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RE: It's true NOT "twue"!!!! - 10/17/2006 9:41:15 AM   
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In the thread that is being most often brought up here....not one person on that thread ever said "My way is the "true" way and the "only" way and if you don't agree you're not "real". Actually, over and over again everyone was invited and encouraged to present their definitions and differing viewpoints. But the mocking started and continued and the "mockers" couldn't see the irony in that by belittling and mocking they were trying to come across as "superior".
Well how is that any less elitist?


It's very funny because I didn't read any of Twice's thread after her initial post.  It was actually a great starter post, but I had too much going on to give it serious attention, so I just let that thread go.  I saw how it persisted and went far beyond the standard posting levle for that type of topic, but continued on my way without much thought given.

Now we have this thread and I find out so much more about it.  I do remember Twice's OP quite clearly and it seemed the most obvious thing in the world that she just wanted to gather a summary of everyone's different perspectives and definitions.

The Scooter/Jewel/Twice clan have all started and eagerly participated in threads discussing definitions, perceptions, political correctness, and the ideas of absolutism and standards- it's obviously something they put a lot of thought into and provoke lots of discussions about.  They certainly open themselves up to taking heat and I can understand why they inspire mocking and derision from others.

While one can debate the absolutism of their own perspectives and definitions, or their attitudes towards it- I thought it was pretty clear that THAT particular OP was anything but an attempt to narrow down definitions, in fact it was a very broad "everyone show your cards on the table" moment.

I gotta stop skipping threads.

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RE: It's true NOT "twue"!!!! - 10/17/2006 10:00:28 AM   
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and LA makes it 400 responses... yeaahhhh

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RE: It's true NOT "twue"!!!! - 10/17/2006 10:02:18 AM   
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Youre all nuts! D'ya hear? Nuts!

Probably why I feel so at home here

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RE: It's true NOT "twue"!!!! - 10/17/2006 10:07:53 AM   
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Two nuts walking through the park when the first turns to the other and says, What are we doing, we can't walk, we have no legs. The second one thinks for a moment and replies, Hey you're right, lets ride our bikes instead...

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RE: It's true NOT "twue"!!!! - 10/17/2006 12:12:39 PM   
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holly, MisPandora, julia and katyLied, I apologize for My part in bringing down on you whatever it is that was brought down on you.


People should only be held accountable for their own words, and in your words I can find nothing that you have to apologize for. I find in life that context and intention are everything. I can find no evil intention towards me in the original context of your use of my name... so no apology necessary. I wish more people would take context into consideration when forming judgments and also consider the source when reading anything.. it would make human interactions much more simple.

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RE: It's true NOT "twue"!!!! - 10/17/2006 6:27:38 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

chill your ass out



Arent there water filled dildos which you can freeze to do this?

And having said that, I feel it imperative to reiterate that I am a pitcher and
not a catcher.

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RE: It's true NOT "twue"!!!! - 10/17/2006 6:29:26 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Iskander

Two nuts walking through the park when the first turns to the other and says, What are we doing, we can't walk, we have no legs. The second one thinks for a moment and replies, Hey you're right, lets ride our bikes instead...

Iskander...





On the subject of nuts.

When I am trying to convince women in my classes to knee me in the groin hard, my boss often asks them to think of their knee slamming into my testicles so hard that they end up under my chin.

I love my groin protector.  Although it is a platonic thing, really.

Sinergy

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RE: It's true NOT "twue"!!!! - 10/17/2006 8:18:33 PM   
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I love my groin protector.  Although it is a platonic thing, really.

Sinergy


I thought those things were made from plastic... ;)

Iskander...


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RE: It's true NOT "twue"!!!! - 10/17/2006 8:31:11 PM   
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OK i'm late to the party on this... because I get annoyed over what people say about "True"... but I already tried to change my name once.. not gonna do it again....LOL

I'm true to me....so I can be true to another... that's all that matters to me...and whom i'm serving...


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RE: It's true NOT "twue"!!!! - 10/17/2006 9:01:11 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LadyEllen

Hasnt anyone used their safeword on this thread yet?

Its well past any limit by now, suwely?

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RED
 
There, I don't care if it makes me not a "true" slave or a "twue" slave.. I am using the dang thing anyway.
 
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RE: It's true NOT "twue"!!!! - 10/17/2006 9:32:12 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Sinergy

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

chill your ass out



Arent there water filled dildos which you can freeze to do this?

And having said that, I feel it imperative to reiterate that I am a pitcher and
not a catcher.

Sinergy


ok then!!!

*** slaps a man size butt plug on to the horse***

just pitch your ass on to the horse then and ride  lol

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RE: It's true NOT "twue"!!!! - 10/18/2006 11:04:46 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Level

“You know an odd feeling? Sitting on the toilet eating a chocolate candy bar”



Reminds me of Bill Murray in the HazMat suit cleaning the "doody" out of the pool in the movie Caddyshack.

"Its ok" (holding it up and taking a bite out of it)

Just me, could be wrong, but there you go.

Sinergy

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RE: It's true NOT "twue"!!!! - 10/18/2006 11:07:33 AM   
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Twue subs don't use safewords.
Duh.




Safewowd.

Pwease make a note of this.

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RE: It's true NOT "twue"!!!! - 10/18/2006 11:11:13 AM   
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ORIGINAL: LadyEllen

Hasnt anyone used their safeword on this thread yet?

Its well past any limit by now, suwely?

E


Some threads are like the OJ Simpson / White Bronco Car chase.

People know there are 1,478,123,984,702,198,709,871,234 more important things they could be doing with their life, and yet people stared at a white bronco driving on the freeway for hours on television like it was oncoming headlights and they had suddenly morphed into Bambi.

Just me, could be wrong, but there you go.

Sinergy

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RE: It's true NOT "twue"!!!! - 10/18/2006 11:16:17 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Sinergy
I love my groin protector.  Although it is a platonic thing, really.

Sinergy


I thought those things were made from plastic... ;)

Iskander...




The one I wear is a patented and custom designed item which starts in front around my belly button, goes between my legs, and extends up to the middle of my spine in back.

It is vacuum formed with a few layers of plastic, and then covered with 2 inches of foam padding. on the top edges and all across the outside.

So it transfers the force of the blow to my pubic bone and the straps around my hips and my, umm, "nuts" are happy and content in their little home with Mr. Tiny no matter how ferociously I get kneed.

Comparing it to a martial arts cup is like comparing a M16A1 to a bb gun.

Just me, could be wrong, but there you go.

Sinergy

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RE: It's true NOT "twue"!!!! - 10/21/2006 4:52:33 PM   
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you are so brilliant awesome;
a true top

im so humbled by you automatically
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Oh, Ja, honey..........you blend.....


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RE: It's true NOT "twue"!!!! - 10/21/2006 5:01:26 PM   
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I thought I was, in my Yoot, but ownedgirlie dispelled that myth.

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RE: It's true NOT "twue"!!!! - 10/21/2006 9:17:29 PM   
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ORIGINAL: mistoferin

True is a four letter word....but that doesn't make it a BAD word. Actually I think it's a rather good word. I am really annoyed how so many make a mockery of it here. I think all this "twue" crap is pretty immature....and all of the other "w" speak too.. Personally, after looking at the definition of true, I know that I would not be involved with anyone on a serious level if I felt they did not have the characteristics associated with the word. Steadfast, loyal, honest, just, truthful, ideal, essential, consistent. I don't understand how those are bad things to be. Granted, what rings true for me may not ring true for you.....but the word actually has some merit....at least for me.



I think "true" is a good word too. I also regret the frequency with people make a mockery of it. The cases I have in mind are the cases where people describe their personal preferences as "the true" or "the real" (real is another perfectly serviceable word which unfortunately is commonly used in inappropriate and often denigrating ways around here.)

Sometimes I comment on these uses of the word true which only serve to gut its meaning. Sometimes I comment on those usages by satirically using the term "twue". When I say twue I am not mocking the word true. I am defending, in a very small way, the gutting of this wonderful word by those who use it in a way that is radically relativistic. I am mocking the activity of the person using the word true in this particular manner.

There has been some talk of childishness in this thread. What is more childish than to say: "Words mean what I say they mean"? I suppose some adults would kowtow to a child who proceeded in that fashion but I think most of us in dealing with a child beyond a certain very young age would do them the kindness of pointing out that the world doesn't work that way.

When someone says "true means whatever I say it means to me" I think they are being ridiculous. Sworn in to the witness stand this person can say he saw his neighbor at the bank when he was actually saw her at the gas station, or didn't see her at all. The witness has sworn to tell the truth, and his definition of truth is "Whatever I say it is." Maybe to them "justice" also means nothing but what they say it means so it is neither here nor there that they have made a strategic decision to abandon the idea of truth as it has been understood for millenia, only to use that word where other people mean would say "my personal preference or opinion."

Yeah, mistoferin, as long as you consistently explain that by "true submissive" you mean, say, "courteous and loyal submissive" (or whatever) you can reappropriate the word true without doing violence to it. But you must know as well as I do that the many people who habitually use the words true and real in the sense at issue don't consistently qualify their usage. And what's the point anyway?

If you mean "courteous and loyal" (please substitute whatever you actually prefer there) why not just say "courteous and loyal"?

In the first place it would make your point ever so much more clearly and in the second place it would avoid kindling discussion like this one? Why not just be clear?

We can call courteous, loyal subs "true" or we can call them "green" or we can call them "phyllis". But for heaven's sake, why? Why not just call them courteous and loyal?

Here are four possible thread topics:

"Are there any green subs left out there?"

"Are there any phyllis subs left out there?"

"Are there any true subs left out there?"

"Are there any courteous and loyal subs out there?"

If the kind of subs the poster wants to discuss are courteous and loyal, the choice of how to word the topic seems simple and clear to me. Say what you mean rather than taking a word with a well-established meaning and expecting others of every age, gender and background to first of all understand your personal, idiosyncratic meaning and secondly not to be miffed that you are needlessly muddying the waters and devaluing a very valuable word like "true."

I'm trying to explain--with the goal of increased mutual understanding--why it is that the kind of use of "true" that is at issue here irks other people even as the use of "twue" irks you.

I hope you can take it (or leave it) for what it is, a discussion about people's reactions to certain word usages and not as some sort of attack on you.




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RE: It's true NOT "twue"!!!! - 10/21/2006 9:17:45 PM   
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I thought I was, in my Yoot, but ownedgirlie dispelled that myth.

Hey now wait a sec....I think you're brilliant, Ron.  Really, I do!

(And yay to you for saying "yoot!")

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RE: It's true NOT "twue"!!!! - 10/21/2006 9:49:45 PM   
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ORIGINAL: mistoferin

Yes Katy, that would have been me. I paraphrased it because I thought it was a prime example of what I am talking about here. Not the people who use the term humorously, such as yourself...but as in that example, used it to slam and belittle someone. That example was actually most likely the turning point for me. Up to that point, to be honest, I had not given alot of thought as to how offensively it could be used....that particular example showed exactly how low some will take it though.


This post points up what is to me a crucial and very helpful distinction which as far as I can tell has been consistently glossed over in this thread.

It is possible to address the action of a person in a critical way without in any sense intending to belittle that person. It may be that in some cases people have said "twue" (humorously or pointedly or in any other mood) to belittle others. It is surely the case, however, that people have said "twue" to accent what they see as the abject silliness of one kind of use of the word "true", the one in question throughout this thread, without attacking in any way the person who used the word.

Maturity keeps coming up as a topic here. I think it is a sign of emotional maturity to be able to recognize the difference between criticism of a behavior or a choice vs. a vicious personal attack. In this case these are represented by having a figure of speech mocked and having the speaker mocked, as it were.

When I see a person I have no bad opinion of do something I find ridiculous, I might under certain circumstances choose to ridicule that behavior. If my friend gets all full of himself (or full of beer) and starts acting like a knucklehead I might well call him on it. I'm not attacking him. Far from it. And I hope he'll do the same for me although there may well be amomewnt when I don't exactly welcome it.

If a stranger is acting ridiculous then, again, under certain kinds of circumstances I might choose to call him on his behavior. That doesn't constitute an attack on his person or belittling him in any sense of the word I know.

Then again, if a person acts ridiculous consistently and obnoxiously and perhaps hurtfully, I might decide to attack him by way of belittling or other means. It takes a good deal more to inspire this behavior in me but I reserve the right to do so and to deal with the results of my actions.

The point I'm making is that a false dichotomy has been posited and tacitly accepted in this thread so far. That uses of "twue" fall into two categories. The one might be called "unobjectionable humor" and the other "belittling". I'll grant that there may have been instances of both of these. Fair enough. But the discussion should take into accunt that often when "twue" is used the only negative behind it is a criticism of a behavior, not an attack on a person.

I can't see why it is less valid for me to criticize what I find a pernicious use of a valuable word ("true") than for you to criticize the mode I may choose in which to express my criticism.

Some people insist upon using the word "true" to describe what they prefer and therefore--by normal implication--letting "untrue" describe everyone who disagrees with them. If they would realize that (in many cases, at least) their choice and not their person is being attacked, a more fruitful discussion could ensue or anyway people could rest easy in their respective corners, not unduly trouble by the occasional ineffectual potshot from the other camp.

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