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RE: Marriage or dream and fantasies - 11/27/2006 12:38:27 PM   
defiantbadgirl


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Status: offline 		I don't hate bisexual men. I wouldn't become involved with one because I'm straight, but that doesn't mean I hate them.

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RE: Marriage or dream and fantasies - 11/27/2006 12:39:40 PM   
LaTigresse


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My twisted, self deprecating, sense of humour, finds alot to laugh about, in your lack of one!

Just because you are well educated, articulate, and can use big, fancy words, properly........does not mean you are right!

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RE: Marriage or dream and fantasies - 11/27/2006 12:40:54 PM   
defiantbadgirl


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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

I have been to Kansas, hopefully I never have to return to Kansas. I would not be overly worried about grossing out the men.......or women......in Kansas.


Does that mean you know how judgemental people in Kansas can be? I hate it here but I'm stuck until I finish college. 

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RE: Marriage or dream and fantasies - 11/27/2006 12:41:06 PM   
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ORIGINAL: defiantbadgirl

I don't hate bisexual men. I wouldn't become involved with one because I'm straight, but that doesn't mean I hate them.


"I don't hate women, I think everyone should own a few."

Yours,


benji

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RE: Marriage or dream and fantasies - 11/27/2006 12:42:12 PM   
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ORIGINAL: defiantbadgirl

Does that mean you know how judgemental people in Kansas can be? I hate it here but I'm stuck until I finish college. 


She's making fun of the Dorothites.

Apparently, they're all tin men, lions, or downright ugly.

Then again, that's inbreeding for ya.

Yours,


benji

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RE: Marriage or dream and fantasies - 11/27/2006 12:42:15 PM   
AquaticSub


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ORIGINAL: defiantbadgirl

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ORIGINAL: Aine

Just because they think that, does that really have any bearing on -your- opinion on it?  I'm honestly curious.  Do you think that?


Not at all. I'm straight, but have a bisexual friend. She respects my preference and I respect hers. I'm just saying that if men freak out over a non-consentual rape by a straight man, I can only imagine what they would do if they knew a woman had been with a bisexual man, whether she knew it at the time or not. I'm talking about other people's reactions and how that might effect future relationships........not my own opinions.



Look, not to be a bitch, ok well maybe to a be a little bitchy, it's pretty darn clear this is your opinion.

Most men don't freak out because a woman has had sex with a man who had sex. You happen to live around a bunch of backward rednecks. You have my pity but seriously, get out and start socializing with more educated people. Your first response to "my partner is having fantasies about other men" is "Get out and get an HIV test". You need to face that fact that you are discriminatory against homosexuals so that you get over it.

So you've got a token bisexual friend. I had a token Roman Catholic friend. She thought I was going to hell. I thought she was an idiot and dumb as a rock. We were friends because we went to a tiny high school and shared a few common interests. Tell you what, show your bisexual friend your responses to this thread and the "is he bi" thread. I really want to see her reaction.

Edited because I can't spell

< Message edited by AquaticSub -- 11/27/2006 12:45:29 PM >

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RE: Marriage or dream and fantasies - 11/27/2006 12:43:20 PM   
AquaticSub


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quote:

ORIGINAL: defiantbadgirl

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

I have been to Kansas, hopefully I never have to return to Kansas. I would not be overly worried about grossing out the men.......or women......in Kansas.


Does that mean you know how judgemental people in Kansas can be? I hate it here but I'm stuck until I finish college. 


Just because people are judgemental doesn't mean you should cater to their views. I took the risk of being out as a bisexual in redneck country.

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It was ok for him to beat me but then he tried to cuddle me! - Me

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RE: Marriage or dream and fantasies - 11/27/2006 12:49:25 PM   
LadyEllen


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ORIGINAL: gooddogbenji

Doesn't everyone have a token friend of the group they claim not to hate?

Yours,


benji


Nah Benji.

I dont know any Canadians at all

E

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RE: Marriage or dream and fantasies - 11/27/2006 12:52:54 PM   
LaTigresse


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quote:

ORIGINAL: defiantbadgirl

quote:

ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

I have been to Kansas, hopefully I never have to return to Kansas. I would not be overly worried about grossing out the men.......or women......in Kansas.


Does that mean you know how judgemental people in Kansas can be? I hate it here but I'm stuck until I finish college. 


Aaaaaaaaahhhhhmmmmmm noooooo, I found the people in Kansas to be about 20 years behind the times. They dressed and acted like it was still the 80's. I felt like I was in a time warp. I was not overly impressed with the perceived IQ level either.

What I am going to try to say, and god forbid actually try to be kind about it, is this. If you have spent most of your life in Kansas you probably have a distorted view of many things. I have traveled all over this country and have never seen a more ignorant backwards group of people and I live near Missouri! Try to get out and learn more about the bigger picture before you keep passing judgement on those that are different that your norm.


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Just because you are well educated, articulate, and can use big, fancy words, properly........does not mean you are right!

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RE: Marriage or dream and fantasies - 11/27/2006 12:57:10 PM   
defiantbadgirl


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ORIGINAL: AquaticSub

quote:

ORIGINAL: defiantbadgirl

quote:

ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

I have been to Kansas, hopefully I never have to return to Kansas. I would not be overly worried about grossing out the men.......or women......in Kansas.


Does that mean you know how judgemental people in Kansas can be? I hate it here but I'm stuck until I finish college. 


Just because people are judgemental doesn't mean you should cater to their views. I took the risk of being out as a bisexual in redneck country.


Why, so the whole town can laugh at me and talk shit behind my back? I know what I said about the HIV test but that was because of statistics I learned in college. I'm just saying that if a bisexual marries someone who is straight without them knowing, if it ever gets out, both people suffer being social outcasts, not just the bisexual one.

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RE: Marriage or dream and fantasies - 11/27/2006 1:00:38 PM   
LaTigresse


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Status: offline 		People are going to laugh at you and talk shit about you behind your back regardless. It happens to everyone, even people that are in denial like me. You may as well give them something good and juicy to work over.

Hell, where I live I am the token femmy lesbian that occasionally has some really hot chicks hanging out on the farm. Imagine how weirded out they were when they found out about the BDSM angle!!!

 It's all about how you carry yourself and treat the people around you. If you are going to act like a freak social outcast, baddabing,!!!! that's what you are going to get. BUT if you strut your shit and treat people well. It generally works out pretty decent.


< Message edited by LaTigresse -- 11/27/2006 1:03:04 PM >

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My twisted, self deprecating, sense of humour, finds alot to laugh about, in your lack of one!

Just because you are well educated, articulate, and can use big, fancy words, properly........does not mean you are right!

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RE: Marriage or dream and fantasies - 11/27/2006 1:02:51 PM   
Aine


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Status: offline 		dbg....I won't sit here and say what I think you believe.  Because I have no flaming clue.

But honestly.  I'm curious as to why you would find it relevant to state other's opinions if they are not yours and not something you agree with.  Why not just state what it is that you feel and believe about the subject?

Or perhaps to make your posts clearer, make it a little more obvious that you're stating something that someone else maybe stated -to- you rather than making it sound like something you share?


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Honey, you obviously missed the "want to be used as a toilet fetish" thread or "where do I get instructions on setting my sub on fire" thread. LOL

Thank you, DelRay for that one.

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RE: Marriage or dream and fantasies - 11/27/2006 1:04:15 PM   
AquaticSub


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quote:

ORIGINAL: defiantbadgirl

quote:

ORIGINAL: AquaticSub

quote:

ORIGINAL: defiantbadgirl

quote:

ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

I have been to Kansas, hopefully I never have to return to Kansas. I would not be overly worried about grossing out the men.......or women......in Kansas.


Does that mean you know how judgemental people in Kansas can be? I hate it here but I'm stuck until I finish college. 


Just because people are judgemental doesn't mean you should cater to their views. I took the risk of being out as a bisexual in redneck country.


Why, so the whole town can laugh at me and talk shit behind my back? I know what I said about the HIV test but that was because of statistics I learned in college. I'm just saying that if a bisexual marries someone who is straight without them knowing, if it ever gets out, both people suffer being social outcasts, not just the bisexual one.


Travel.

I beg you. Travel. Get out and get those notions out of your head. Talk to other people because, frankly, you are wrong. There is no shame in being bisexual and no shame in marrying or dating a bisexual. We don't cheat. We do this thing called "monogamony" with the same sucess as gays and straight people. Ignore the lies you have been told.

Also, yes I seriously suggest you grow up and start standing up for people. There is a saying regarding the Nazis. I can not remember it perfectly, so I shall paraphase it.

They came for the gypies but I was not a gypsy so I did not stand up.
They came for the artists but I was not an artist so I did not stand up.
They came for the Jews but I was not a Jew so I did not stand up.
By the time they came for me, there was no one left to stand up.

Tell, my dear, if you will not stand up for those who are wronged, do you really think anyone will stand up for you?

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Without my dominance you cannot submit. Without your submission I cannot dominate. You are my equal in this, though our roles are different.-Val

It was ok for him to beat me but then he tried to cuddle me! - Me

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RE: Marriage or dream and fantasies - 11/27/2006 1:08:22 PM   
LaTigresse


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Status: offline 		Oh, and I just thought I would mention. In the high schools here, being bi-sexual and BDSM is coooooooooooollllllll. Give it 20 years and I am sure it will be hitting Kansas too.

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My twisted, self deprecating, sense of humour, finds alot to laugh about, in your lack of one!

Just because you are well educated, articulate, and can use big, fancy words, properly........does not mean you are right!

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RE: Marriage or dream and fantasies - 11/27/2006 1:10:12 PM   
AquaticSub


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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

Oh, and I just thought I would mention. In the high schools here, being bi-sexual and BDSM is coooooooooooollllllll. Give it 20 years and I am sure it will be hitting Kansas too.


Then she can be the cool kid was ahead of her time. She will be so popular!

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Without my dominance you cannot submit. Without your submission I cannot dominate. You are my equal in this, though our roles are different.-Val

It was ok for him to beat me but then he tried to cuddle me! - Me

Member:Clan of the Scarlet O'Hair

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RE: Marriage or dream and fantasies - 11/27/2006 1:14:23 PM   
gooddogbenji


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Status: offline 		Really, the whole thing is like saying "I hunged the n***** cuz every'n else was there."

If the people around you think that way, that is no excuse whatsoever to be just as bigoted, just as ignorant, or just as idiotic. 

Take some fucking responsability for your life.

Yours,


benji

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RE: Marriage or dream and fantasies - 11/27/2006 1:18:05 PM   
defiantbadgirl


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Status: offline 		Because the social impact of something like this can be devistating for a woman. While it's true that I live in a small town in Kansas, other small towns are the same way. People gossip, spread rumors, and know everybody's business.

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RE: Marriage or dream and fantasies - 11/27/2006 1:20:45 PM   
gooddogbenji


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ORIGINAL: defiantbadgirl

Because the social impact of something like this can be devistating for a woman. While it's true that I live in a small town in Kansas, other small towns are the same way. People gossip, spread rumors, and know everybody's business.


I assume you are on this site quite anonymously; after all, what would the neighbours think of that avatar?

So why not let your true nature free?  Show us your enlightenment?

Come out, come out, wherever you are!!!!  *Knocks on enlightenment's door*

Yours,


benji

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RE: Marriage or dream and fantasies - 11/27/2006 1:21:23 PM   
LaTigresse


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For crying out loud........what benji said!

Besides, you state on your profile the town you live in, you show your photo, just HOW worried can you possibly be about what the locals say or think about you? Sooner or later someone that knows you will spot you, guaranteed. Then, what are you going to do? Lie and say the neighbour that hates you did it to blasphemy your good name! If you are going to be on sites like this, if you are going to attempt to live any sort of alternate lifestyle you are going to have to know that you are taking the chance of being harrassed about it. Trust me, being called "icky" for sleeping with a bi-sexual man will be the least of your concerns.


< Message edited by LaTigresse -- 11/27/2006 1:25:15 PM >

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My twisted, self deprecating, sense of humour, finds alot to laugh about, in your lack of one!

Just because you are well educated, articulate, and can use big, fancy words, properly........does not mean you are right!

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RE: Marriage or dream and fantasies - 11/27/2006 1:24:54 PM   
AquaticSub


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quote:

ORIGINAL: defiantbadgirl

Because the social impact of something like this can be devistating for a woman. While it's true that I live in a small town in Kansas, other small towns are the same way. People gossip, spread rumors, and know everybody's business.


Oh no! Social gossip! Truely the worst thing that be a visited on a woman.

Look you said you want to leave anyway, so why give a fuck? People thought I was a whore and slut. I was a virgin. The people that knew me had their lives and thinking changed. Suck it up and make a difference.

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Without my dominance you cannot submit. Without your submission I cannot dominate. You are my equal in this, though our roles are different.-Val

It was ok for him to beat me but then he tried to cuddle me! - Me

Member:Clan of the Scarlet O'Hair

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