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RE: As a submissive what is your biggest fear real or o... - 2/5/2007 1:53:25 PM

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my biggest fear is of losing my Master...him passing away and me still being here, having to function, exist, without him.

That would be sad but over time life goes within and without you.

As I said before he would want you to celebrate his life.

Ross
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it wouldn't be merely sad, it'd be utterly devastating, as he is my sole purpose for being. as it says in my profile, he is my life...so without him, there would be no more life. yes, i'm sure he would want me to go on, remember him and honor him, and serve with devotion the one i had been willed to. which is what i would do, assuming that i had the strength and will power not to follow him to the grave.

then again, that could give me an opportunity to live out one of my darkest, most perverse fantasies....being used and abused by 3 or 4 sadistic-minded Dominants, in various cruel ways, ultimately resulting in my very slow and painful death.

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RE: As a submissive what is your biggest fear real or o... - 2/14/2007 9:49:34 AM

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My biggest fear would be to become so comfortable in my "comfort zone" that I stopped living. I have seen so many wilt away and die that way ....

I think Mine as a Dom would be dying on the toilet or being found is a session like the ashes of Popei captured for all time and in a museum for all to see.
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RE: As a submissive what is your biggest fear real or o... - 2/14/2007 9:55:06 AM

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ORIGINAL: daddysprop247

it wouldn't be merely sad, it'd be utterly devastating, as he is my sole purpose for being. as it says in my profile, he is my life...so without him, there would be no more life. yes, i'm sure he would want me to go on, remember him and honor him, and serve with devotion the one i had been willed to. which is what i would do, assuming that i had the strength and will power not to follow him to the grave.

I am sure if he is aware of your postings he will reenforce this with you in his guidance

then again, that could give me an opportunity to live out one of my darkest, most perverse fantasies....being used and abused by 3 or 4 sadistic-minded Dominants, in various cruel ways, ultimately resulting in my very slow and painful death.

Well just shy of a very slow and painful death perhaps he might submit you to My hand down at the crucible some time for all to watch just how cruel I can be...as I might as well live up to all the hearsay now shouldn't I?

I wonder just how many sams, bottoms, subs would want the same thing as you described if they knew it would take them safely just to the point of death but no harm.

Ross
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RE: As a submissive what is your biggest fear real or o... - 2/14/2007 9:55:14 AM

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ORIGINAL: SirDiscipliner69

As a submissive what is your biggest fear real or otherwise?

examples:

* Being tied to a bed spread eagle when your top / dominant has a heart attack.

* Being abandoned

* Being a party favor

* Not telling your dom how you reall cared or thought before they died

* Sufficating or choking during hood, gag or breath play

* your dom finding another submissive withy your help and leaving you

Ross

Actually you have about two of my fears listed. i am afraid of being abandoned and left for another. Why? Because it has happened to me. i'm so scared that no matter how wonderful or amazing i am to whom i'm with, i wont be enough and someone else will come along and bye bye i go. Now, my feelings on this used to be really intense but it's toned down quite a bit now. i'm still a little afraid of this though.

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RE: As a submissive what is your biggest fear real or o... - 2/14/2007 11:38:55 AM

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ORIGINAL: SirDiscipliner69

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it wouldn't be merely sad, it'd be utterly devastating, as he is my sole purpose for being. as it says in my profile, he is my life...so without him, there would be no more life. yes, i'm sure he would want me to go on, remember him and honor him, and serve with devotion the one i had been willed to. which is what i would do, assuming that i had the strength and will power not to follow him to the grave.

I am sure if he is aware of your postings he will reenforce this with you in his guidance

then again, that could give me an opportunity to live out one of my darkest, most perverse fantasies....being used and abused by 3 or 4 sadistic-minded Dominants, in various cruel ways, ultimately resulting in my very slow and painful death.

Well just shy of a very slow and painful death perhaps he might submit you to My hand down at the crucible some time for all to watch just how cruel I can be...as I might as well live up to all the hearsay now shouldn't I?

I wonder just how many sams, bottoms, subs would want the same thing as you described if they knew it would take them safely just to the point of death but no harm.

Ross
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sorry Sir, but if death was not the end result, there would be no point to any of it. that is what i would long for.

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RE: As a submissive what is your biggest fear real or o... - 2/14/2007 8:50:58 PM

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The death during play thing never really occured to me, though yes I would be afraid of that. My biggest fear is that he would ignore and/or isolate me completely, abandon me, not honestly love me or find me attractive.

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RE: As a submissive what is your biggest fear real or o... - 2/15/2007 2:56:42 AM

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getting bored. eventually they all bore me. So the fear is that will always happen

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RE: As a submissive what is your biggest fear real or o... - 2/16/2007 7:14:25 AM

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Two big fears - losing someone I love, and losing my mind.
Both too chilling and too possible to dwell on

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RE: As a submissive what is your biggest fear real or o... - 2/16/2007 7:22:23 AM

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My biggest fear already happened. Feeling lost, without purpose and not knowing what to do with myself.

If I think lifestyle wise I think it has to be being forced to do something I really really really don't want to do.

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RE: As a submissive what is your biggest fear real or o... - 2/16/2007 2:34:19 PM

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I'd have to say mine would be losing myself and hence losing everything that matters to me in my life. I would imagine that finding the ideal Dom would be like the "honeymoon" period of relationships where everything revolves around each other times a thousand or more. Given how passionate and intense I tend to be, I very much want that but am also afraid of taking it too far.

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RE: As a submissive what is your biggest fear real or o... - 2/17/2007 2:29:17 AM

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ORIGINAL: slaveofdarkhold

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Two big fears - losing someone I love, and losing my mind.
Both too chilling and too possible to dwell on

Yes they are fears of doms as well

Ross
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RE: As a submissive what is your biggest fear real or o... - 2/17/2007 2:30:40 AM

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ORIGINAL: nattie83

My biggest fear already happened. Feeling lost, without purpose and not knowing what to do with myself.

If I think lifestyle wise I think it has to be being forced to do something I really really really don't want to do.

It would seem to be time to turn yourself over for training then wouldn't it?

Ross
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RE: As a submissive what is your biggest fear real or o... - 2/17/2007 2:32:48 AM

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ORIGINAL: Magdalena156

I'd have to say mine would be losing myself and hence losing everything that matters to me in my life. . Given how passionate and intense I tend to be, I very much want that but am also afraid of taking it too far.

How would you lose yourself?

Would it be getting lost in BDSM?

Ross
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RE: As a submissive what is your biggest fear real or o... - 2/17/2007 4:18:10 AM

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I have a few fears, but the biggest one is for Master to stop caring for me. I have the fear of never be good enough for him. Fear of failling some goals i have set for myself.

But most of my fear, i create them myself and no one is imposing them on me.

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RE: As a submissive what is your biggest fear real or o... - 2/18/2007 8:57:45 AM

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ORIGINAL: andreaC

I have a few fears, but the biggest one is for Master to stop caring for me. I have the fear of never be good enough for him. Fear of failling some goals i have set for myself.

But most of my fear, i create them myself and no one is imposing them on me.

Yes I am most hard on Myself than others...everyone has a fear of loss of one sort or another...lack of approval also...The thing is to set short term obtainable goals that can be achieved.

Ross
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RE: As a submissive what is your biggest fear real or o... - 2/18/2007 10:05:50 AM

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wow. I think it's really interesting that a great deal of the submissives have stated their biggest fear is being abandoned. That used to one of mine, however after having it happen, i realized life does move forward, and I am stronger from that experience. It really sucked though.
Currently the only fear i really have is a fear of death, and there not being anything afterwards. You know when you are sleeping and there is just nothing. Thats my biggest fear. I have a belief if spirtituality and that we have souls...but every once in a while this fear with creep thru. But thats a human fear not a submissive fear.

Everyonce in a while, because life gets busy and hectic and time is scarce, I have a fear that my Dominant is losing interest in me, and might want to find something else. But when i sit down and really think about it, if that were true, he would just find someone else. I also know that we have something really special. So its just one of those irrational fears that stems from my insecurity.

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RE: As a submissive what is your biggest fear real or o... - 2/18/2007 4:30:30 PM

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My greatest fear is that of heights, thought this doesn't include flying in planes. I've been to le tour Eiffel twice and can't go above the second tier, it didn't help when the elevator got stuck going down--luckily a friend was there to help me keep from hyperventilating.

My other fears are failure and not being perfect. I try very hard and tell myself that I can only be me and do my best.

I haven't started a relationship, yet. It took me awhile to admit to myself what I needed. I've dealt with being left for another and being left alone and pg. Also, I'm adopted and my adopted parents divorced when I was a child. I, finally, came to the conclusion that I have to live my life as being without regret, no matter what.

As for the death of a loved one, I have felt their spirit pass, like a gentle kiss upon my soul. I miss them, but know that I did get to say goodbye and see you on the other side.

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RE: As a submissive what is your biggest fear real or o... - 2/18/2007 5:19:56 PM

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That I found this lifestyle to late in life and that I willll never find that special submissive lady to spend my life with.

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RE: As a submissive what is your biggest fear real or o... - 2/18/2007 5:33:09 PM

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wow....i dont think i wanna list those things..what if a Dom is watching and well....tries using the info?...

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RE: As a submissive what is your biggest fear real or o... - 2/19/2007 5:16:34 AM

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Hello. =)

Well... my biggest subbie fear. Hmmmm. Well... my owner and I started off vanilla, 3 years ago. We have a great history of teasing each other, joking around, being best friends. I guess my biggest fear is losing that camaraderie, now that our relationship is O/s. It's probably an irrational fear, but it still lurks around there somewhere.

My owner and I have talked about it at length, so he's aware of it. he understands and reassures me that in time this insecurity will pass. I believe him. =)

Stella

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