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RE: looking 4 mistress so difficult - 10/22/2006 5:45:04 AM

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There really isn't any pay off for Me...to train a sub online and another thing. BORING. I wanna spank you in real life. NOT by sending an icon all the time. It's about Me too....I want to be served, face to face.
The best thing for you to do online is read read and read. Try to find people in your area that are in the scene and get out and try things that way.

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RE: looking 4 mistress so difficult - 10/22/2006 1:02:06 PM

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ORIGINAL: stef

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LOL How come I think of sour grapes when I read this

Because sour grapes produce the best whine.

~stef

That's the best quip I have read all day!!!!!(realizing I am a few days late reading it, lol)

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RE: looking 4 mistress so difficult - 10/22/2006 1:35:53 PM

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mother Eve, you spelled attractive wrong, your so smug

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RE: looking 4 mistress so difficult - 10/22/2006 1:45:38 PM

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mother Eve, you spelled attractive wrong, your so smug

which looks to be a typo not an obvious case of her not knowing how to spell. But, you spelled "you're" wrong, just FYI.

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RE: looking 4 mistress so difficult - 10/22/2006 2:15:55 PM

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Jump on the typo, if you read later you would see she corrected it. Have you found your mistake yet?

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RE: looking 4 mistress so difficult - 10/22/2006 2:18:43 PM

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I just wanted to say I read your post to jaye about why Domme's do not want an online sub. Kudos! I am impressed with your ability to think outside the box. I believe that you will find a mistress that will be prefect for you someday. It is rare to come across a sub here that has the heart for service as you obviously do. You have shown your ability to think and realize that your personal skills can be of value in you service to a Mistress in real life.
I believe in giving praise when it is due.
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RE: looking 4 mistress so difficult - 10/22/2006 2:31:43 PM

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I have been online for a short time today and already recieved a few one liners though my profile says I don't like one liners. Tell me how am I going to think they could serve me if they can't even serve me in that one simple request? If i read a profile and it says nothing more than I want a "do me" Domme to me because they have no more desire to truely serve than that. So if a sub can't give me anything more that I want a Mistress to teach me to serve online well I have no interest.
If you can't be bothered to have a real profile with something more than that it says I want a Service Top to give me all I want my way in my time and to hell with what she wants.
That isnt service. I am real time because I can look in their eyes and know when they are full of crap or seriously sorry when they have failed to do something as instructed. I want to see their reaction when i grab a wad of hair and put them where I want them. I want to watch their breathing change and to see their body quiver and hear the moand or whatever, I dont get any of that online. All I get is someone on the other side saying they are doing as I ask and I get nothing. How can I say ...boring! I am not out to just get something out of it myself but want those that serve me to get something out of it as well. But I have no desire to be a service top to anyone. To me that is me serving the sub and that is no less that working with a sub that tops from the bottom all the time. I don't work with that type in real life why would I do it online?
So that is probably why many charge for it.
Roseofsheryn

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RE: looking 4 mistress so difficult - 10/22/2006 2:57:51 PM

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I get many requests for online training and I find it boring just as I find boring the idea of masturbating on cam just for some stranger to see. I would train for money merely because if they are so keen on spending it why not take it.

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RE: looking 4 mistress so difficult - 10/22/2006 4:59:55 PM

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I'm sure I'm not the only one who removes a sub from consideration who approaches me to meet real time when he claims to have been trained online.

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RE: looking 4 mistress so difficult - 10/22/2006 6:26:04 PM

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Jayslave77…….I know where you are at.

The answer to your question is really very simple - dominant women, as you want them to be, simply do not exist. This is the true source of your frustration.

I have found that women who profess to be "dominant" can be divided into two basic categories. These categories are based on their individual needs - it has nothing to do with them being "dominant".

Category #1: Women in need of money.
These are the Pro-Domme / Money Domme types who need to obtain income and are not inclined, or incapable of, legitimate employment. They will charge you a fee for doing awful things to you that you pretend to not want them to do but actually want them to do so badly you will pay them for it. It is form of sexual service for financial gain…ok it is blatant prostitution. They are no more "dominant" than any other woman - they are simply role playing for money. If any of them won the lottery they would never pick up a whip again - it is all a joke.

Category #2: Women who are not attractive to men.
These are the women who simply do not have the physical appearance and personality to attract a male. Since they are typically overweight, poorly educated with a menial job, combined an unpleasant personality this results in them being lonely. They are lonely because no man wants to be with them because, frankly, they are too lazy to improve themselves so they could attract a male.

Somehow these women find out about the D/s lifestyle and realize they can play all of the above negatives as "attributes" which make them a "Dominant Goddess" in the D/s world. These women are no more dominant than any other woman you may meet - they are simply very unpleasant ,overweight, ladies who are lonely and who are working an angle to get a man.

Category #3 does not exist. It is this category that you and I seek. It is the category of a young, thin, attractive, well educated, professionally employed, articulate and intelligent dominant woman who enjoys dominating you because, well - because she actually enjoys it………

The sooner you realize your choice is limited to Category #1, Category #2 or letting all of this go the better off you will be.

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RE: looking 4 mistress so difficult - 10/22/2006 6:34:27 PM

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Folks this is one bitter man.

What a joke.

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RE: looking 4 mistress so difficult - 10/22/2006 6:39:15 PM

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jay dont listen to pandoras whinning about guys whinning. she always whines hereself about others.shes going to fall from that high horse soon. youre question is ligitimate. most want a fee because they spend time with you and dont get anything out of it so thatswhy they charge.

Pandora's contributed more to the BDSM community in real life than most folks here have a clue about. Actually most folks here don't seem to realize that there is such a thing as a real life BDSM community, since their entire attention is focused on themselves and their personal sexual gratification. And they whine when they don't get it. Pandora's not whining; you just don't recognize the perspective of someone who knows what works and what doesn't from experience in the real world.

Ya know, if nobody is personally getting anything out of spending time with you unless they get paid, that says a lot more about your social skills than about other people. There are dominant women out there who very much enjoy spending time with submissive men, as long as those men are intelligent, articulate, fun to be with, considerate, respectful and compassionate human beings. Whiners who are exclusively focused on gratifying their own dicks with absolutely no interest in their partners as human beings, no social skills and no willingness to share any part of their lives except the kinky stuff are NO FUN, and only the pros are going to put up with them.

If you happen to fit the description of a dick-focused random horny jerk with no life who demands that his fetish get fulfilled and doesn't appear to give a shit who's on the other end of the whip as long as she has a nice pair of tits, then nobody is going to get anything out of spending time with you. Except a pro. And all she'll get is money, because there are much nicer clients around that she will enjoy seeing a lot more.

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RE: looking 4 mistress so difficult - 10/22/2006 6:40:56 PM

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Bitter?

Not at all. I am simply providing to the orginal poster my analysis of the situation.

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RE: looking 4 mistress so difficult - 10/22/2006 6:41:33 PM

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you joined 10-22-06 "today" and right away you post a negative message about women. How many alias do u got?

again what a joke

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RE: looking 4 mistress so difficult - 10/22/2006 6:47:09 PM

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If you were taking any other course on line, utilizing the time from some other professional person, you would pay for their services, so why not in this case?.

The OP wasn't looking to pay someone for lessons though.

No, he wasn't looking to pay. He said "why is it so hard to find a mistress to serve online that doesnt want money, all i want to do is learn from a mistress online how to serve so that when i am ready to serve one in real life i will be ready to"

He wants the lesson, but he seems to think she should do it out of the goodness of her heart, so when he is ready, he can go find someone else to serve in real life.

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RE: looking 4 mistress so difficult - 10/22/2006 6:49:09 PM

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I have found that when one does not have a vaild arguement to make against a postion, or the brains to compose an argument in the first place, the typical tactic is to attack the messenger and ignore the postion to be argued against.

< Message edited by TheMind -- 10/22/2006 6:57:27 PM >

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RE: looking 4 mistress so difficult - 10/22/2006 6:50:41 PM

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Oh look, another wanker, who can't get a female within 10 ft of him, unless he's holding a credit card.

Get a clue buddy, maybe it's not the women....maybe its you.

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RE: looking 4 mistress so difficult - 10/22/2006 6:52:23 PM

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you joined 10-22-06 "today" and right away you post a negative message about women. How many alias do u got?

again what a joke

i am sure he has many, and if we look back on this thread, we will probibly find one.

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RE: looking 4 mistress so difficult - 10/22/2006 6:54:43 PM

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Not true at all - I have alot of success with women.
I suspect much more success than yourself................

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RE: looking 4 mistress so difficult - 10/22/2006 6:57:56 PM

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Personally I think that many female dominants and I have to include myself here, have become very judgemental of people on-ine. Because of all the crap that gets sent to us...its a bad side effect. It can affect us as much as discourage true seekers. Its part of taking the good and bad and using what you know to weed it all out.

Koneko

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