inyouagain
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ORIGINAL: dizzymuse ...I have the intentions of just leaving. I don't have a lovely family situation anyway, and I honestly don't believe that they would bat an eye. Planning an exit strategy for an August relocation could include informing your family you have been offered a job or a position in Virginia. This would allow ample time for them to adjust to your leaving, and perhaps the domestic situation may improve between now and then. If so, the situation you take with you could be different. Since you stated you are very inexperienced, I commend you for your presence here, and jokingly suggest reading the Top 10 Troll Lines thread and make sure you don't recognize anything posted there. I would seriously recommend using the time prior to your departure fully to your advantage, to investigate and further check out any red flags, or concerns of any kind regarding your relocation destination, and most of all, your new Master... and his desires of you. If there are no genuine concerns or red flag issues, the time could be spent researching the interests of your new Master, perhaps requesting any online resources your new Master may provide for you in the interim. The joy and excitement of a new relationship can often overwhelm people, especially the less experienced, and cloud their focus with puppy love vision. Don't get me wrong, enjoy your newfound happiness, but take advantage of the time available to ensure your decision is correct, and don't be afraid to conduct background checks, ask others you meet from that area, use the grapvine, etc. I did look at your profile (you are very young), and also looked at your new Master's profile. Having no direct knowledge of either of you, I can only re-emphasize what I've said above. Your new Master states many things that you should be able to checkout during the months ahead, and feel free to ask for the references he states in his profile are available. Bottom line: You don't want to jump from one bad situation to another. Consider your own weaknesses and tendencies, to make sure there is no exploitation of same (internal or external, ie. by yourself or another). Don't kid or fool yourself, and be careful not to let others... in the form of a dream like puppy love focus. This is indeed a major step, and it would be to your distinct advantage to be ready for it... in all respects. Best wishes Inyouagain
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Careful with that axe, Eugene
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