DanceDreaming
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My take on the experiences, the whys and the wherefors.
My aesthetics have room for a lot of looks. I like masculine looking men, I like feminine looking women. I also like femme men and butch women. In reference to the topic at hand, I do find myself often attracted to pretty, metro, sissy and femmy boys(particularly pretty goth boys). I've also occasionally been attracted to tg/ts folks, though most often of the f2m, not m2f varieties. Androgyny can look great in many forms. All that said, I have yet to find a crossdressing male attractive when enfemme.
My reasons for this are hard to articulate yet easy, for me, to pinpoint. It has to do, in part, with the concept of dressing for effect. I find that women have generally been trained, for better or for worse, all their lives to dress in different styles -specifically- for the effect it has on those around them. They dress up to fit in, to enhance the beauty of the world for those around them, and to be found attractive, it's often not for their own amusement. Sometimes, a woman will sort of lose this in a more narcissistic(narcissism is not always bad) pleasure of looking in the mirror and finding what they see to be beautiful, for themselves and themselves alone. I indulge in this myself, and find it quite liberating and very sexy. But often by this time they already have deeply ingrained a sense of dressing for effect. Many women reject all this, are irritated by the implications and do their damndest to not care what people think of their look. Most often these women are fairly butch.
For better or for worse, this is not often learned by men. Men are generally taught to dress in what is comfortable, what is practical, or what they feel looks good. They tend to take any push from society to dress against their own wishes as a deep insult. Dressing up is usually either a chore(putting on my stupid tie again), or an act of narcissism, and very rarely a specific and freely given gift to the world, to enhance the pleasure of those around them.
Wow, that was longer than intended, and will probably get flamed while the more important stuff(below) is ignored... So I'll Disclaimer: the above is not expressed well, and is based on societal trends I have witnessed, and has little or nothing to do with natural characteristics of men or women. Hope that helps...
The above dovetails with my main point. I find many, many people quite attractive naked. When clothed, I tend to find attractive people who are wearing clothing that flatters their form. I, personally, would either look ridiculous or dumpy in clothing that would scream sexy on a highly curvaceous woman. My curves tend more toward the streamlined. Even in my size, they'd just look bad. Similarly, styles that would look great on me would make some very hot women I know look....well....lumpy. If you have a large, highly angular, and muscular form, cute lil frilly things are just going to make you look silly, IMHO. If you have a beer belly, that slinky dress will make you look pregnant. If you have a soft and doughy sorta look, my sleek pvc catsuit would make you look kinda like a sausage. If you feet are squeezing out of those heels, they don't look hot they look painful. If you've got square shoulders and a broad chest, a little strappy camisole will look lost at sea...
Being femme, and looking good, requires a lot of work. Staying clean, looking trimmed and polished. Learning how to talk what you've got, whatever it is, and make it work. Creating an image that is specifically designed to be appealing -to others-. Knowing your intended audience, and creating a style that will appeal to them.
I could probably work with a guy who, like ballet bob far above, was mostly interested in the -feel- of women's clothes. We could probably find, together, plenty of things that look great on him(in my opinion), that have a soft or slinky, and sexy, feel. But a guy who has a really specific idea of how he wants to dress regardless of whether I find it hot, and refuses to adapt it to my(his Dominant's) tastes...? Well, if I do find it hot, if he is wearing something that really flatters his form, if his tastes in femmeboi wear are something I find sexy, than probably. But I have yet to see a closet CD who's look I find attractive.
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RE: Do Mistresses like Cross-Dressers ? - 
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I can see the fun side of it... but my own man, the one I would be in a 24/7 with, he is going to be an alfa male cuz thats what turns me on.
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