MstrssPassion
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That is my hope as well. I'd hate to see this thread get yanked as so many on this subject have... to much good has come from it to let a few side trips spoil it. I don't plan to point a finger at anyone because, well quite frankly, anyone can read through & figure out where positive contributions took place & where negative finger pointing & bickering took place. It wasn't from just one person. It wasn't just a sub, It wasn't just a CD & it wasn't just a dominant woman that took the thread off course & turned it into a personal battle of wills. There were several who hijacked this rather than take it off the board & to email where it belongs. All I can say is enough already. We got it...can we move on now or should I start a poll as to who has the longest piss stream? I'm still curious to hear from others about their perception of cross-dressers. I truly think that the biggest problem that many of the women who have had negative experience with this simply didn't understand the psyche of the individual they were with or they simply came to conclusions based on second hand information. Sure... I saw where others wrote that they prefer masculine men... as much as I "get" the cross dressing men I also really appreciate the masculine men. Maybe that is why I have such trouble understanding why there is so much conflict happening here. Every person out there has to be understood as an individual. You have to learn how to read each person for how they & are & how they tick. Maybe it is just my experience level with the various dynamics out there. I've never been shy to new experiences in anything in life & I've experimented with more scenarios than many may be able to imagine. (LOL... I think the last time I took a silly purity test I scored in the low teens & only because I haven't had sex with a non-human) I've also come to find out that even some of the most looked up to, manly-men that are in the scene have revealed to me that they themselves enjoy a minor degree of dress up play. This isn't something they reveal to many. This type of man has also revealed to me how these things trigger them in ways that they simply are not able to share with just any woman. Often the dressing will trigger a passionate side of them, one where they are able to truly relax & let down their guard. I also want others to know that I've had some bad experiences with a few CD submissives... mainly because their idea of submissive didn't match my idea of submissive. One in particular was a huge drama queen. I saw in him what some of the women expressed.... that over the top, me me me, dive-like mentality that would absolutely consume you if you were to engage with them. As soon as I recognized that his "neediness" would overwhelm any possibility of fitting in with my defined structure... I discontinued further contact. I was cursed, called names & was exposed to the most horrible display of a full blown temper tantrum I have ever seen from one that was older than 5 yrs of age. Was this what we should view as a typical example of a cd, sissy, gender bending, "whatever other term that fits"? I'd have to say no... this is simply the type of display one should expect from someone who has REAL issues with esteem as well as emotional stability. His desire to dress had nothing to do with it. SO think about it ladies... those of you that have actually had a bad experience with this needy/willful type... do you think maybe they were undesirable due to instability & that the fact they were dressing really had nothing to do about it? I've met some subs that were equally needy & willful & they never once mentioned a desire to dress. Hell I can think of several subs both male & female that have posted on the boards here over the years that have had fits & they weren't ts/tv/tg/cd. It's a personality flaw that is not indicative to being ts/tv/tg/cd.
< Message edited by MstrssPassion -- 9/24/2006 5:16:42 PM >
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