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how did you get started? - 3/2/2007 7:23:56 PM   
soulKnife


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From: atlanta, Georgia
Status: offline 		just curious about how others began to go about exploring their interest in bdsm.
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RE: how did you get started? - 3/2/2007 7:38:51 PM   
WhiplashSmile


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Status: offline 		Around the time I was 13 with the Girl Next Door... Started off with us doing Magic Tricks.. Rope and other things... Role playing out stuff... which we did all along as kids..  just slowly digressed into BDSM...  Playing Zorro.. with a whip... then Drawing on each other Body Art...  All Kinds of stupid things...  Partners in Crime more less...


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RE: how did you get started? - 3/2/2007 8:40:12 PM   
swtrayn


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Status: offline 		Looking back, I think it pretty much started off when I was a preteen, playing with the boys and letting them tie me to trees and play kidnapping games. I didn't think to much of it. In my late teens, experimented with being tied up during sexual play, and also learned I enjoyed pain. I honestly didn't really know what it was all about until I was in my 20's and happen to come across someone online that showed me IRC, and I started reading and talking to people in the lifestyle. Then it just all clicked. I think I was always alittle twisted and warped, and in my 20's I understood why.. (smiles) Met my first Master at 25, and the rest is history..

That is how I got started...


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RE: how did you get started? - 3/2/2007 8:46:26 PM   
littlesarbonn


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From: Stockton, California
Status: offline 		I started by entering intelligence and getting tied up by sexy Soviet agents who tortured me for information. Oh wait, that was a fantasy. Or wait...was it? I do remember them using some brainwashing techniques that got really HOT. Um, I gotta go do something right now...be back soon.

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RE: how did you get started? - 3/2/2007 9:02:51 PM   
WhiplashSmile


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ORIGINAL: littlesarbonn

I started by entering intelligence and getting tied up by sexy Soviet agents who tortured me for information. Oh wait, that was a fantasy. Or wait...was it? I do remember them using some brainwashing techniques that got really HOT. Um, I gotta go do something right now...be back soon.


So in otherwords... playing James Bond got you started??

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RE: how did you get started? - 3/2/2007 9:02:59 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		Cyber AOL chatrooms for two weeks before my first scene with a dumbass. 

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RE: how did you get started? - 3/2/2007 9:03:36 PM   
proudsub


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quote:

ORIGINAL: soulKnife

just curious about how others began to go about exploring their interest in bdsm.


I met someone at a game site who asked me if i liked to be dominated.  Having no idea where he was going with it, i said sure i like the guy to be in charge and after much discussion he became my online dom.  He showed me what had been missing in my life.

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RE: how did you get started? - 3/2/2007 9:08:07 PM   
cloudboy


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RE: how did you get started? - 3/2/2007 9:09:45 PM   
SweetSarijane


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From: KC area Missouri
Status: offline 		I always liked the strong alpha type man and had fantasies of being tied up and ravished. About 3 1/2 years ago I stumbled across someone online who became a good friend and we talked about everything you can think of including aspects of wiitwd. Those conversations sparked something in me and I began to search for answers and understanding and fulfillment of the needs growing inside me. I eventually found CM purely by chance in a random search, joined, found the forums, and was found through my profile by a member of the local community and the rest is history <grin> and it's been a hell of a journey so far.

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RE: how did you get started? - 3/2/2007 9:32:55 PM   
MrRodgers


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Status: offline 		I read too many action-hero comics as a youth and just like the doctors said it would...lead to deviant perversions and certain persons (me) beating and ravishing the same group of people...over and over again.

Then met a coed 19, at a pizzeria. Dates led to vanilla sex...then the kinky sexual fetishes.

On the net...also had a profile at Kinky Contacts...others sites too...alt.com.

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RE: how did you get started? - 3/2/2007 9:39:13 PM   
FukinTroll


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Status: offline 		Wait a second here... this is not a sex site?

You mean you do this stuff to each other for real?


My first sex partner had kinky~sex parents, so she had no objections to bondage!

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RE: how did you get started? - 3/2/2007 10:36:17 PM   
slavegirljoy


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quote:

ORIGINAL: soulKnife

just curious about how others began to go about exploring their interest in bdsm.


i was introduced to BDSM in 1977 at age 21, when i was a SGT in the Army stationed in Stuttgart, Germany and my 37 year old First Sergeant started dating me and told me that He was "into BD-SM".  i didn't know what He was talking about and i didn't ask.  He showed me what it was and i was hooked.  He married me and He had U/us join a Swingers club that was for mixed-gender couples only for the purpose of kinky couples meeting other kinky couples for kinky sex.  One couple told U/us about a a couple of sex clubs in the the old section of Frankfurt, called Sachsenhausen, where performers engaged in simulated B&D and S&M onstage.  He also gave me a copy of "The Story of O"  to read, along with Penthouse Forum and Penthouse Letters magazines.  He also took me to a lot of adult theaters to watch porn with Him.  He taught me everything i know about Bondage & Discipline/Sadomasochism.  He was an excellent teacher.
 
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RE: how did you get started? - 3/2/2007 11:07:34 PM   
mynded


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Status: offline 		It's all D4's fault. Nah, just when i got serious about it and began to learn from a Dom i met there. We're still together after 1 year in an LDR. Also met some good friends there who helped me along the way. I guess the closest i got to it before then was with my ex who was interested in swinging but that never got off the ground. D's lifestyle has proven to be more desirable for me.

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RE: how did you get started? - 3/2/2007 11:19:02 PM   
WhiplashSmile


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quote:

ORIGINAL: FukinTroll

Wait a second here... this is not a sex site?

You mean you do this stuff to each other for real?


My first sex partner had kinky~sex parents, so she had no objections to bondage!


I'm as shocked are you are FukinTroll... I found this place while looking up dog collars on Google...

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RE: how did you get started? - 3/2/2007 11:39:25 PM   
sambamanslilgirl


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From: Chicago, IL
Status: offline 		by accident 4yrs ago - met a Dom online while chatting on yahoo messenger and he started asking me questions like being a submissive and roleplaying. didn't know what the heck he was talking about but he did spark the interest in me. we had a couple of sessions (online and real) however my relationship with him didn't last long. after him i had 2 formers and a couple of "pets" (explored my Domme side too) who enjoyed trampling and other forms of painful punishment. i like being a submissive better - though somewhere inside me there's a Domme ready to make another appearance (perhaps one day).


< Message edited by sambamanslilgirl -- 3/2/2007 11:42:05 PM >

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RE: how did you get started? - 3/3/2007 12:58:00 AM   
BeachMystress


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From: Naples Island- Long Beach CA - Southern California
Status: offline 		I started manipulating boys about 15. My first experience with something that was solely fetish oriented was cross dressing my boyfriend at 17. After that I tied up, controlled, spanked, manipulated, teased and denied and cross dressed all but one or two of my boyfriends. I had no idea that what I was doing had anything to do with any sort of lifestyle.
 
I was 34 when I met a man. We'd been going out for a while and he brought up the subject of bringing rope into the bedroom. I was thrilled! I'd never had the man bring it up first! Then I realized he wanted to tie ME up!! Wait one min.. that isn't how the game is played!!  He and I had a long talk and he gave me some sites to read. I couldn't believe there were other people out there like me. To me, a Dominatrix was one of those weird women with scowls on the front of bad magazines. Since I didn't know others out there were doing the same thing I was, I never found it on the internet or elsewhere. It just never occurred to me to look. It was just the way I was and some men loved it!

I entered the local scene in September 2004 by going to a Club FEm munch. November 19th 2004 I met the sub I would marry at the grand opening party for a dungeon. He'd been involved with the lifestyle for all of three months.

So how do I count my experience? I started Domming men 23 years ago. I became aware I was Domming men six years ago. I joined the public scene two and a half years ago. You pick.

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RE: how did you get started? - 3/3/2007 5:36:24 AM   
Aileen68


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Status: offline 		Thinking back, I always fantasized about being controlled and bound long before I even knew much about sex.  Definite rape fantasies at a young age.  It wasn't until I was about 27 that I actually had any real experience with any kind of domination.  I used to go to a nude beach at the Jersey shore every Monday over the summer of 95.  After a few weeks, a man would come and sit fairly close to me.  He started talking to me and eventually it got so that he would jerk off while we talked.  Then he requested that I put my feet up in the air so that he could see them while we talked.  He obviously had a foot fetish.  I would do as he asked.  I would also make sure that I would have pedicures each week for him since I knew he enjoyed that.  He never touched me the entire summer and I only knew his first name.  That opened my eyes to how much I liked having someone tell me what to do.  It wasn't until I actually started exploring the internet that I discovered sites like this and then everything clicked into place as I had a name for everything that I felt.  Sorry for the long ramble.

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RE: how did you get started? - 3/3/2007 5:42:49 AM   
KatyLied


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Joined: 2/24/2005
From: Pennsylvania
Status: offline 		I had fantasizes about being dominated and also about bondage and spanking for many years.  After my divorce I was fortunate to meet a man who showed me what it was like to experience these things.  My first experience was erotic and it continues to be the standard that I judge other experiences by.    melt.......

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RE: how did you get started? - 3/3/2007 5:53:12 AM   
Smythe


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Starting at around age 8, made my friends play slave with me, and tied up my cousins whenever they would come to visit.

As the saying goes, "What's bred in the bone will out in the flesh"
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RE: how did you get started? - 3/3/2007 6:35:58 AM   
MsKatHouston


Posts: 1909
Joined: 6/7/2006
From: Houston, TX
Status: offline 		I started out really young experimenting and playing.  Spy games, playing doctor...except I always had a kinky bent to them.  I must have been borm twisted ;)

Then as I got older I refined and learned and it just got kinkier and more edgy with each passing year. 

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