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RE: As a submissive what is your biggest fear real or o... - 2/1/2007 6:28:55 AM

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Greetings..~smiles~

At this point in my life..I think that should I loose Master to the afterlife before me..that I will not possess the ability to respond to another this way, and when we both get to the afterlife..that there really isn't a afterlife at all, and I truely will never get to be at his feet again.

Well Wishes
starshine
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RE: As a submissive what is your biggest fear real or o... - 2/1/2007 6:37:03 AM

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abandonment is still so scary to so many..

Some of it also stems from those of us who were in relationships, tried our hardest, were given positive feedback, and still were abandoned for others. It takes a long time (if ever) to get over the thinking that nothing is secure.

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RE: As a submissive what is your biggest fear real or o... - 2/1/2007 6:39:19 AM

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ORIGINAL: KatyLied

It takes a long time (if ever) to get over the thinking that nothing is secure.

It is my personal belief that the idea that anything is secure is a lie we tell ourselves.

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RE: As a submissive what is your biggest fear real or o... - 2/1/2007 7:53:50 AM

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I trust Mistress with my everything, and I know She will never leave me. My fear has never been abandonment, because I know true love and I can honestly say that I know Mistress loves me with HER everything and would never want anyone else in place of me.
My only fear is of displeasing Her. I fear dissappointing Her, doing something that may hurt Her, or doing something She'd be ashamed of me for. I would never want any of that, and when I DO dissappoint Her, it kills me. Then, when She punishes me for it, I embrace that spanking with my all, allow it to seep into me, and know I have done wrong and deserve it. When She sees me do that, She holds me tight afterward and tells me how proud of me She is. Now THAT is heart melting!

slave Stella

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RE: As a submissive what is your biggest fear real or o... - 2/1/2007 9:11:00 AM

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ORIGINAL: justheather

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ORIGINAL: KatyLied

It takes a long time (if ever) to get over the thinking that nothing is secure.

It is my personal belief that the idea that anything is secure is a lie we tell ourselves.

Only thing in life that is constant is change... everything else is fleeting.

I used to have some of those fears katy spoke of, but recently I have been thinking the fear of that interferes with my joy in the present... and I just want to be happy. Being happy and satisfied is the most important thing to me (I know that sounds unsubmissive, but this view makes me feel 10 thousand times more so because I am happy). I cannot change the decisions of another, all I can do is love people and appreciate who they are in the now. It takes a lot of pressure off me... it is very freeing.

Who knows, I may find this way of thinking about life does not suit me in the end... I surely hope that is not true though!

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RE: As a submissive what is your biggest fear real or o... - 2/1/2007 9:21:36 AM

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I'm sure it's freeing to live that way. I'd like to find a place where that would be comfortable for me.

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RE: As a submissive what is your biggest fear real or o... - 2/1/2007 9:25:56 AM

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My biggest fear being sub is feeling the need to serve so badly that i forget any sensible rules and end up letting submission take me to places i know i shouldnt be going...oh and agreeing to let some stunning dominatrix use a strap on! Now that will bring me out in a cold sweat thinking about it!

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RE: As a submissive what is your biggest fear real or o... - 2/1/2007 10:47:15 AM

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ORIGINAL: KatyLied

I'm sure it's freeing to live that way. I'd like to find a place where that would be comfortable for me.

Well, it's incredibly freeing...and scary.

And once you let go of your delusions and your eyes are opened, you cant run back to cling to them when things fall apart, because now you know they arent real. And to cling to something you know isnt real, well, eventually, it becomes pointless, so you have to just let go. You have to just be in that moment with nothing to hide behind.

And that, my friend, that is when the beauty part happens.

If I may...

THE BEES
by Anne Marie Cusac

I'd heard about it

So the day the swarm

attached

Itself to the siding

I went into the yard

stood a long time

where the brush pile

wrecked the grass

The swarm

kept churning its insides out.

Where was the yellow?

There,

like little lights turning off.

Then, thinking hard,

I slipped

my arm in, one of the more

surprising things

I'd done.

But the sensation

of reaching into

a loud solid black

ball that turned out to be

just air

kept tricking me, as if finally

I'd let myself lean into

a loved body

and the loved voice kept entering

through my ear

and skull and shoulder bones

until the voice

and my hazardous

need to feel it,

were the pressures that made my breath

come in and leave me, were

the urging under my blood

that would never end as long

as the voice kept

sounding,

and I grew anxious, because

if the voice stopped

I might shut down like an unplugged

machine. But

there was no loved

body to catch me

just air

between my fingers

and the voice

I dropped through

and the black

hard cool insects

that didn't sting me.

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When you cut me out of my life
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RE: As a submissive what is your biggest fear real or o... - 2/1/2007 11:12:38 AM

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I have a place that's best described as *in between*.......I don't fear loss or change to the extent that I live in fear of it or am crippled by it, nor do I embrace it thoroughly.

I have an extremely cool rational mind that can accept these things readily......it tempers the emotional aspects of my personality.

It's a bit like having two people inside of me....each helping the other to take up the slack when needed.

agirl

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RE: As a submissive what is your biggest fear real or o... - 2/1/2007 11:22:02 AM

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ORIGINAL: SirDiscipliner69

As a submissive what is your biggest fear real or otherwise?

Though it is not something that actively preoccupies my thoughts, I'd have to say that, by far, my biggest fear is not having the opportunity to live my life with FirmHandKY.

It isn't abandonment... if he were to lose interest in me, it would hurt but I would go on. You cannot make someone want you. Having to accept the loss of a potential future together isn't easy, but understanding that the interest was superficial and not the enduring kind would evidence that there was not great potential to begin with.

But the loss I'm speaking of in my fear is the kind that would occur if something was to happen to either he or I before we could realize the life that we desire together. It's having that future taken away from us... the unfathomable pain of knowing that our dreams are no longer possible.

I can imagine nothing worse.

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RE: As a submissive what is your biggest fear real or o... - 2/1/2007 11:37:48 AM

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justheather,

Has anyone told you lately how beautiful you are? Because you really are, ya know?

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RE: As a submissive what is your biggest fear real or o... - 2/1/2007 11:48:45 AM

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I don't know if it is my biggest fear or not. I buried a dear friend Tuesday, tomorrow my best friend undergoes a quadruple bypass. Both men were in their early early 40's and I realised life happens while you're waiting for it to start. I am scared that I will have an empty life, that I won't find the Dominant I need.
It isn't a fear I can really put into words but I guess you could say I fear wasting the potential of what I can be. I think most people are afraid of being alone for life so I'm not sure that qualifies as a submissive fear but hey, I'm sub & that is my fear.

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RE: As a submissive what is your biggest fear real or o... - 2/1/2007 11:56:51 AM

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ORIGINAL: countrygirl69

my biggest fear is being taken advantage of ,made to fall in love with my Dom then being left,and the last one used to bother me finding another and him leaving me ,but I have more confidence ,yet as subs we are required to give ourselves fully to our Masters and not all men are caring enough to deserve that

bolded by me

This is a fear for most people not just subs, and it happens all the time. It's just a fact of being in a relationship. It's always a gamble. Just depends on whether you are willing to take the risk or not.

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RE: As a submissive what is your biggest fear real or o... - 2/1/2007 12:00:26 PM

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To Repeat History:

Why Did Samson Love Delilah:

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RE: As a submissive what is your biggest fear real or o... - 2/1/2007 12:03:45 PM

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ORIGINAL: SirDiscipliner69

As a submissive what is your biggest fear real or otherwise?

examples:

* Being tied to a bed spread eagle when your top / dominant has a heart attack.

* Being abandoned

* Being a party favor

* Not telling your dom how you reall cared or thought before they died

* Sufficating or choking during hood, gag or breath play

* your dom finding another submissive withy your help and leaving you

Ross

LOL if I have to choose from just these, I'd say all but the last one. If I had a Dom that left me for another, he was going to leave anyway. Nothing I could do about it really. I might be pissed off but it's not a fear, it's a fact of life. People leave, deal with it and move on.

My actual worse fear is; Reaching the point where I find myself no longer willing to try.
Trying to find a compatible partner
Trying to be the best I can in my personal life
Trying to do my best for my daughter
Trying to succeed in my career.

I think losing the desire to try would be the worst thing ever. With out that desire, pretty much all is lost.

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RE: As a submissive what is your biggest fear real or o... - 2/1/2007 12:39:11 PM

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I am most afraid of being hurt....but that is part of living....

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RE: As a submissive what is your biggest fear real or o... - 2/1/2007 12:57:52 PM

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I fear failure.

Failure to please.
Failure to do the things I dream of in life.
Failure to find the person I love and who loves me back.
Failure to accept life for what it is.

Failure in the sense of not achieving monetary comfort, or some sort of fame doesn't bother me. It's the things that everyone should experience at some point in life that I want to succeed in.

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RE: As a submissive what is your biggest fear real or o... - 2/1/2007 1:12:59 PM

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quote:

If I may...
THE BEES

Yes and thank you (just a few tears).

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RE: As a submissive what is your biggest fear real or o... - 2/1/2007 1:31:36 PM

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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

quote:

ORIGINAL: justheather

quote:

ORIGINAL: KatyLied

It takes a long time (if ever) to get over the thinking that nothing is secure.

It is my personal belief that the idea that anything is secure is a lie we tell ourselves.

Only thing in life that is constant is change... everything else is fleeting.

I used to have some of those fears katy spoke of, but recently I have been thinking the fear of that interferes with my joy in the present... and I just want to be happy. Being happy and satisfied is the most important thing to me (I know that sounds unsubmissive, but this view makes me feel 10 thousand times more so because I am happy). I cannot change the decisions of another, all I can do is love people and appreciate who they are in the now. It takes a lot of pressure off me... it is very freeing.

Who knows, I may find this way of thinking about life does not suit me in the end... I surely hope that is not true though!

I also had the fear of being abandon to the point were i would allow it consume me and my thoughts. i had to stop, it was driving me crazy and pushing those dear to me away. I have learned to live in the moment and enjoy everything i get out of each moment. We cant change it anyway if they are going to leave us they will no matter how much we worry or fear it. As julia said it is very freeing... I just want to be happy and those around me to be happy. We cant be happy nor can we make anyone else happy if we are always in fear. If Master walked out of my life today it would hurt ... I don't think I could ever be owned again but I would survive and I would be a better person because of everything Master has taught me.

edited for errors and the to thank Heather for the beautiful post. It is very scarey.

< Message edited by LaMspeach -- 2/1/2007 1:39:25 PM >

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RE: As a submissive what is your biggest fear real or o... - 2/1/2007 3:21:55 PM

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My fears:

1. That he will pass away and for whatever reason, I won't know it - or that I WILL know it and for whatever reason (fears don't have to be reasonable y'know), I won't be able to say good bye.

2. As we're getting older, that he'll reach retirement age and decide to move to warmer states and because of my responsibilities, I'll be left here.

3. He travels a long way for work and it's winter, so there's also the one that he'll be on the road home one day and have something happen to him and.. well.. refer to #1. (and this is not such an unrealistic fear. I was on the phone with him one day when a deer jumped in front of his truck...it went up on two wheels before he was finally able to bring the truck to a stop. He was fine, but I had a phone-side seat to the whole thing and it felt like sitting at the top of a hill watching two trains about to collide and not being able to do one thing about it - it was scary. Which is why all these thoughts have started popping up again.)

(Notice how these all seem to be based on abandonment?)

juliet

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