometimes flaws).

No woman owes you shit. Expecting a response to your every message is entitlement on your part - get over it.

It's fucked up to keep saying "I'll apologize when it's warranted," as if that makes you nice or humble. That's just basic common curtesy.

Finally, you don't write messages to profiles. Profiles are an image. You write messages to women. I know what you meant, but the language is telling of how you think of (submissive) women. That's the shit we're all picking up on. The words we use to say things reveals as much as what we say.

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