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RE: Do Mistresses like Cross-Dressers ? - 9/24/2006 8:29:01 PM

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Good subs aren't so easy to find either, IMO.

I think that's been established in numerous threads. lol

I dont know how you all can say you cant find this or that.I admit it took awhile to establish Myself,but I have no problem finding people that suit Me.

It was just a small (obviously) joke. I'm a lifestyle dominant, but I've found my two here as well. That doesn't discount all the numerous threads on the topic.

** edited to say Congratulations on your anniversary!

My submissive and I have a couple of more months before our 2nd.

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RE: Do Mistresses like Cross-Dressers ? - 9/25/2006 6:55:57 AM

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I think that's been established in numerous threads. lol

True - False, Right - Wrong, Up - Down ---- somehow we individual sub guys cannot see ourselves as a dime a dozen. (Its bad for the psyche.) We always have to play our hands with as much confidence as possible, even if its a massive bluff when holding a measily pair of twos.

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RE: Do Mistresses like Cross-Dressers ? - 9/25/2006 7:05:43 AM

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The question was put to The Mistress's on this board asking what We liked... and now that you know what We think about the subject of Cross Dressing you complain becasue you do not like what We say... Whay ask Us if you you do not want to listen to Us....

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RE: Do Mistresses like Cross-Dressers ? - 9/25/2006 7:09:34 AM

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i DONT CARE FOR THEM ON A SEXUAL BASIS
I FIND THEM GREAT FRINDS......JUST DONT RING MY BELL SEXUALLY
I PREFERR MANLY MEN

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RE: Do Mistresses like Cross-Dressers ? - 9/25/2006 7:12:58 AM

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I had every right to be angry IMHO.

Funny how my so-called "anger" is being highlighted here...yet NO ONE is saying ANYTHING about the namecalling and personal attacks against ME.

("little prick")...."your posts are BS".

The reason why is because you attack Us on Our own Forum... When someone asks a question of a Mistress and then others attack Us for that same opinion what would you call it?
I guess since they are "dominants" that sort of behavior is acceptable.

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RE: Do Mistresses like Cross-Dressers ? - 9/25/2006 7:16:35 AM

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What I'm finding amazing now is that rather than maintain the thread by staying on topic that so many of the dominant women would rather posture themselves by posting in a defensive mode.

Is it or is it not recognized that those in a position of control should first exibit self-control? Why not gracefully illustrate control by keeping a discussion on track.

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RE: Do Mistresses like Cross-Dressers ? - 9/25/2006 7:23:39 AM

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I know many mistresses who do not. Many of them suggest that cross-dressers are attracted to them like flies. I wonder what the love-hate relationship is all about.

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RE: Do Mistresses like Cross-Dressers ? - 9/25/2006 7:33:21 AM

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I don't know if I actually contributed to this thread or not. Given the tone of the few posts I actually tried to read and got disgusted with I will not bother reading all the way thru before answering the original question.

I, personally, do not care for the concept of cross dressers as a life partner. I don't see anything sexually stimulating about a man dressed as a woman. It does not freak me out or gross me out, just does soooooo not turn me on. I accept that it may be some guys "thing" wether they be gay, straight or even the more complex transgendered.

Just because it's not my thing does not mean it is not another woman's turn-on. I just get all warm and fuzzy for the genuine article with-out any icky boy parts.

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RE: Do Mistresses like Cross-Dressers ? - 9/25/2006 12:04:17 PM

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The question was put to The Mistress's on this board asking what We liked... and now that you know what We think about the subject of Cross Dressing you complain becasue you do not like what We say... Whay ask Us if you you do not want to listen to Us....

Your guess is as good as mine. (SIGH)

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RE: Do Mistresses like Cross-Dressers ? - 10/1/2006 1:16:24 PM

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i agree Ms Jewel has awesome cleavage

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RE: Do Mistresses like Cross-Dressers ? - 10/2/2006 4:09:56 PM

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I personally LOVE cross dressers, especially going shopping with them, picking out fun frillies, dressing them up in cute little outfits.... I have this undying love for ruffly things.

I especially love sissy sluts.... !

~Ms Emily

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RE: Do Mistresses like Cross-Dressers ? - 10/8/2006 6:22:01 PM

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Greetings,

A good sub can be found. It just takes time and mutual communication. There is some courting to be done on both sides of this ever so interesting equation. Some of the emails and requests I've gotten here at CM would take a tremendous amount of trust and time to achieve. Some are just silly. For example, I have actually been requested to show up, never having met this person, naked and ready to spend the day cleaning and detailing her car. Puh-lease. I may well be willing to serve the right person in that manner but introductory emails like demanding such send me running and screaming to hills.

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RE: Do Mistresses like Cross-Dressers ? - 11/11/2006 11:59:05 AM

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Personally, I am friendly with several cross dressers however, those who want to serve are more caught up in their own attire, appearance and attempting to mimick being a female that the dominant, like me is totally forgotten. I find most cross-dressers and TVs and trans-genders are caught up in themselves rather than service.[/font]

Personally,

I find a lot of "dominants" judge all crossdressers in one lump instead of looking at each as an individual.

I very much agree. I am one of those rare Dommes who really enjoy crossdressers/sissies/t-gurls and who specializes in feminization, but that's because My formative experiences of dominance were with a fem boi. I think it's true that some sissies get too caught up in their clothes and appearance, but in My experience that's just a special case of a more general issue: the fetishist who is more "submissive" to his fetish than to his supposed Domme. I've had plenty of masculine guys who come on all submissive when I wear the boots or whatever, but who stop acting that way (and often get all pissy) if I am not wearing them. Fetishism in general is a tricky thing: properly used and guided, it can be a route into sub space, but it can also effectively block the fetishist from actually submitting to the Dominant.

My general experience is that fem males under whatever label make wonderful submissives--eager to please, sensitive, imaginative, and sensual.

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RE: Do Mistresses like Cross-Dressers ? - 11/11/2006 12:07:25 PM

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Personally, I am friendly with several cross dressers however, those who want to serve are more caught up in their own attire, appearance and attempting to mimick being a female that the dominant, like me is totally forgotten. I find most cross-dressers and TVs and trans-genders are caught up in themselves rather than service.[/font]

Personally,

I find a lot of "dominants" judge all crossdressers in one lump instead of looking at each as an individual.

I very much agree. I am one of those rare Dommes who really enjoy crossdressers/sissies/t-gurls and who specializes in feminization, but that's because My formative experiences of dominance were with a fem boi. I think it's true that some sissies get too caught up in their clothes and appearance, but in My experience that's just a special case of a more general issue: the fetishist who is more "submissive" to his fetish than to his supposed Domme. I've had plenty of masculine guys who come on all submissive when I wear the boots or whatever, but who stop acting that way (and often get all pissy) if I am not wearing them. Fetishism in general is a tricky thing: properly used and guided, it can be a route into sub space, but it can also effectively block the fetishist from actually submitting to the Dominant.

My general experience is that fem males under whatever label make wonderful submissives--eager to please, sensitive, imaginative, and sensual.

Well put madame.

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RE: Do Mistresses like Cross-Dressers ? - 11/30/2006 1:47:45 PM

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I actually find that most of the Dommes that I have gotten to know actually love to dress up their male sub. I don't know what the norm is for dominant females, but I'm guessing that there is a large mixture of likes and dislikes out there. The same is true for submissive men.

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RE: Do Mistresses like Cross-Dressers ? - 12/6/2006 3:02:48 AM

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Personally I am a CD, I enjoy serving when I am asked to do so in either fashion, dressed as a male or female. I do not spend hours infront of the mirror or worry about how I look more than if I am doing what I was told to do. I have to agree with ladyhugs that generally CD's TV's and TG's tend to be more into themselves and thier outfits and such that they do ignore the fact they are submissive and should obey and expected. I have many friends that are of the same way, many of them very flakish.I have also met my share of Dominants that are only in it to abused and beat thier subjects with no actual emotional relationship as well. But On the same note, both sides have to comprimise on things, for example someone else posted that they don't mind when thier sub dresses but if it got out of hand the crossdressing would hault. That is a valid thing to do since the sub is not following thier intended duties that were arranged to begin with between both parties. Communication is the biggest part of the relationship and without it it will not work out. My Mistress loves to play with me dressed and we have a blast going shopping and looking at stuff together. It is all a personal preference.

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RE: Do Mistresses like Cross-Dressers ? - 12/6/2006 9:35:11 AM

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It is just wrong to lump all cross dressers, Transvestites, transgendered males into a group. No different then it is to lump all Dominant women into a group.
I happen to be a cross dresser. I have been this way since about age 9. it is not a choice to remain or even start out to be what I am. Over the years, it has caused much stress in myself and in my earlier relationships. My first wife never even knew. it was a closely guarded secret that I did not share with anyone. So that is about 46 years of being a cross dresser. Now compared to about 12 years of finding and realizing my desire to be submissive, there is no contest as to the time I have been aware of both parts of who and what I am. But I can tell you this...As much as I now enjoy dressing and being fem, it is now taken the back seat to my need and desire to be a submissive. Another words IF I had to chose one, or give up one of these personality traits, it wold be my need to dress first. Maybe the two traits are somewhat related. I don't know. I do know that many of us cross dressers are also submissives. Most of us to Dominant women ONLY. But please, do not lump me in with those that are into themselves, their clothes, make up and fem selves more then I am to the one I love and serve. It makes no difference how i dress, I am first and foremost submissive to the one and only I serve. In fact, She controls when and how I dress. My cross dressing for the most part is only when She wants me dressed in fem mode. And believe it or not, I am very happy that way. it makes my dressing fem much more special to know She wants me that way on Her terms alone. Like so much else in my life, She controls this part of me too. Yes I do feel very lucky to have met a Domme that not only accepts my dressing, but likes it from time to time too. She knows it is part of me just like eating, drinking and breathing. It is not something we can give up easily. It is a drive, compulsion or need that from the start we had little control over.
So even among us that are cross dressers, we are very much individuals with different kinks, and desires. Sure, I have seen my share of cross dressers that seem to be narcissistic as hell; So much into themselves that they are not even fun to be around. some CDs call themselves sissies, but not all. I personally hate that term and do not identify as such. It has other bad connotations to me. Just like the term Mistress is not liked by my Domme. Again, other meanings ruin it for Her..just like sissy is not what I am about or who I am. It does not make it right or wrong, just wrong for me. I respect those that use that terminology about themselves or their submissives.
So my submission comes first. The wants, needs and desires of M' Lady come first. I live to serve Her and put my needs and wants second. To me, that is what being submissive is all about.
So to answer the OP's question...Yes, there are some Dominant Women that like cross dressers and there are some that don't. So simple. No different then my liking or not liking what some of us in the braod spectrum of BDSM or D/s ar einto and are not into. We are all different with different likes, dislikes, kinks and views on things within our lifestyle.
I am currently reading a book about the Goddess path. it even validates and explains one theory as to why some of us men dress and emulate woman. Why many of us men want to serve Women and submit to their will. Frankly what it says makes me proud to respect women and the Great Goddess so much that I am a submissve and a cross dresser. Look around, the male dominated world is a pretty screwed up place. it is long past time for the Women of the world to once again be our respected leaders as it was in the beginning when Women ( Goddesses) were worshipped. I n bneing a submissive man and a cross dresser, I am doing my small part. But we all have different sets of values and beliefs, and that's OK. I respect those differences, like who and what I like and ignore or leave alone what I don't respect of like. It would be a better world if we all did that.
So count me as one that is glad that SOME Mistresses like us cross dressers.

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RE: Do Mistresses like Cross-Dressers ? - 12/6/2006 10:01:05 AM

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I have never had a serious relationship with a cross-dresser, I've just been good friends with a few and worked with them as models. Obviously I thought they were great people and there was definitely something powerfully sexy about their more intimate drag moments. It's difficult to describe, but an extremely aroused man who is playing in his feminine persona is a powerfully erotic creature, and he really doesn't hit the same notes as a man in male gender mode, or a woman. He becomes a new and different thing, which is sexy in a new and different way.

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RE: Do Mistresses like Cross-Dressers ? - 12/6/2006 11:42:56 AM

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I confess I haven't read all this, I'm answering the original question -- I'm pretty much attracted to the femme end of the gender spectrum, whatever the bits involved.

I don't like feminine dress being the subject and the lynchpin of everything, whether it's a girlfriend whose only way to relate to me is "shopping" or a CD who is completely into her clothes to the exclusion of relating to me as a person. I present femme but I have a generous helping of "boy brain" myself.

And nothing's etched in stone, some of the men and women I'm madly attracted to and enamored of *are* butches. My primary is ideal for me, male bodied but pretty andro/metro, occasional dressing.

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RE: Do Mistresses like Cross-Dressers ? - 12/6/2006 11:47:06 AM

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I enjoy crossdressers but admit that’s more about control for me. I prefer sissy maids. I really enjoy all types of role-play as long as there is a femdom dynamic.

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