From: Davis, Ca
The post was a request for a one sentence description. Did my attempt "win" or was the disgust so deep and offensive that people just clicked off the thread without comment? I was looking forward to other attempts but didn't see any.
Pity that the world is such a sad place for some. Me - I'll have fun, laugh, and enjoy. See unintended prejudice if it brings you satisfaction or joy, for in that event - it still met it's intended purpose, a reaction was generated.
I can understand that you were joking. I guess I've just faced far too much of the same prejudice as a pansexual for it to be funny.
I get tired of being told I call myself "pansexual" because I just want to have sex. I -know- that it's just a stupid stereotype, and that being able to joke about said stereotypes is a good thing.
For me, though, it's one thing for someone who -fits- the category to joke about it, and an entirely different one for someone outside of it to do the same. Basicaly, I think it's ok to make disparaging jokes about your -own- group, but not one you aren't a part of.
Knowing that you, Merc, are a very happy dominant person, and reading your comments about switches bothers me because you -aren't- part of that group and it's hard to read the comments as anything -other- than patronizing.
Also, sometimes such jokes can go pretty far to undermine the attempts to move non-typical identifications in from the fringes. I am not a switch, so I don't know what it's like ot try to get accepted as one, but from reading this forum I can -tell- it's difficult. Similarly, it is -hard- to get people to believe I am bisexual because I am attracted to both genders, -not- because 1. my boyfriend wants to see me with a girl 2. I can't choose 3. I'm a slut.
You are highly respected on this forum, and people listen to what you say. Hearing you say something like this, even in jest (which is hard to read in online) -does- help people make up their minds about things. It bothers me that with your influence, you'd, even jestingly, continue such a blatantly incorect stereotype.
~in the begining it is always dark~