LadyTantalize
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Wow, fantastic post and thought-provoking reading! My two cents...... I am a Dominant Woman and My husband is "bedroom submissive" in many senses of the word, a bottom yet submissive to My decisions in most all aspects of our vanilla life, as well as being submissive to Me in a BDSM aspect, and a slave to Me in an aspect that few leather folk can accept. He is not nude and at My feet 24/7, but he does cater to My needs, desires and decisions 24/7 - he "submits" to My will but he is not "submissive". Weird, I know. I do wear the "pants" in the family, although it's a dress and stilettos! I am a part-time Professional Dominatrix and I keep personal submissives occassionally when life permits and it works out. I also work a vanilla job, he works too - he is a spritied man, independant and free-thinking yet I call the shots. I dominate My boss in the vanilla world, I can dominate a conversation or a room - it's not always just about the "leather". We've been together for almost 10 years and married for five. We've shared good and bad, had some exciting play, many discussions of D/s thoughts, and some wrenching heart-to-hearts about who we are and how to make this work. We are not perfect, nor are we blissfully happy as in the movies - we love each other deeply, respect each other and find the positive in our marriage outweighs the negative. Life is not a fairy-tale! Isn't that the case in most relationships? My point (I know, get to it, Lady T.).... Living in leather is for you to decide - 24/7 is what you deem it to be. Many lifestylers would not term My marriage to be a 24/7, nor would some see My husband as My slave. But, in reality, BDSM is a factor in our day-to-day life, we both have BDSM in our souls, and he is, essentially, a slave to My heart and soul. It is what we make it! Truly, Lady T.
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