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RE: Testing - 11/4/2006 3:48:01 PM

gooddogbenji

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Just testing out my signature.

Yours,

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RE: Testing - 11/4/2006 3:49:38 PM

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ORIGINAL: MistressYlwa

Thought I was clear in my question. But seems I was not.

While spammers are easy to spot, many times we end up investing in a potential partner, only to have them disappear or drag things out without any intention of commiting. My question is if, after some time passes and you are questioning the potentials commitment, it is unreasonable to "test" them.

Hope this clears up any confusion.
Mistress Ylwa

I hate testing. I don't do it with my friends, my brother, my kids or others in my family so why would I do it with the person who I might want to share a life with?
One of the reasons I don't care for SAM behavior is that it is a time of stressing and, to me, a form of testing. That is the same reason I don't care for a show of "prove your dominance of me to me" every day either, no matter how subtly it is done. It's testing...and my biggest question in those instances is this: Why did you agree to submit if you are going to challenge my control of your submission each day? In terms of testing as to whether I am sincere about my intentions or not, ask me. It won't cost you a thing and I will probably appreciate the fact that you asked.
Someone suggested asking yourself if you would like to be tested in the same way that you are considering testing the submissive and see how you like the result in your head...how you like the way it makes you feel. If you feel O.K. after thinking about that for awhile, then by all means...go ahead and test. Personal opinion? It most likely will drive them away but that's my opinion.

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RE: Testing - 11/4/2006 3:54:00 PM

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i always fail tests. Ask me straight out or do not bother. i react badly to tests. Just my opinion.

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RE: Testing - 11/4/2006 5:48:00 PM

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The ONLY test i have ever used is the 3am phone call test...and that one came about out of necessity. I was invovled with someone that seemed to be a great match....we had been seeing each other 1-2 times per week for a month or so.....and so when i got stuck with my car at midnight one evening i didnt see it as a horrible thing to call him and ask him to come and give me a hand i was after all near his home.....

well when i called his cell...he picked it up adter 4 rings..in aheated tone and hng up.....he then calledme back about 2 minutes later to see why i was calling....with a change of tone might i add. It seemed after the investigating was over...he was very married and was hiding that fact, the separation that he spoke of was when h s wife was out of stae taking care of her sick mother!

... and so my test is this....if you call someone at 3am..
they can be annoyed but they should also be concerned as to why you are calling.
If they are angry and unconcerned i get rid of them...
call me crazy i do not care I do not want to be someone's mistress!!!
the other thing is that i tell all of my potential suitors about the test...it isn't a pop quiz!

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