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RE: "What would you do to me?" - 1/27/2007 11:17:08 PM

Nick19WV

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Demistress,

I know how you feel. I know a lot of girls in my area ask me "what would you do me?" All I do is laugh at them or say I dunno or you will have to wait and see and sometimes I ignore that question and move on.

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RE: "What would you do to me?" - 1/27/2007 11:48:23 PM

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This is an interesting question to me, because as a male dominant seeking female submissives, I've never gotten this question in the way you ladies are talking about it. I wonder if it is a male submissive "thing"? Usually I'm the one who brings up what I might do to a submissive I'm talking with, after some meaningful contact, and if I do bring it up it is to see if there is some "kink compatiblity", as crouchingtigress says.

Is it a male "do-me" sub phenomena? Do you, as a domme, get the "what would you do to me?" from women too? I'm curious.

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RE: "What would you do to me?" - 1/28/2007 5:37:59 AM

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I get that too... and I do use the "it depends on my mood" thing... but the question I really hate is.. "how r u going to disapline me?"..... Why? Are you planning on acting out?

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RE: "What would you do to me?" - 1/28/2007 5:57:21 AM

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I tend to have little emotional reaction to that question.
First I tell them that they would have to pass the initial
interview and communicate with me in person.
Then I remind them to go back and read my profile.

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RE: "What would you do to me?" - 1/28/2007 6:32:11 AM

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To me I take it one of two ways: He is either looking for wank material or is weighing his options on whether or not he wants to disobey and face the punishment. Either reason is not acceptable to me. It can be frustrating and I generally brush off the question pretty quickly. Anyone who continues in that vein will likely find that they have no me to continue asking.

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RE: "What would you do to me?" - 1/28/2007 6:54:01 AM

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Come on man and get your head out of the sand with that it would greatly depend on my mood.these ladies dont need that kind of crap. they arent desparate I may be but they arent. those shitheads dont need to get a response from the ladies because fact is fact that men who asks a jackass question like that plain and simple are just a wanking jerkoffs. give the ladies some credit here they dont deserve that kind of crap. wake up. Even myself with my jerk off ways wouldnt write a lady with a jackass quesiton like that and what lady with some brain material wouild want to even spend a minute talking to and "teaching" as you put it a man like that. you dont give the ladies enough credit. i may be desparate but these mistresses arent and they deserve better than that.

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RE: "What would you do to me?" - 1/28/2007 6:56:33 AM

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I do, I find it a fishing expedition for masturbation fodder.

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RE: "What would you do to me?" - 1/28/2007 7:26:37 AM

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Denny boys that swear and carry on negatively to a brother submissive as you are doing are not as attractive as the ones that can communicate their point of view with decorum.

also you might want to stop saying you are desperate, because it makes you sound desperate.

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RE: "What would you do to me?" - 1/28/2007 7:33:18 AM

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It depends on who you are and what you want, doesn't it? i myself am a very physical creature by nature, and under that umbrella comes sexuality. Such a thing is very important to anyone i'd consider getting into a serious romantic relationship with. Of course, i always avoid the "WWYD" statements, i prefer round-about ways, we all end up talking about our pasts sooner or later, right? When you get into those, you can keep conversations going for hours if you're sexually compatible with someone. Just her reactions to the things she's telling me, how long she dwells on a particular experience or fantasy, that usually gives me enough of an idea to know where we'd be headed. "WWYD" seems very low class to me, i guess =\ Then again at least they're direct, i suppose my methods are a bit more manipulative. =\

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RE: "What would you do to me?" - 1/28/2007 7:48:31 AM

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Everyone has to find out one way or the other whether or not they are compatible with one another. There is a fine line between getting that information and trying to manipulate the situation or relationship to determine whether or not you want to follow particular rules or to try to get what you want. I am all for open and honest communication and the process of discovery when in the beginning stages of a relationship. However, there is a difference, at least to me, in "your general process and philosophy on this relationion is acceptable and ok with me" and "hmmm, she says I will get spanked for doing this. I'm ok with that so I am going to do it regardless of her instructions."

Then, there's simply the wank material stuff which is usually pretty transparent and I don't even go there.

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RE: "What would you do to me?" - 1/28/2007 7:51:30 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MsKatHouston
However, there is a difference, at least to me, in "your general process and philosophy on this relationion is acceptable and ok with me" and "hmmm, she says I will get spanked for doing this. I'm ok with that so I am going to do it regardless of her instructions."

*gasp* Who would want to know punishments before they did something wrong? Takes all the enjoyment out of it imho... But, just me i suppose =\

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RE: "What would you do to me?" - 1/28/2007 7:59:14 AM

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cant you read, crouch? im giving props to the ladies and saying that deserve better than that. what are you his cheerleader or something or maybe you cant read. dont you think these lady dominants are smart enough to see wank material and dont deserve that kind of crap from those jackasses. get off my case crouch learn to stick up for the ladies because they deserve it. and dont tell me not to joke about myself you are not my keeper.

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RE: "What would you do to me?" - 1/28/2007 7:59:47 AM

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Well, punishments aren't supposed to be enjoyed. There are those who would purposely disobey if they felt that the consequences for doing so would be acceptable to them. Which skews the entire relationship IMO.

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RE: "What would you do to me?" - 1/28/2007 8:05:38 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MsKatHouston
Well, punishments aren't supposed to be enjoyed. There are those who would purposely disobey if they felt that the consequences for doing so would be acceptable to them. Which skews the entire relationship IMO.

*giggles* Okay, i'll try not to hijack the thread as a two way between MsKatHouston and myself, i swear i'll TRY =P

It's not the punishment activity itself that's enjoyed, if it is, it's not punishment =P One enjoys the idea someone cares about you so they'll guide you, or gets the thrill from knowing they belong to this person, or some other reason i can't think of at the moment ^_^

And, in the effort to not let this stray too far from the OP...

Yes, i do like to know for compatability reasons ^_^ And Denny...you're embarrassing yourself, don't insult others' intelligence.

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RE: "What would you do to me?" - 1/28/2007 8:06:50 AM

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I just wish I'd read this a long time ago.
I thought I was unique in not knowing what I would want to do with a submissive until I knew them extremely well and even if I knew telling them would spoil it for me.
Also my ideas and preferences change as I develop in a relationship with a submissive.
I suppose this might be a way to tell a bottom from a submissive.
Or someone with a fetish or more instead of a submissive.
If someone disappears on me because I don't tell them then I know they were not really interested in me.
Does it annoy me?
It used to really hurt me.
Then it started to frustrate me.
Then it bloody well annoyed me.
I am still trying to get over my own stupidity.
It's made me into a right bitch so the next one who comes along gets it in the ear before he has chance to open his mouth lol.
I am a very physical Domme this is my sexuality.
I am looking for a male submissive to be my long term hopefully life partner.
I am not going to 'play' with anyone.
If they want that they can go and pay for it.

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RE: "What would you do to me?" - 1/28/2007 8:08:29 AM

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ill smear any jackass who disrepects a lady dominant if you don't like it deal with it like a real woman. i gots plenty of respect for them lady dominants as so shouldnt all other men even the desparate ones like me. holla at that.

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RE: "What would you do to me?" - 1/28/2007 8:14:08 AM

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Dear demistress, Ladies and Gentlemen;

When I get questions like, what will I do to them or how will I do it to them and or any probe questions as to flash boldly as a 'Do me' sort of manipulation, control, sex kink and or HNG; I just tell them I'm a very creative Sadist. If its a man, I'll advise them I'll stretch their testicals so they can kiss 'em themselves and they better hope that I don't tie 'em in a bow tie.

That usually gets them going and gone. [Chuckles]

IF not, well I just tell them their head will be stretched next as to be able to insert into themselves, where the sun doesn't shine. [Smiles]
The fun part for them is to figure which head is gett'n stretched. [Smiles]

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RE: "What would you do to me?" - 1/28/2007 8:21:53 AM

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RE: "What would you do to me?" - 1/28/2007 9:33:11 AM

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Soon as I get this question I know it's over...I have never played anyone who has asked me this question.

My boys that I have kept have found a more diplomatic was of finding out if we are compatible or not. Usually they ask what I like to do. And they counter with they have or have not done that. For some reason most of the boys I get want either hard core CBT or hard ‘leave me bruised’ paddlings. So they might ask if I’m comfortable inflicting that kind of pain or if I have in the past. *grins* of course. Some will ask if there are things I do with hubby that I won’t with others. Or what hubbies involvement is. All valid concerns.

The SMART ones will ask…May I cum with your information…always flattering and brutally honest. Which to tell you the truth I’d rather have that a million times over the “What would you do to me question.” I even kept a boy online for a while that I knew we’d never play but he was honest about it and he was honest that he was just looking to get off. If I was in the mood I’d indulge him and if I wasn’t he would talk about other things. He never nagged and was always understanding about it. I probably sent him more pictures than anyone else online.

I prefer brutally honest over everything else. Don’t lead me on with I’m going to meet you and play with you if they are just time wasters. Be honest. Tell me I’m scared to get out there and I’m just looking to get off…sometimes I’m in the mood for that.

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RE: "What would you do to me?" - 1/28/2007 9:37:47 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: crouchingtigress

Denny boys that swear and carry on negatively to a brother submissive as you are doing are not as attractive as the ones that can communicate their point of view with decorum.

also you might want to stop saying you are desperate, because it makes you sound desperate.

Thank you crouchingtigress. It appears you've said everything that needed to be said. I'm quite surprised to see it had no impact, despite it being posted by a Dominant Woman who has earned a great deal of respect among the members here as a result of her frequently very insightful and helpful posts on the boards here at CM.

I'm truly disappointed to see the disrespect you have been shown as a result of your quoted post above.

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