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Forgetting the safe-word… - 9/24/2006 11:46:59 AM

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Did it happen to anyone during the play? Say during the tickling, for example?

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RE: Forgetting the safe-word… - 9/24/2006 11:53:11 AM

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I dont see how one could even say a safe word during tickling anyway!!! does peeing your pants count as a safe word???

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RE: Forgetting the safe-word… - 9/24/2006 11:54:28 AM

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Sometimes a bottom will forget her safe word, not use it because of being in subspace, not willing to admit she can not take more, or just because even a slave can be stubborn once in a while...LOL

It does happen, as the top you need to be sure that you are aware enough that you can correct that. More then once, especially with a new bottom, I have stopped before they was ready because I felt she has hit a point where she needed to use her safe word and did not.

During tickling, never had it happen. I figure if she pisses herself twice, that would be time to stop...LOL

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RE: Forgetting the safe-word… - 9/24/2006 11:58:11 AM

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Me and Master have no safe word... we did only at the very begining because he insisted but i found I COULDNT use it I was to afraid to dissapoint him that the thought of useing it never enterd my mind.. though I dont ever think that I needed to use it any how

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RE: Forgetting the safe-word… - 9/24/2006 11:59:49 AM

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I dont give them the chance to forget.
I tell them I'm not stopping until you say 'red'...come on say it...your balls are touching the floor already say 'red' dammit...

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RE: Forgetting the safe-word… - 9/24/2006 12:02:45 PM

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I personally use the color system, green, yellow, and red. If the sub is not volunteering a yellow, and I think that is a possibility that he/she needs to be uttering it, I ask for a color. If they are not able to tell me a color, or if they say red at any time, I would stop immediately. I have never had a red, smiles, but I have had a few yellows when I have asked, and slowed down accordingly.

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RE: Forgetting the safe-word… - 9/24/2006 12:05:46 PM

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ah Yes Kc Miss... Master tried the 20 question thing but Miss may i just say with my I cant speek while in a scene when i go into subspace I lose my voice i cant answer question or anything no matter how much it is prosisted, though I am getting much better with Master should I scene with someone knew all bets are off

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RE: Forgetting the safe-word… - 9/24/2006 12:10:06 PM

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Could not answer last time until He slapped my face and He called my name. Actually i think there were several slaps before i joined Him again.

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RE: Forgetting the safe-word… - 9/24/2006 12:17:03 PM

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I forget my safeword quite often. Hell I even forget my name alot of the time.

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RE: Forgetting the safe-word… - 9/24/2006 12:32:33 PM

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RE: Forgetting the safe-word… - 9/24/2006 1:00:29 PM

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Laughing...it's not the reason why I don't use safewords, but it's nice to add another reason to the list.

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RE: Forgetting the safe-word… - 9/24/2006 1:37:23 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Master96

Did it happen to anyone during the play? Say during the tickling, for example?

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this slave does not use a safe-word

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RE: Forgetting the safe-word… - 9/24/2006 2:07:42 PM

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My Safeword for STOP is red. My Dungeon is painted a very deep dark red. This color is available at all times within view and I rarely blindfold early on in the relationship. I have only ever had subs use the safeword during the first session, after that I can generally read them well enough that it doesn't come to that.

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RE: Forgetting the safe-word… - 9/24/2006 2:45:37 PM

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Never play without an agreed "safe" word.
There are too many people who will ignore a safe word, until it is yelled in their face over and over. If they don't , won't agree, never play with them again!

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RE: Forgetting the safe-word… - 9/24/2006 4:29:13 PM

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Occasionally, if I'm worried about a sub being stubborn or if I'm gagging them for whatever reason, I have them hold on to something. Something simple like a bouncy ball or silk scarf. If at any point they let go of the object, I immediately stop and assess the situation. If they are in subspace, I may continue at the same level without further progression, or I might stop. If it is an indication of "safe-wording" the session is stopped, either for the day or until the sub is ready to continue again. If thats the case, the gag is NOT used, and the color system is in place. I agree with kc692's method as well.

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RE: Forgetting the safe-word… - 9/24/2006 4:33:49 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterC46910

During tickling, never had it happen. I figure if she pisses herself twice, that would be time to stop...LOL

I generally remind them what the safe word is while they are cleaning all the urine off the spanking table.

But that is just me, and I could be wrong, but there you go.

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RE: Forgetting the safe-word… - 9/24/2006 5:05:27 PM

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This is one of the reason I have THREE 'safewords'. I have a 'public and in conversation' safeword, I have a 'in scene able to talk' safeword and I have a 'physical' safeword. Top or bottom.
Here is the reasoning.

Example 1- We're out say at a public party, engaged in conversation or in the presence of one. I'm uncomfortable but can not walk away as it's rude. I have a word or topic I bring up where my partner knows it's time to move on. (more often than not a subtle look will accomplish this but not always)

Example 2- When I (or a bottom partner) scene, not too heavily into such, usually during warm up. Safewords are usually able to be remembered and spoken. Or a simple check in works.

Example 3- When heavily engaged in a scene, or engaged in a scene where it's not possible to see one's mouth move, in case of a gag, facing away and/or it's a rather loud enviroment safe words aren't always heard. It's also rather hard to speak during breath play. So..I have a physical safe word. When in physical contact, it's three taps, when on a cross or such I have hand signals as well. Open handed palm - slow down, closed fist - stop.

Pretty close to universal signs.
I've never forgotten a safeword, but I do pretty much refuse to use them. I shouldn't need them.
If I'm playing to the point of requiring safewords, I feel I have no business playing. Too many play the game of "who can make who safeword" rather than mutual enjoyment of a session. IN private I should trust my partner, in public I should trust my partner AND the Dm's.

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RE: Forgetting the safe-word… - 9/26/2006 2:22:41 AM

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Thanks....

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RE: Forgetting the safe-word… - 9/26/2006 2:33:13 AM

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greetings

the ideal of someone holding me down to tickle me it is a horrific thing. my brother would hold me utnil i scream i hate vbeing tickle what does this so for a person. do you know if you tickle a little one they can become lost of mind they laugh so hard it makes them unable to speak or stopping laughing i guess it is for some not me.

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RE: Forgetting the safe-word… - 9/26/2006 3:29:58 AM

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I've had slaves get non-verbal with me. I've had ones that were so spaced that even if I was cutting them up, they'd probably not have been able to respond. It's incumbent on the top to recognize that state and make sure they're not doing bodily harm.....

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