LadyHugs
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Dear Aileen68, Ladies and Gentlemen; Discipline is a word that invites a general swath of meanings. Discipline can be the use of protocols, rituals and ceremonies as to keep the establishment of the D/s or M/s role. It keeps the roles clear and keeps the chaos down. Discipline can mean orderly, functional, mental reasoning over an emotional response. Discipline may also mean "obedience" as well as maintaining that obedience through discipline and or punishment. So, as you can see words can trip things up, so I would inquire as to what dominants mean by their "discipline." As far as domination goes, there is a difference between a dominant and a control freak. Controllers use negatives, micro manage and deny freedom to the slave/submissive as to serve from the heart but, causes service from fear or humiliation, perhaps abusive force. The controler types are insecure indeed. Dominants, use positives and wants their slave/submissive to be happy in their role as slave or submissive, appreciate and praise every growth one makes. Dominants do wish their slaves/submissives to serve from the heart, because they want to--not because they have to. It is a spirit exchange--spirit of good, compassion, love (not sexual love), honorable and giving. How to achieve that state of bliss, is through series of disciplines that must be mastered. Dominants learn through discipline to establish and maintain comfortable, safe, logical boundaries. The slave/submissive learns through discipline to operate within the dominant's established and maintained boundaries with total freedom. Discipline is a mutual truce between two individual's "self will." Respectfully submitted for consideration, Lady Hugs
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