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ORIGINAL: Devilslilsister

My biggest fear - is some one getting inside of my head and destroying me from the inside out. 

I think that fear is not just esclusive to submissives.
 
It seems many of the fears posted are human fears and not just those related to submission.


Its already happened to a degree and i  managed to hold onto myself enough to fight for my life and against the odds - free myself.  That and when i finally gave up, an Angel was sent to save my life as i was ending it. 

I am sorry to hear of things coming to such a point without some form of divine intervention.
 
In times like these it is ok and important to reach out to others as it is not a burden and if thoise can not cope then more professional help is available.

i fear running across some one higher up on the food chain that i will be lost against. 


Life is for learning is it not? So lessons will be learned and you will hopefully recognize the signs and take appropriate actions.
 

So my fear is to be utterly open and vulnerable - giving some one that "in" in my mind.  Unfortunetly for Master, he is part of the human race.  So with in my r/s my biggest fear is to let go and trust.

Yes the fear of the unknown is there for many. With a good person beside you you might be able to over come your fears that we all might share.


death would be better then to die slowly from the inside out, losing your heart, soul, mind, and self.   Been there, done that, dont want to play again. 

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ORIGINAL: violetangel

My greatest fear is that of heights, thought this doesn't include flying in planes.  I've been to le tour Eiffel twice and can't go above the second tier, it didn't help when the elevator got stuck going down--luckily a friend was there to help me keep from hyperventilating. 

I would be right next to you doing the exact same thing!


My other fears are failure and not being perfect.  I try very hard and tell myself that I can only be me and do my best.

That is why we are called human. No one can be perfect as if they try they are setting themselves up for failure.
 
One might strive for perfection on a lifetime journey but be aware of failures and awarensses of learning within.



I haven't started a relationship, yet.  It took me awhile to admit to myself what I needed.  I've dealt with being left for another and being left alone and pg.  Also, I'm adopted and my adopted parents divorced when I was a child.  I, finally, came to the conclusion that I have to live my life as being without regret, no matter what.

Inner realiation and awareness is what many seek in many different forms.
 
your happiness comes from yourself from within not from another person.
 
I like your thoughts of no regrets.


As for the death of a loved one, I have felt their spirit pass, like a gentle kiss upon my soul.  I miss them, but know that I did get to say goodbye and see you on the other side.


I feel that you should celebrate their life rather than morn their passing.

Do you know what the difference of an Irish wedding and that of an Irish wake is?
 
One less drunk ;)

Ross
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ORIGINAL: babyboyk

i guess being a male submissive, is not being accepted for being who i am, is my biggest fear. i hope people do, but there is no accounting for everyone though.

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ORIGINAL: phoenixMB


This girl's biggest fear is being uncollared & released by Master.

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ORIGINAL: SoCalOTKhristine

Since I am my 40's, and I like men 35+, and dated men in their early 50's...1 of the fears is the heart attack thing.  I haven't gone as far as thinking this could happen when bound...(thanks for planting that image)...just in general.

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ORIGINAL: SirDiscipliner69

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ORIGINAL: SoCalOTKhristine

Since I am my 40's, and I like men 35+, and dated men in their early 50's...1 of the fears is the heart attack thing.  I haven't gone as far as thinking this could happen when bound...(thanks for planting that image)...just in general.

That is actually a very real thing to worry about..what might you do about it?

Have you taken precautions?

Involved a friend..safe call?


Ross
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ORIGINAL: SoCalOTKhristine

Let me tell you, now that this has been planted in my brain, I have started thinking through how I can protect myself in such a case.

I have heard this term "safe call"...can you elaborate?  I am assuming I call someone, tell them, if I don't call back in 2-3 hours, call me, if I don't answer, this is where I am?

Thank goodness I stumbled on this thread, I have learned something invaluable!!

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ORIGINAL: pearlmoongirl

As a submissive, my greatest fear is for my safety - of finally working up the courage to meet a Dom in private, and then to find out He's not a Dom but Someone simply out to brutalize women.

Then again, my second greatest fear is nearly neck-in-neck with the first - that in the end, I will lose courage and be too afraid, hesitant, worried, etc. to even try to meet Someone.

So perhaps my greatest fear is really, simply, fear.

Hm.

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ORIGINAL: SirDiscipliner69

As a submissive what is your biggest fear real or otherwise?

examples:

* Being abandoned
* your dom finding another submissive withy your help and leaving you


Ross