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RE: What do you find most irritating in the "Onlin... - 3/1/2007 2:47:24 PM

bbwdommelilith

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I find it very irritating to respond to a potential sub, only to have him ask me at great length about my particular kinks, and to express no interest in the other aspects of my personality. Read the profile!!! It says that I am looking for a relationship!

I get the feeling that he just wants to participate in a cheap excuse for cybering, which I don't do anyway.

Situations like this make it very difficult for me to maintain my interest in contacting potential partners.

Lilith

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RE: What do you find most irritating in the "Onlin... - 3/1/2007 4:36:04 PM

myobedience

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ORIGINAL: FukinTroll

Pet peeve....

The people who have a staggering amount of post and feel that gives them right to demean and devalue others.

yes yes yes yes yes yes yes yes yes yes yes yes !!!!!!

and right now.... demeaned and devalued for choosing to have a deactivated profile

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RE: What do you find most irritating in the "Onlin... - 3/1/2007 4:40:54 PM

myobedience

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ORIGINAL: LadyIce

Posters like benji, that are here just to piss on other posters

Poor benji.....
I could name others but not poor benji !

Dang benji !! you didnt have to do it in the food now did ya?
go ahead...get your own dinner now

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RE: What do you find most irritating in the "Onlin... - 3/1/2007 4:51:25 PM

myobedience

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ORIGINAL: FukinTroll

I find it very irritating that LaT can't reach through her monitor and slap the hell out of people.

me too........
it would be life threatening surgery to repair ones trachea !!

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RE: What do you find most irritating in the "Onlin... - 3/1/2007 4:52:26 PM

losttreasure

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quote:

ORIGINAL: CreativeDominant

quote:

ORIGINAL: losttreasure

Assmaster has a very good point. I'm sorry, but I can't understand why you'd consider even offering the opportunity to get to know someone who'd send an intro email like that. Of course, if you feel you must absolutely send some kind of response so as not to be rude, I've found something like the following is kinda fun.

Supposed dom (first email):
Ure hawt. do you have msn or yahoo?

You (first and only email back):

Thanks. Yes.

you are sooooooooooooo mean, lost

ssshhhh... don't tell anybody that, please. If word got out, well... I've got enough male subs writing to me as it is.

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RE: What do you find most irritating in the "Onlin... - 3/1/2007 5:03:39 PM

catize

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"dom" (first email) WHAT ARE YOUR HARD LIMITS?

me (one and only reply) Discussing hard limits in the first email.

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RE: What do you find most irritating in the "Onlin... - 3/1/2007 5:18:12 PM

josieD

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First post, and i have to say i find the whole thing a bit intimidating. Me and Hubby reply to pms and are polite, but have many saying my hubby isnt a "Real Dom", what on earth does this mean? he doesnt walk about dressed in leather and whipping me to Tescos (hes a real gent actually), but we make no illusions on my profile, we like BDSM, roleplay and stuff, yet i have had three pms telling me to LEAVE my husband as he isnt a proper dom, this just makes me and him very upset :(.

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RE: What do you find most irritating in the "Onlin... - 3/1/2007 7:48:12 PM

ArgoGeorgia

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josie, don't even pay attention to those guys. They are idiots, as I'm sure you've figured out, and they are the one's who don't have a clue.

Also, don't be intimidated. Most don't bite, even the ones with fairly loud barks.

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RE: What do you find most irritating in the "Onlin... - 3/1/2007 8:43:29 PM

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The sexism.
The immaturity.

(Both of which, of course, occur outside the realm of BDSM but I find them especially annoying in the forms so often seen relating to it.)

Those who mistake any sexual encounter where both people actually act like they want to be there as MUST being part of BDSM somehow... and their opposite, those who mistakenly equate vanilla sex with just plain bad sex.

I swear, there have been many more times than I can count that I've wanted to say to someone "Dear, that had nothing to do with power exchange, kink, bdsm, etc. You're over-analyzing. You just finally received a decent shagging".

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RE: What do you find most irritating in the "Onlin... - 3/1/2007 11:09:51 PM

FukinTroll

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I haven't read the whole thread... But did anyone mention a FukinTroll by chance?

I want to put them on my fav's list.

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RE: What do you find most irritating in the "Onlin... - 3/1/2007 11:27:41 PM

Evanesce

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Hmmm... what don't I like about the online "community"... OK, here's the top 10:

1. The gossip
2. The bullshit
3. The insipid twits I tend to encounter in chatrooms who "scurry about," and "hide behind furniture" and "throw water balloons." Get a grip! You're not doing this stuff. You're TYPING about doing this stuff. And if you were doing it in the real world, you'd be looking pretty darned foolish!
4. Online "leaders" who claim to be "rescuing" poor, defenseless submissives by labeling persons who are straightforward and direct about their expectations in a submissive as being dangerous and predatory simply because they're a little edgier than most.
5. "20 years' experience" backed up by not one lick of common sense, integrity, intellect, skill or knowledge.
6. SSC (need I say more?)
7. HNGs disguised as Mentors.
8. People who deliberately misinterpret someone else's words just so they can argue a point that is completely without merit.
9. The overly romanticized versions of BDSM espoused by certain unnamed websites that give people a completely inaccurate view of the realities of Master/slave relationships.
10. Wankers. Seriously... who needs 200 dick pics in their email?

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RE: What do you find most irritating in the "Onlin... - 3/2/2007 4:47:42 AM

Vendaval

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For me, the main pet peeve for Online is the same as in real life,
lack of basic courtesy, respect and manners. People will
argue, debate and disagree, that is all good and well.
No need to be uncivilized and an embarassment to your
momma, who taught you better manners than that when
you were a young one.

The particular pet peeve for Online is that the individuals
most likely to be inflamatory and insulting would never
have the juevos or ovarios to say any of that to you face
to face.

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RE: What do you find most irritating in the "Onlin... - 3/2/2007 5:08:09 AM

findmedaddy

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My pet peeve with online is self-focused. I've gotten too interested in the handful of doms who read my profile carefully, or to whom I wrote after reading their profiles, with whom I feel a genuine connection through writing back and forth and/or talking on the phone for a while. Most contacts I've made here haven't worked out that way, and there's been a little puncture in my hope each time that happens, but with these few, the ones who really connect in ways that make me feel much more hope than I ought, it's been extraordinarily painful. They usually don't work out because of distance or because of his marital status. So I guess for me, the possibilities presented here are both very attractive (all these people!) and very tough on the hope muscle (all these people, so far away, so married!).

Also, I take things on the message boards too personally.

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RE: What do you find most irritating in the "Onlin... - 3/2/2007 5:27:00 AM

izzybella

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My main pet peeve is males wondering why I answer them with a sarcastic put down for messaging me when I have stated in no uncertain terms that I am not interested in men. And no it doesnt make any difference if you are being polite or not you will still get flamed in return.

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RE: What do you find most irritating in the "Onlin... - 3/2/2007 5:35:38 AM

raff32

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My pet peeve is people that treat others with little or no respect. Especially from Dommes who think it is fine to string someone along merely to ignore them all of a sudden. Costs nothing to let someone know that you arent interested any more.....

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RE: What do you find most irritating in the "Onlin... - 3/2/2007 9:22:32 AM

Dnomyar

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Izzybella flame me all you want. Im a fireman. Hey Domi if you like women with balls date She-Males. A lot of good answers on here. Some of the people on here are guilty of doing the things that piss them off.

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RE: What do you find most irritating in the "Onlin... - 3/2/2007 9:25:01 AM

domiguy

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the majority of the above posts show that the person receiving the idiotic initial message has the ability to be just as innane in providing a response.....Ignore and block...(Repeat after me)...Ignore and Block!...And if someone is actually getting "upset"...You need to find a new hobby...Most of the folks out here are clowns...And if they can actually irritate you...You probably need to invest in a big red nose and a horn of your own.

Dnomyar...Ignore and block...lol.

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RE: What do you find most irritating in the "Onlin... - 3/2/2007 9:35:46 AM

Shylahgirl

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That just because I'm submissive to one person in real life, online "masters" *gigglse a little* think I am therefore submissive to them.

And that massive amount of goreans who insist on calling me "slave"

O, o, and the people who read my peofile (yes some online people do read profiles. I know...amazing) and think that because of my age I can't possably know shit about shit.

Shylah
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I've never played online, I've just sat in chat rooms and waited for someone to IM me.

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RE: What do you find most irritating in the "Onlin... - 3/2/2007 10:12:26 AM

findmedaddy

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quote:

ORIGINAL: domiguy

the majority of the above posts show that the person receiving the idiotic initial message has the ability to be just as innane in providing a response.....Ignore and block...(Repeat after me)...Ignore and Block!...And if someone is actually getting "upset"...You need to find a new hobby...Most of the folks out here are clowns...And if they can actually irritate you...You probably need to invest in a big red nose and a horn of your own.

Dnomyar...Ignore and block...lol.

I don't feel like a clown, domiguy, but I've allowed myself to get irritated here. Not that many people write to me, and almost no one who does is annoying or inappropriate, so I'm not experiencing the things that seem to irritate most of the posters to this thread. But I think it's ok to vent some....After all, we're people and we have feelings, and being leveled by someone on a message board (or ignored, or prissily corrected, or whatever it is) can *get* to you. Ok, not to *you*, maybe, but to some of us. If I admit to being affected emotionally sometimes, why does that make me a clown? I'm really asking, not cracking wise.

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RE: What do you find most irritating in the "Onlin... - 3/2/2007 10:36:06 AM

domiguy

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Two different subjects...One is the boards and another is your profile...It is extremely easy to get caught up in a conversation out here that you do possess some sort of a stong view on...But even with that said, how mant people actually have the ability to listen to something that directly opposes their own belief system...and then weigh the argument and possibly amend their own thoughts?..In the real world...Few!...Out here even less...So why yell at the wind? Make your point and move on. Nothing to see here...lol. I always picture the person that doesn't possess the ability to listen or reason as dressed like a clown...Makes it so much easier to walk away, shake your head and say to yourself, "What in the fuck was I thinking trying to communicate with this idiot in the first place."

When it comes to messages being sent to your profile....If you don't open the message and delete it, it still shows as the message as being unopened to the sender...I can think of a no bigger insult to send to someone...Than that I find you so irrelevant that I won't even ackowledge what you have written and then to "block" that person as well.

< Message edited by domiguy -- 3/2/2007 11:30:01 AM >

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