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RE: looking 4 mistress so difficult - 10/22/2006 8:19:49 PM   
Jasmyn


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Status: offline 		lol I like feeding them on occasions... but you're doing well ... great day here... national holiday, everyone's happy :P

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RE: looking 4 mistress so difficult - 10/22/2006 8:22:43 PM   
sissifytoserve


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Status: offline 		A Mistress is hard to find.

But if you are honest in your intentions and you are persistant...your drive to be a goodsub/slave
will bear fruits.

Be patient and don't use just collarme.com to find a dominant woman.

Get involved, get in the game and don't be a defeatist.

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RE: looking 4 mistress so difficult - 10/22/2006 8:26:18 PM   
michaelGA2


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quote:

ORIGINAL: TheMind

I know - my orginal post hits too close to home and is uncomfortable for you.

But it is only one man's opinion - why does that scare you into silence?




why is it that threads cannot go without someone slamming someone else?


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RE: looking 4 mistress so difficult - 10/22/2006 8:30:34 PM   
kc692


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Status: offline 		As I said, I fed more than my share the other night, smiles,,,,,so trying to be good today, since it's 10:30 I have a fair shot at making it through this day, lol.  What holiday is it over there?

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RE: looking 4 mistress so difficult - 10/22/2006 8:45:21 PM   
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I think my own personal problem right now is that most dominant women don't want to put in any effort towards someone if they don't live next door to them - regardless of compatibility - as deep down they know there is always someone else right around the corner.


This is a pretty valid comment IMO.  I think that way, actually though there are a few people I've met I wish lived closer.  However, it's also realistic.  Long distance relationships rarely work so I believe it is a valid requirement to have potentials be required to live in the vacinity.  If one can not meet frequently then you are left with cyber...

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RE: looking 4 mistress so difficult - 10/22/2006 8:51:13 PM   
Jasmyn


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RE: looking 4 mistress so difficult - 10/23/2006 5:42:46 AM   
MsSonnetMarwood


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MsKatHouston

quote:

I think my own personal problem right now is that most dominant women don't want to put in any effort towards someone if they don't live next door to them - regardless of compatibility - as deep down they know there is always someone else right around the corner.


This is a pretty valid comment IMO.  I think that way, actually though there are a few people I've met I wish lived closer.  However, it's also realistic.  Long distance relationships rarely work so I believe it is a valid requirement to have potentials be required to live in the vacinity.  If one can not meet frequently then you are left with cyber...



I have to agree with Kat regarding long distance relationships.

The reality is that both parties need to not only be open to having a long distance relationship, but have the means to do so - to be able to cover the financial costs of travel and hotel rooms, and to have blocks of time measurable in days on a regular basis that coincide.  How long is it reasonable for you to talk online before you meet?  What will you do if you travel 1000 miles and there's just no chemistry?  Then there's the issue of truly being willing to relocate.  Would you REALLY be able to quit your job, pack up, and move?   What would it do to your career?  What would it do to your relationships with your family and friends?

These are all issues that you need to have a handle on before you get involved, or surely you will torpedo any potential relationship, because they will ALL come up.

And really...if someone (domme, sub, otherwise) says they're only looking for local relationships - then accept it.  That person probably has some valid reasons, and no amount of wheedling will make those reasons invalid.  For example, in the last month, I've had probably a dozen offers to come see me weekends, to pay to fly me to them, etc etc.   Given that I work weekends and am in school all week....exactly when do I have time to do that on a regular basis?

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RE: looking 4 mistress so difficult - 10/23/2006 7:58:46 AM   
Sylph


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Status: offline 		To the OP , I think my question is what exactly to you want to get out of this on-line service? What would be in it for the Domme?

You have heard allot of Dommes say they have no interest in on-line.I don't have much use for it myself. The following is a contrast to illustrate the difference in my view.  If I am feeling a bit impish I can chase the GF around the house, smack her ass and feel her squirm , and it goes from there. If I am feeling in need of some pampering She can make me tea, rub my back  and do the dishes for me. ( I hate dishes) We are both getting something out of that.

On-line I get the fantasy of service. Then I turn off the computer and I am alone with no tea and no bottom squirming on my lap. The sink is full of dishes due to the chores neglected while I was typing away.I just don't get much out of it.

Others mileage may vary.

Sylph

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RE: looking 4 mistress so difficult - 10/24/2006 3:39:15 AM   
orfunboi


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quote:

ORIGINAL: michaelGA2

quote:

ORIGINAL: TheMind

I know - my orginal post hits too close to home and is uncomfortable for you.

But it is only one man's opinion - why does that scare you into silence?




why is it that threads cannot go without someone slamming someone else?



Because this is the internet and the internet breeds trolls.....

Ya wanna meet a FemDomme and know she is for real.....meet her in the real world.

Unfortuately for those like themind, he can't go out and spew insults in real life....so he hides here behind new screennames and pisses and moans about how awful women are. Amazing, because then he wonders why no one wants anything to do with him. 

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RE: looking 4 mistress so difficult - 10/24/2006 3:48:57 AM   
orfunboi


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ORIGINAL: TheMind

Not true at all - I have alot of success with women.
I suspect much more success than yourself................


If this were true, you wouldn't be online under a troll name slamming women. Maybe one day if you grow up, you will understand, until then i am just thankful that your not in the real world.

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RE: looking 4 mistress so difficult - 10/24/2006 5:01:47 AM   
UnvailedPurpose


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Status: offline 		The Mind:.
Refrain from complaining about what you view as difficult; accept your challenges with gusto and unwavering commitment.
Submerge yourself in the so-called difficulties facing you without compromising your ethics integrities and/or honor codes.
Personally, I find challenges, geography numbered amongst them, offer both interest and intrigue. To limit ones self-remains self-limiting…at what point does geographically limiting the self become unacceptable? When do you step out of the mold others have fashioned for you and at what point do you defy the limitations others impose upon you?
If the challenges rewards and opportunities you are striving for require extensive mobility then mobility becomes your responsibility, not the acceptance of others opinions and those refusing to explore probability predicated upon an imaginative distance line should be respected for their determination to limit themselves irrespective of their reasoning


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RE: looking 4 mistress so difficult - 10/24/2006 8:25:46 AM   
Morrigel


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quote:

ORIGINAL: orfunboi

If this were true, you wouldn't be online under a troll name slamming women.


Lol...very true. 

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 Maybe one day if you grow up, you will understand, until then i am just thankful that your not in the real world.


Oh, he is in the real world.  And to be honest, so are the women he wants to be dominated by--beautiful, thin, young, brilliant, vicious bitches.

Problem is...these women, in terms of looks alone, are exceptional.  You combine their exceptional looks with their exceptional brilliance and exceptional sexual temperament, and you realize that they are really as rare as diamonds.  And like all incredibly exceptional people, these women don't waste their time on men who aren't as exceptional as they are.  If Angelina Jolie feels like whipping someone's ass, she'll pick Brad Pitt--not this idiot.

A woman who has the world by the tail and mankind by the balls can write her own ticket, and spend her time with truly remarkable men--professional athletes, actors, musicians, artists, politicians, religious leaders  .  Why on earth would such a woman look twice at some lamentably average schlub who has nothing to offer but his bullshit sense of entitlement?

Men who only want to submit to a supermodel are as pathetic as the women who only want to submit to the guy painted on the cover of a romance novel.  The difference is, their female counterparts are less likely to spend money on achieving sexual satisfaction in life--as women become more sexually liberated in future generations, I am sure the number of "male model" dominants-for-hire will increase dramatically.  Until then, the submissive men with no ability to achieve their fantasies will have to keep paying hundreds of dollars to professional femme dommes,  and the submissive women in a similar position will have to keep spending a few bucks buying romance novels about Bad Bad But Terribly Handsome Men who Kidnap the Virtuous Heroine and Ravish Her.

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RE: looking 4 mistress so difficult - 10/24/2006 10:18:19 AM   
kc692


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Status: offline 		This is without  doubt one of the most eloquent, and on the mark responses I have seen on these boards in a long time.  I am not trying to hijack the thread, but I had to say, Morrigel, I have been truly impressed with your words the short time you have been a member. 

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RE: looking 4 mistress so difficult - 10/24/2006 10:32:17 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: orfunboi

quote:

ORIGINAL: TheMind

Not true at all - I have alot of success with women.
I suspect much more success than yourself................


If this were true, you wouldn't be online under a troll name slamming women. Maybe one day if you grow up, you will understand, until then i am just thankful that your not in the real world.


If he does go out in the real world wont be long before a woman figures out his fascade and runs to the nearest exit.

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RE: looking 4 mistress so difficult - 10/24/2006 10:34:29 AM   
jimbo747


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quote:

ORIGINAL: orfunboi

quote:

ORIGINAL: michaelGA2

quote:

ORIGINAL: TheMind

I know - my orginal post hits too close to home and is uncomfortable for you.

But it is only one man's opinion - why does that scare you into silence?




why is it that threads cannot go without someone slamming someone else?



Because this is the internet and the internet breeds trolls.....

Ya wanna meet a FemDomme and know she is for real.....meet her in the real world.

Unfortuately for those like themind, he can't go out and spew insults in real life....so he hides here behind new screennames and pisses and moans about how awful women are. Amazing, because then he wonders why no one wants anything to do with him. 


Doubt he wonders why no one wants anything to do with him.  A person like him wonders instead 'what's wrong with everyone else.'

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RE: looking 4 mistress so difficult - 10/24/2006 10:39:09 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Morrigel

A woman who has the world by the tail and mankind by the balls can write her own ticket, and spend her time with truly remarkable men--professional athletes, actors, musicians, artists, politicians, religious leaders  . 
Why on earth would such a woman look twice at some lamentably average schlub who has nothing to offer but his bullshit sense of entitlement?

\--M


(Or the other remarkable men who hold no famous title but are honorable and intelligent and scintillating just the same.)

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RE: looking 4 mistress so difficult - 10/24/2006 10:56:16 AM   
LadyMorgynn


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Status: offline 		Why would I be remotely interested in training some slave for someone else?  Online, no less, so that I don't even get the temporary benefits of a clean kitchen, massaged feet, etc.?  Besides the obvious lack of ANY kind of benefit acruing to the Domina, such training may in fact NOT help you at all in serving another Mistress, who may do things completely different.

Stop wasting your time (and ours) and go find a real-life Mistress to accept you and train you to her liking.

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ORIGINAL: jayslave77

why is it so hard to find a mistress to serve online that doesnt want money, all i want to do is learn from a mistress online how to serve so that when i am ready to serve one in real life i will be ready to.  any kind of help would be appreciative.


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RE: looking 4 mistress so difficult - 10/24/2006 2:34:26 PM   
Morrigel


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quote:

ORIGINAL: kc692

This is without  doubt one of the most eloquent, and on the mark responses I have seen on these boards in a long time.  I am not trying to hijack the thread, but I had to say, Morrigel, I have been truly impressed with your words the short time you have been a member. 


Many thanks for the kind words.  Within a few months, I will be 37 years old, and an actively dominant woman for 19 years.  If I hadn't learned a lot and figured out a few things by now, after spending so many years wielding the crop, it would be kinda surprising.

--M

P.S. to Jimbo

quote:


(Or the other remarkable men who hold no famous title but are honorable and intelligent and scintillating just the same.)


Exactly!    When I went through my "curious" phase, I experimented by dating a lot of men that other women seemed to think were The Shit (tm)--the Handsome European BoyToy, the Successful Doctor, the Professional Athlete (retired).  Since I like men generally, I found something to enjoy on all these dates, but nothing that made me prefer any of them to a guy who was just plain kinky.

Yum yum. 

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RE: looking 4 mistress so difficult - 10/24/2006 4:11:01 PM   
SwitchSeven


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Status: offline 		I am a Pro Domme in a commercial dungeon. My friend I hear your story and your cry over and over and to be honest nothing in life is free, time is money when it comes to most dommes we have lives and or families maybe two or three jobs and REAL lives aside of if possible playtime, let alone FREE playtime. It isnt about money for me or any other Domme I know, but taking into consideration do you go into any place like for example a stripclub where fantasies are delivered and ask for free dances, or free drinks in a bar, or even do you yourself work at your job or profession for free? This is my PROFESSION. Would say Brad Pitt give free acting classes? I am a Pro and if anyone comes to me expecting a "free acting class" I am going to say no as well. Please understand there are so many generous slaves who value our time and show their gratitude for MAKING the time due to hectic schedules possible kids and families, multiple jobs etc...it is insulting to me when free playtime is EXPECTED. It isnt about you..it is about ME and always ME! maybe you should visit a public arena dungeon like say Apex, or join a group like TNG. As far as online..I dont do it. I dont know any dommes who have the time nor care to. Someone else on here mentioned the "whiners"...that is appropriate. They are like mosquitos.
Mistress Seven

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RE: looking 4 mistress so difficult - 11/23/2006 5:15:15 PM   
yannis7


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Status: offline 		Actually, MANY professionals in MANY lines of work - entertainment, business, etc - offer their services from their given TALENT fields for FREE - even actors like the Brad Pitts of the world and others on The Actors Studio for instance.  Professionals offer their expert services free to schools, seminars, community organizations, charities, and the like.  A Domme CANNOT because SEX is all she has to OFFER.  Thus, it MUST be ALL about the MONEY since you do not and  cannot offer your services FREE like other professionals do.  So quit conning people with bs.

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