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'Stealing' Subs - 11/7/2006 5:41:53 PM

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Maybe I'm just not being blunt enough with people but I have had several doms contact my sub, some wanting to be friends and give advice. But mostly doms that are making unwanted advances and simply do not understand that she is already owned. I have attempted to deal with the matter and it doesn't seem to be sinking in. Any suggestions on how to deal with this utter lack of respect?
Kollin

RE: 'Stealing' Subs - 11/7/2006 5:45:20 PM

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Maybe I'm just not being blunt enough with people but I have had several doms contact my sub, some wanting to be friends and give advice. But mostly doms that are making unwanted advances and simply do not understand that she is already owned. I have attempted to deal with the matter and it doesn't seem to be sinking in. Any suggestions on how to deal with this utter lack of respect?
Kollin

Hmm, why not let her deal with it?

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RE: 'Stealing' Subs - 11/7/2006 5:47:34 PM

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Couple, politely mail them from her profile, using your name and tell them that while she was a fixin to run off with them, you happened by and commanded her not to and have her locked up in the icebox, but have plenty of room in your freezer if they should be so forward as to apply for the position again.

Those that wanna be buddies? What is the harm in that? So long as it is reasonable, and held down to such a roar that her service to you is not in anyway affected.........

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RE: 'Stealing' Subs - 11/7/2006 5:50:43 PM

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If her sense of owned is the same as your sense of owned....there really isn't anything to worry about. One can't steal that which refuses to be stolen.

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RE: 'Stealing' Subs - 11/7/2006 5:50:42 PM

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Master Kollin,
Just try to ignore them..obviously these are fake Doms who dont know honor and have no respect for the lifestyle.And you can also block them or report them to the site for harrasment (on-line). Sir lighttouch 2000

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RE: 'Stealing' Subs - 11/7/2006 5:51:45 PM

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She isn't going to be stolen unless she wants to be, so there's not a whole lot you can do about the situation either way. Look at it this way, if she's telling you about these advances, you're probably worrying over nothing.

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RE: 'Stealing' Subs - 11/7/2006 5:55:14 PM

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Kalira - She has told these people several times and has made it very clear in her profile that she is owned and that all dom communication must go through me. Those who only wish to be friends, mostly respect this and I have absolutely no problem with her being friends. Those who try and steal her from me, do not ask to speak with her, nor do they respect her wishes when she, or I for that matter tell them no.

mnottertail - Tempting idea. I do happen to have a large deep freeze. But I care for my sub to much to actually harm her. Those who are disrespectful however.. tempting, very tempting. Again, I have no problem with those wanting only to be friends and want to give advice.

Thank you for your responses, thus far.
Kollin

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RE: 'Stealing' Subs - 11/7/2006 5:58:03 PM

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quote:

Kalira - She has told these people several times and has made it very clear in her profile that she is owned and that all dom communication must go through me. Those who only wish to be friends, mostly respect this and I have absolutely no problem with her being friends. Those who try and steal her from me, do not ask to speak with her, nor do they respect her wishes when she, or I for that matter tell them no.

then perhaps she should employ the use of a wonderful invention called delete and block buttons.

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RE: 'Stealing' Subs - 11/7/2006 6:05:22 PM

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I get unwanted mail from doms.

The first one I do not answer

The second one I do not answer

The third one I answer and politely ask them not to email me again.

If they continue to email I send it to my Daddy.... I have only had to do this once.

You cannot force people to respect you, that is the first thing you should realize. Ignore rude disrespectful people

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RE: 'Stealing' Subs - 11/7/2006 6:06:35 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: kollin

Maybe I'm just not being blunt enough with people but I have had several doms contact my sub, some wanting to be friends and give advice. But mostly doms that are making unwanted advances and simply do not understand that she is already owned. I have attempted to deal with the matter and it doesn't seem to be sinking in. Any suggestions on how to deal with this utter lack of respect?
Kollin

Strangely enough, she just might be smart enough to say "no thank you." I've found that when dominants start attempting to ward people off because they own someone, that process just tends to incite more conversations, usually following the recipe of "he's too controlling" and "you should come here where I'll treat you 'right.' "

And if the submissives handle it, while there may be one or two people who will be persistent, most of the time, most of those contacting the submissive will move on.

I think it's because a dominant coming on to a submissive's e-mail and flexing his muscles is just a bit too enticing to egg on by other dominants flexing their muscles.

Ignore works wonders and no one will be able to say that anyone was stealing or wandering off.

juliet

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RE: 'Stealing' Subs - 11/7/2006 6:38:44 PM

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Block the user.
It's that easy.

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RE: 'Stealing' Subs - 11/7/2006 6:49:03 PM

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Thank you for all the advice. I had no fear of my sub wantering off, it was just the lack of respect that pissed me off. I appreciate the advice and have since found the block button.
Kollin

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RE: 'Stealing' Subs - 11/7/2006 7:49:07 PM

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Dear kollin, Ladies and Gentlemen;

In my mind's eye, I cannot see a submissive who is happy with who they have picked to be with, to have a relationship with and or forming a relationship, enticed enough as to be stolen.

You cannot steal an unwilling individual. And, sometimes you just have to trust your submissive to make their stand.

People often don't read the entire profile. You have HNG everywhere. You cannot 'do' anything to those who go on and on, not respecting what anybody says in their profile or in their responses.
If its bad enough, block them.

Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs

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RE: 'Stealing' Subs - 11/7/2006 9:11:57 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: kollin

Thank you for all the advice. I had no fear of my sub wantering off, it was just the lack of respect that pissed me off. I appreciate the advice and have since found the block button.
Kollin

I can understand your situation..however IMO only..~g~..Why should these "other" Dominants respect you or your relationship?.They dont know you, hence they do not care..Of course there is the "lifestyle" expectation, but with the age of the computer you have a new breed of "lifestylers" who choose not to conform with the modes of respect initiated in the past. Do I personally think this is good?..NO...however it is what it is...so hence I say trust your sub/slave to handle the the HNGs ,to either delete or respond,or to block.Thus this saves you from the unnecessary angst that seems to be felt by you, and shows your trust and confidence of your sub/slave and your relationship. Which then shows your sub/slave that you know you are the cast meow!..and do not feel threatened by these supposed Dominants ...grin.....be well...Tempting

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RE: 'Stealing' Subs - 11/7/2006 9:54:33 PM

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The Dom that tried that tactic tonight was referred to my Sir. The Dom then told me it wouldn't last and i had to say thought it would and then went for ignore button. Would recommend that to Your sub as well. I don't respect Doms that don't respect what i say and therefore would ignore him.

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RE: 'Stealing' Subs - 11/7/2006 9:59:27 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: kollin

Maybe I'm just not being blunt enough with people but I have had several doms contact my sub, some wanting to be friends and give advice. But mostly doms that are making unwanted advances and simply do not understand that she is already owned. I have attempted to deal with the matter and it doesn't seem to be sinking in. Any suggestions on how to deal with this utter lack of respect?
Kollin

If it is becoming a major issue, then you might try filtering all incoming mail from Male users, or from Dominants, and that way she never actually has to deal with them. IF she is not actively using the account, the easiest way to end the issue is t close her account. Since she is to have everything go through you anyway, why not restart a couple profile for her, so that your presence is unquestionable? Anyone she wishes to stay in contact with, she can redirect, and that should cut down on the unwanted emails from Doms. The majority of those looking will never search a Couple profile.

DV

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RE: 'Stealing' Subs - 11/7/2006 10:09:07 PM

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Everyone here has had great advice. No one can steal anyone that does not want to be stolen. Pretty simple. No reason to worry or play the jealousy game, unless it is justified. Just chalk the email and things up to a bunch of blockheads that discovered the internet and how to type. Kind of like chimps that are able to type but can't really read...lol. Kind of a paradox of sorts...or maybe a quandary. Depends on viewpoint. Anyway this is nothing that can't be handled or dealt with.

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RE: 'Stealing' Subs - 11/7/2006 10:44:36 PM

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This is online, right?
Very easy to control...delete their emails.

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RE: 'Stealing' Subs - 11/7/2006 10:52:08 PM

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Uhhh...lots of good advice here as far as it goes. But, gee. If he's REALLY so upset by this happening, why does he put her name in his profile so anyone looking at HIM knows who she is too?

E

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RE: 'Stealing' Subs - 11/7/2006 11:09:08 PM

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I often get messages and chat requests from other Doms. I usually reply with a "No thanks" or ignore them if they continue. Most of the time my Master does not even know anything about them. The only time I will tell him about any are the ones that make me giggle or are so ridiculous that I just have to tell him. I have no intention of leaving my Master so they do not bother me at all. They are just something to be ignored.

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