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RE: in your experience , what makes you decide NOt to D... - 1/25/2007 8:29:01 AM   
MadRabbit


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Too much talking. I am generally a quiet person in RL and find silence to be enjoyable. Not that I want someone who cant carry on a conversation, but someone who talks twice as much as I do or takes 30 minutes to tell a 3 minute story is extremely, extremely irritable to me. Of course, this is behavior I have no problem at all striving to correct =P, but it can easily be a deal breaker for me.

What if someone doesn't talk a lot but still takes 30 minutes to tell a 3 minute story, because they're pausing for 10 minutes between each phrase? 





Touche'

That would probably be incredibly irritating and havent encountered that one so cant give a genuine answer.

But in all honesty...assuming the person is a decent and open minded human being who agrees with my code of ethics, this is the only real deal breaker I have. The other posters have mentioned a whole score of things that I dont like as well, but I would have the patience to give them ample time to correct it. Second guessing, whining/bitching, inability to follow directions, etc. are things I would expect to a degree with someone else who is roughly my age.

But talking too much...

"Well see I wanted to come over and pick up the car but I ran into Jan at the mall you know Jan she really cool and super cute and super fun and anywho we got some ice cream and I saw these really nice sweat pants that I just HAD to have I mean they were like 85 bucks and had glitter all over them I couldnt just leave to get the car without buying them so I bought them and we started to leave but we got distracted by this wishing well and threw some quarters in and laughed and laughed and oops! I spilled my ice cream on my new pants so I had to go back..."

ARRRGGGHHH!!! 

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RE: in your experience , what makes you decide NOt to D... - 1/27/2007 5:50:58 AM   
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ORIGINAL: MadRabbit

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ORIGINAL: MadRabbit

Too much talking. I am generally a quiet person in RL and find silence to be enjoyable. Not that I want someone who cant carry on a conversation, but someone who talks twice as much as I do or takes 30 minutes to tell a 3 minute story is extremely, extremely irritable to me. Of course, this is behavior I have no problem at all striving to correct =P, but it can easily be a deal breaker for me.

What if someone doesn't talk a lot but still takes 30 minutes to tell a 3 minute story, because they're pausing for 10 minutes between each phrase? 





Touche'

That would probably be incredibly irritating and havent encountered that one so cant give a genuine answer.

My mother does it.  My father used to do it.  I can say, in all honesty, it is one of the most annoying traits a person can have. 
They're what some people call lazy speakers.


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RE: in your experience , what makes you decide NOt to D... - 2/10/2007 2:43:46 AM   
mons


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i read all of your replies to that question and i do agree on many almost all but one vampire i am dyslexic and my writing is sometime hard to read and understand but it does not make me or many other who can not make sentecnes placements. this does not make a person not intellgent my speaking voice for reasons i am very lucky is great i am well spoken and i am so intelligent. so if you are saying you judge a person on their writing it would be not right. i do unnderstand what you mean though. but good easy on the second langage many are doctors and very high minded folks .

my dsilike are sn names that just say i want sex, someone who thinks i want their nude pictures which some have sent i return it fast. one male spoke to me on the phone and said" so i bet you get lots of cocks pictures? i never spoke to him again . they amuse to much and think becasue i am a domme they can curse and use anyword that comes to mind  that it is big turn off for me.

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RE: in your experience , what makes you decide NOt to D... - 2/10/2007 7:08:38 AM   
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Status: offline 		To me, what turns me on and off is not confined to subs, necessarily.
 
1. Those who have no desire to get to know me and talk only about themselves.
2.Those who think I will play with them simply because they happen to pass through my town.
3. Those who are aggressive and pushy.
4. Those who assume I play casually with strangers (goes back to not knowing me)
5. Those who judge me and mine for our preferences without knowing us or our relationship.
 
 
 
 
 
 

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RE: in your experience , what makes you decide NOt to D... - 2/10/2007 8:17:13 AM   
Phoenix2raven


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RE: in your experience , what makes you decide NOt to D... - 2/10/2007 11:16:40 AM   
MysticFireTopaz


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ORIGINAL: thaimeeuppppp
many speak of what turns them on about someone or what they look for. I am curious about what turns you OFF, personality wise about a sub


There are several things.  One of them is a "victim" mentality and general bitter attitude toward life.  This type of sub feels they have been wronged so many times, and it is never their fault.   A close cousin is the whiner, who loves to complain about everything and everybody and has nothing positive to say.  A real downer to be around.
 
Another turn-off is a sub who is too passive.  While I like a respectful, obedient sub, I also want one who shows signs of life and is able to intelligently hold up their side of the conversation.  Someone who just keeps saying "Yes Ma'am" and nothing else isn't very appealing.  By the same token, I am not attracted to someone overly aggressive, either.  I find that many of the male subs I have interviewed are Type A's who seek balance in their life.  That is fine, and even attractive, if they can tone the down the intensity and surrender control when they're not on the job.
 
I am also turned off by subs who are not subs at all, but "do-me" bottoms and think everything should revolve around them.  The good thing about this is it comes across very early in the game, often in the introductory letter, so I don't waste much time on them.  "Pushy bottoms" and SAM's (smart-assed masochists) round out my list.
 
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RE: in your experience , what makes you decide NOt to D... - 2/10/2007 11:21:18 AM   
FelinePersuasion


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Status: offline 		There's quite a few things that would turn me off and looks won't really if at all have to do with it. being pushy, being overbearing, stinking, bad hygein bad manners, mentally unstable, expecting more out of the evening than is being offered, reading more into a fun evening than there was to be read into, insistance on sex activities , ect ect ect.

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RE: in your experience , what makes you decide NOt to D... - 2/10/2007 6:17:37 PM   
Shadow4Dom


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Status: offline 		Feline i agree with you as to turn - offs. Poor hygiene tops my list, but stupity is close behind. and the sub that is always never ending the' I need to be ', now or never this in itself is the extreme pushy, and not caring what her Master thinks or feels at the time.  As for uneducated, I would much rather carry on a informative for both of us conversation with someone that's well educated,  than to be stuck with some one who has no education and or dosen't care about education. I find at times i do learn some new things and this helps me to be a better Master.  

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RE: in your experience , what makes you decide NOt to D... - 2/11/2007 11:07:38 AM   
Arpig


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RE: in your experience , what makes you decide NOt to D... - 2/13/2007 11:26:45 PM   
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For me it is everything that I would consider in any sort of relationship, compatibility, maturity, health issues, ability to function like a responsible adult. I don't see that is has to be, or even should be, any different.


It's nice to find something I can agree with wholeheartedly.  Well said.

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RE: in your experience , what makes you decide NOt to D... - 2/14/2007 7:13:56 AM   
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i read all of your replies to that question and i do agree on many almost all but one vampire i am dyslexic and my writing is sometime hard to read and understand but it does not make me or many other who can not make sentecnes placements. this does not make a person not intellgent my speaking voice for reasons i am very lucky is great i am well spoken and i am so intelligent. so if you are saying you judge a person on their writing it would be not right.


Anyone else find that chemistry just isn't based on what is and isn't right?  I make judgments in the erotic realm I would NEVER make in a professional realm (although sloppy use of language will hurt you in the professional realm).

No one questioned whether judging on physical looks is 'right' or not--we know that it happens.  For some of us (myself included to an extreme degree) use of language is a chemistry issue.  Not just usage, but speed (I really like fast speakers) and, I'm embarrassed to say, I have a hard time with thick accents.  It is something I deal with a lot professionally and I can't switch between the professional skills and the erotic submission.  (And mons, FWIW, consider spell checking (at the very least) if you think that this is an issue for you.  I made 2 typos in the above paragraphs, but spell check caught them.  You made 2 typos in your paragraph that spell-check would have caught, had you bothered.  Personally, I get annoyed with people that blame lack of spell-checking on dyslexia, which is a real, very difficult issue, but reversing letters when you type is not an indicator of it.)

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