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twicehappy -> RE: What's the difference between a slave and a submissive? (10/14/2006 4:37:02 AM)
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ORIGINAL: spankmepink11
It reminds me of my children saying "all my friends are doing it" and of course the age old parental reply being, "if all your friends were jumping off a cliff would you also?" I'm sorry, i just cannot accept the concept that labeling oneself "slave" negates common sense and personal, moral, responsiblity/accountability.
Let me try to explain it a little better.
To begin it is not like you children performing any action because their friends were, that is different subject entirely.
And hopefully most slaves would use common sense and just say no to doing anything illegal, but the fact is that in some very intense M/s relationships it is very possible for the owner to convince them to do anything.
One does not become a slave by labeling oneself a slave, one might be collared as a slave at the start but the real slave mindset comes a little further on as during the course of the relationship you learn to trust your owner/s and your own will dissolves or is taken from you.
You read Jewel's story about the hole in the laundry room floor, well that just happened on Monday.
Scooter took me into the laundry room and pointed at the hole in the floor which went all the way outside where the phone lines had been previously brought in; there was also an entire section of inside wall that had been removed and the insulation taken out as well. He simply pointed at the floor and said see that hole, it is a problem I want you to fix it.
When I owned my own home I would have looked at the entire mess, cut flooring that matched exactly, repaired the wall etc.
When I was first collared I would have hit him with 20 questions like " Is there flooring that matches? What about the hole outside? Do you have bricks or cement to close that off? We should insulate that wall do you want me to do that to?"
Time has however passed and I know not to question him, I trust that what he tells me to do is what he wants me to do. So when he said "fix that hole in the floor" I did. I found wood, cut it to fit, filled the hole in the floor only with insulation and fixed the hole in the floor.
When he came home I was really happy, "look Master, I remembered to fix the hole in the floor".
He then explained there was flooring that matched and the rest of what he wanted done. Was he mad at me? No.
Was I upset because I did not do what he wanted but did not explain? No
Why? Because I trusted that I did exactly what he told me to do, I am not labeling myself a slave, I am a slave. Master said do, I did. In the context of our relationship I do not stop and question anything anymore; does this make me wrong or irresponsible? No, it makes me his slave. But it does make me not accountable when i do exactly what he told me to do.
Whose fault is it the repairs were not done the way he intended or the way on my own I would have thought they should be done? Scooter's, totally. He admitted as much immediately, he should have been more specific.
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