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Why Mistresses are all just about money ! - 9/29/2006 7:25:58 AM

womenrule

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I really enjoy being dominated by a women but honestly is something I cant afford. Looks to me that its a fetish just for rich old guys, some mistresses ask for 300 an hour some even 500, come on !! thats a week salary and we dont even have sex.

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RE: Why Mistresses are all just about money ! - 9/29/2006 7:38:39 AM

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Being dominated by a woman is 'supposed' to be about sex?

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RE: Why Mistresses are all just about money ! - 9/29/2006 8:07:32 AM

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1. If you do not want to pay, stop going to pro dommes. Problem solved.
2. Looking at your profile, you are looking for casual encounters that pretty much revolve around the sexual aspects. Many dommes are not going to like that and are looking for something deeper. But, there's someone for everyone, you just might have to wait to find what you are looking for. It sounds from your profile that you are looking to get off in a kinky way. Nothing wrong with that, at least you're honest. But many people are going to be put off by that.
3. Educate yourself about WIITWD in all its forms. You might get a better understanding of things. For many of us, this is a lifestyle choice not a fetish.

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RE: Why Mistresses are all just about money ! - 9/29/2006 8:13:49 AM

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With that profile, you might need to continue shelling out the money, but I could be wrong.
You should join local groups and find play partners that way who may be similarly looking for casual encounters. M

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RE: Why Mistresses are all just about money ! - 9/29/2006 8:14:26 AM

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You could try being Dominated by a man they may charge less or more depending upon what services you are asking for.

Otherwise I don't know any Mistresses that charge except for the ProDommes and thats how they make their money. If thats what you are looking for there's a few of them out there.

Most Mistresses do it because it is who they are and the way that they want to live, it has nothing to do with money or tribute.

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RE: Why Mistresses are all just about money ! - 9/29/2006 9:25:26 AM

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Guess I've been doing it all wrong for the last 20 yrs then.

I've never charged & I've actually had sex with those I've played with... not all, but a select few.

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RE: Why Mistresses are all just about money ! - 9/29/2006 9:34:20 AM

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You don't seem to be looking for a DOMINANT WOMAN, you seem to be looking for a Mistress. Mistress' can be DOMINANT WOMEN but most of them are Professional's. You say you want casual encounters and make a point of saying you don't want a 24/7 relationship...thats the difference. ENCOUNTERS cost money for the most part, RELATIONSHIPS cost time, energy, effort. Define what you want and look for that.

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RE: Why Mistresses are all just about money ! - 9/29/2006 11:04:09 AM

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I dunno.... This would cause me a bit of embarassment, lol. To me paying is crossing the line into prostitution which is definately NOT what S&M is about to me. Maybe I am just prideful, I dont know.

Try seeking out a relationship built on a basis of domination, I think you be more satisfied. Good luck.

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RE: Why Mistresses are all just about money ! - 9/29/2006 11:22:47 AM

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Dear womenrule, Ladies and Gentlemen;

May I have you publicly exclude me from your list of "Mistresses are "ALL" just about the money" thread?

Reason being--I don't need a man's money, I am doing ok. And, usually it is lazy slaves that want to hook up with me for my money! --Or, they fall in love with my toy bags. [Chuckles]

Seems $300.00 to $500.00 is fairly cheap for a pro-dominant. I know some who charge $3,000.00 just to appear and do absolutely nothing.
Then, the extra charges come when you want to do something and it might not be sex either!

Get what you pay for lad.

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RE: Why Mistresses are all just about money ! - 9/29/2006 11:28:34 AM

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Ahhhhhhh lets see, thinking back to the threads I have see about this whole money issuuuuuuuuue and another about no strings house work.

I don't want your damned money just clean my house!!!

(your still not going to get laid)

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RE: Why Mistresses are all just about money ! - 9/29/2006 11:32:35 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: BBBTBW

Mistress' can be DOMINANT WOMEN but most of them are Professionals.
Ms Loren

PLEASE don't say that! THIS is why there is the mis-identification between the Pro's and the independent Dommes.

To the OP- if you are seeking a Domme willing to be in a relationship.. get offline and into the local club or munches. No munch in your area? START ONE. You have to meet people face to face.

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RE: Why Mistresses are all just about money ! - 9/29/2006 11:39:18 AM

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Oh sure, I just live to have casual kinky sex with strangers who don't want to relate to me as a human being, a friend or in any kind of relationship. They just want what they want when they want it, and I'm supposed to drop everything and cater to that.

NOT.

Wake up and smell the coffee. It's not money we want, but to really enjoy what we're doing, and most importantly, who we're doing it with. I am not interested in marriage, kids and a white picket fence, but I'm also not interested in playing with total strangers who have nothing to share but their own selfish demands and who don't know me or care about me as a person. A male sub who has no room for me in his life as a human being and a friend is no one I have any interest in.

I want partners who submit to me because they know me, like me, respect me and genuinely want to please me. "Casual encounters" just don't do anything for me because they are missing that crucial element of personal connection.

If you go to enough BDSM events and play parties you may find some dommes who are looking for a more casual encounter at the event. But it almost certainly won't involve sex.

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RE: Why Mistresses are all just about money ! - 9/29/2006 11:44:26 AM

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If stupidity were a fantasy you would have had yours fulfilled already! I cant help but wonder where you've had your "head "buried!For $$$$$$? What do you think your worth?? And how much should I put up with before upping the ante???Those subs and slaves that have proven themselfs are with me because they also are worthy.someone turned you out to this lifestyle and left you with a twisted head!What my subs do for me is priceless! Donna

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RE: Why Mistresses are all just about money ! - 9/29/2006 11:49:20 AM

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RE: Why Mistresses are all just about money ! - 9/29/2006 12:04:47 PM

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maybe i should start a thread entitled:

Why Submissives Are All About SEX!!!!

he's obviously talking about pro dommes yet he's surprised they want to get paid or paid so much.. when DUH that's their profession- no rocket scientist conclusion there.

if he wants to find a Lifestyle Domme then tribute typically isn't expected.. it also means he can't make any sexual expectations on her either. just because i don't charge doesn't mean i want someone licking my pussy, my ass, or any other private part. if that's the case i'll get a kinky boyfriend and have at it.

for the life of me, i swear i don't understand why men think Dommes/Mistresses etc (no need to mince words or differentiate between the two in this instance) exist just so we can have a male lick our pussies, asses, or whatever else gets them off in a kinky manner.

of course pro dommes don't fuck their clients (unless she's really shady) and you're not paying to get laid.. if he was *actually* a slave he'd be paying for her time to engage in BDSM activities in a professional setting.

now if he wants to find a Lifestyle partner that he can have intimate relations with, not tribute, then that's something he's going to have to find OUTSIDE of pro domination. you can't go to a car dealer and ask why they charge $60,000 for a car when they're there to sell cars. that's absurd. pro dommes are there to be paid.

PERIOD. it's rather cut and dry.

i read his profile and the first thing i t hought was..ok, he's sexually submissive, not much into servitude, and just wants a kinky fuck.

i didn't hear anything REMOTELY service oriented yet this person has the audacity to lable himself a "slave". that's laughable. if a Mistress wants a sex *slave* she'll seek him out. personally.. i don't know of a single woman that would appreciate being approached with a laundry list sexual shit being offered by a *slave* she doesn't know. with that xmas wish list he calls a profile he needs to go find someone that he can pay to do all that to.

the average domme would probably laugh his ass outta her email box.

it never ceases to amaze me how many financially based threads there are here from the males.

but why don't i see an equal amount of threads from women tired of men that only approach us with their tongues or cocks out?

personally, i don't exist to be a vehicle on the road of kinky sex for any damn one.

hmmmm, maybe i'll post that as a question on this forum.

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RE: Why Mistresses are all just about money ! - 9/29/2006 12:30:56 PM

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but why don't i see an equal amount of threads from women tired of men that only approach us with their tongues or cocks out?

There are. They're called "Why do I get e-mails like this?" threads, and they happen every other day.

They just fizzle faster.

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RE: Why Mistresses are all just about money ! - 9/29/2006 12:48:52 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: gooddogbenji

quote:

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but why don't i see an equal amount of threads from women tired of men that only approach us with their tongues or cocks out?

There are. They're called "Why do I get e-mails like this?" threads, and they happen every other day.

They just fizzle faster.

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i think they fizzle faster because we just accept it as a part of the way some men approach us. we just don't bitch about it as much because we realize it's no point in it. we're still going to get the same emails from the same jerks wanting to fuck us into perpetuity. but no way are there as many threads bitching about men and their emails as there are regarding dommes wanting tribute.

this thread is just useless because he's asking why pro dommes charge or charge so much. if he doesn't want to pay.. he shouldn't go approach pros.

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RE: Why Mistresses are all just about money ! - 9/29/2006 12:55:37 PM

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But the reason the prodomme threads don't fizzle is because the prodommes keep it going, rather than realize that

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we're still going to get the same emails from the same jerks wanting to

convince you that you're prostitutes.

Don't blame this one all on the men!

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RE: Why Mistresses are all just about money ! - 9/29/2006 1:06:26 PM

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I am in the wrong business for sure. I should hang out a pro domme shingle. lol

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RE: Why Mistresses are all just about money ! - 9/29/2006 5:26:54 PM

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After reading your profile about your initiation, I might suggest you go back to school...just to be able to enhance your earnings, of course. lol

Sorry. I teach at college these days, and just couldn't resist.

** Edited because teacher missed a comma.