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RE: Your Dom's Name - 9/25/2006 8:22:46 AM

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When you are talking to Him/Her, do you ever refer to them by their name? Does that just FEEL wrong to you, or are you comfy with it?

yeah it does feel weird and wrong and no i'm not comfie with it. The only time i use his name is when i'm in convo with others and the names i do use are inappropriate. Though, as i live in a vanilla world, i do become used to using it and its hard to switch back sometimes talking to ppl who WOULD understand. In the vanilla world, i also generally refer to him as my boyfriend. Sometimes in a D/s setting i use what i am used to and say "my boyfriend" and then i generally stumble. LOL

TO him - nah i dont call him by name. Thats not who he is to me. Generally, i call him Daddy and even sometimes (which is really wierd) calling him Master just seems wierd to me. Its almost foriegn because i call him Daddy so much. Thats kind of rare, but we have such a relationship that Daddy is generally appropriate.

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RE: Your Dom's Name - 9/25/2006 8:27:02 AM

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I usually tell my submissives to call me whatever they are comfortable with, it is not that important to me to use "Master" or "Sir" or "Your highness" or "The Greatest one" all that I ask is that they do not call me late for dinner LOL

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RE: Your Dom's Name - 9/25/2006 8:34:03 AM

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public by His name, sometimes Sir

in private, jalapeno, gorilla belly, sweetie, bunny [we are gross with the pet names]

if there is something important i am trying to adress and He just brushes me off/ignores me sometimes the full first name comes out.. :^\

During play/punishment He is Sir.

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RE: Your Dom's Name - 9/25/2006 9:16:59 AM

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You call Your Master "Monkey"?

Yup. With a great deal of frequency. It's a little bit confusing to explain how it evolved. He, in return, calls me Monkey-Thing. Though, honestly, he doesn't identify as my "master." He's my Owner, and the person I belong to, but "master" never jived for him.

Non traditional? Never!

Seriously, though, he's much happier with terms of endearment than titles of authority. In our relationship, they have their place, but it's only in very spesific contexts. Doesn't change who's in charge.

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RE: Your Dom's Name - 9/25/2006 11:53:23 AM

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When you are talking to Him/Her, do you ever refer to them by their name? Does that just FEEL wrong to you, or are you comfy with it?

I'll call him by his name when we are in front of my family. I'll also reference him by his first name when I'm talking with others just because I've always had a pet peeve with using the title of master like its a name (i.e. when people will say, "and master shaved the cat and then master took the dog to the vet."). With a stranger my assumption is they won't know who my owner is so I'll usually interchange my owner and ___ (his actual name) when referencing him with other people.

Other than those two situations I refer to him directly as master.

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RE: Your Dom's Name - 9/25/2006 12:15:37 PM

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Two things I instruct my partner to not call me.

1) Shirley.

2) Late for dinner.

Just me, could be wrong, but there ya go.

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RE: Your Dom's Name - 9/25/2006 12:18:10 PM

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i'm with perversegirl.

i always call him by his name. i like his name, it's one i've always liked and it was the name of my ideal guy that i've had since i first watched a disney movie that i really related to when i was a little girl. so...i call him by name if i'm saying something important. he calls me sweet names but not my name and not "sub" or "slave." he might refer to himself as "Master" every now and then but that's it. we know who we are to each other and that's all. but then again, i've always hated calling someone "Sir" as a sign of respect. ironically enough, i have a problem with authority figures of all sorts.

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RE: Your Dom's Name - 9/25/2006 12:28:19 PM

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I have always called him Master i usually remember to call him Matt in public as he requested but sometimes i slip up. It feels funny to me to call him by his given name it's not an natural form of address of me to my Master.

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RE: Your Dom's Name - 9/25/2006 2:35:49 PM

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We always call each other by our given names. Any nicknames I have come from other people.

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RE: Your Dom's Name - 9/25/2006 2:38:22 PM

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The only time i refer to Him by His name is when i am speaking to my friends or family about Him. I always call Him Sir otherwise.

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RE: Your Dom's Name - 9/25/2006 2:54:41 PM

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By Name... 99 % of the time. Only in play-private.... as i'm informed to do.

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RE: Your Dom's Name - 9/25/2006 5:38:10 PM

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I usually call him Daddy, but also dear, sweetie, love, and sometimes monkey toes. We recently had a conversation about what I should call him when we are playing, but we never came to a conclusion. He asked what I wanted to call him, but for right now, I don't know. I just know that calling him "Daddy" during that kind of play won't work for me, so I guess we are still working it out.

I refer to him by name when I'm talking to others in RL about him. I also refer to him as "my boyfriend", or "my partner". If I'm talking to a HNG I normally refer to him as my Master or my Dom (as in, "No, I don't have a web cam and further questions of this type should be addressed to my Dom." Funnily enough they never bother to ask him the obnoxious questions they ask me.) :P

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RE: Your Dom's Name - 9/25/2006 5:38:14 PM

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I'm abit different.. I'm not allowed to call my Dominant Master.. At all... Occasionally if we are having a really good session and it slips out like "OMG fuck me harder Master" He lets it slide.. but all other times He is Sir, Dave Sir, Dave sometimes He's "The Boss" and The Bastard, and yes He allows me to call Him that.. it's meant in a loving term of endarment, lol. :)

Even when my children are around He occasionally gets Sir, sometimes honey or babe or darlin.... just depends on the mood.

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RE: Your Dom's Name - 9/25/2006 5:43:43 PM

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I am under the expressed restriction by my Dom to not call him Sir, Master, or anything to that effect, ever. Here, I refer to him as my Dom, since it makes things easier for clarification purposes. At home, either in speech or written word, I call him by his given name or call him Dearest. He is always referred to by his given name when I am speaking to my family members, friends not "in the know", and in public, though I will often exchange that for Dearest when appropriate.
I would find it awkward to call him Sir or Master. I knew him first by his given name, and we started as a vanilla couple. It is much easier to do that, and to us it feels right and more natural that way. Perhaps I'm an oddball out, but I guess we both see it as this: it doesn't really assert that much more to either of us to use a title. It just seems peculiar in our dynamic. We both know how the power is exchanged, so there isn't a deep need to reinforce that in our relationship with a title. It's not to say it doesn't work for everyone, but it just doesn't fit with us. We respect that to each their own.

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RE: Your Dom's Name - 9/25/2006 5:48:08 PM

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The Bastard, and yes He allows me to call Him that.. it's meant in a loving term of endarment, lol. :)

in the past i have gotten away with that as well. lol... i learned that "You Sadistic Bastard" was nothing but music to my ex's ears!

At the present, i am unattached, but i have used the terms Master, Sir, his name, and several pet names! When in private, it was almost always Master.

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RE: Your Dom's Name - 9/25/2006 7:05:02 PM

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I have never called him by his name and probably never will. I have only used his name in his presence when introducing him to others. I refer to him as my Lord most of the time, and when around those who are not aware of the structure of the relationship it is my love.

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RE: Your Dom's Name - 9/25/2006 7:29:24 PM

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Yes, it does feel weird, and only under unusual circumstances do I utter His given name.
This week-end he was lecturing me (at home and in the car) because I wasn't calling Him Master following his commands.
We got to the store, we were in the middle of a crowd, He asked me a question, and I innocently answered 'Yes, Master'. I kept my eyes down as I generally do, but looked up in time to see a look of horror/embarassment/pride cross His face...
I was ONLY doing what I was told....

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RE: Your Dom's Name - 9/25/2006 8:04:53 PM

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I call him Sir in public and Master in private. I have never called him by his first name except for when he met my family and it just felt weird.

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RE: Your Dom's Name - 9/25/2006 8:43:59 PM

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I call Him "Sweetie" or "My Love" more than calling Him by name. He is a sweetie and my love. We are more than D/s though ...

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RE: Your Dom's Name - 9/25/2006 10:52:59 PM

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The Bastard, and yes He allows me to call Him that.. it's meant in a loving term of endarment, lol. :)

in the past i have gotten away with that as well. lol... i learned that "You Sadistic Bastard" was nothing but music to my ex's ears!

At the present, i am unattached, but i have used the terms Master, Sir, his name, and several pet names! When in private, it was almost always Master.

I love that ~ my ex had no problem with me calling him Asshole ~ and he called me mistress. And yes, we did that in public from time to time. Thankfully, he was not hung up on formalities and I think he knew it was not likely I would call him something that I simply did not think "fit." I've been with one man who insisted I refer to him as Master ~ it didn't fit, it felt weird calling him that and in the end, it was a major source of contention between us. Individuality is the key. It's the tone and the manner in which someone is addressed, not the words spoken.

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