MadameMarque
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My post, below, was regarding the suggestion that if a person cheats, and their partner suspects it or discovers it, that somehow makes the act of cheating less wrong. I'm saying, that's ridiculous. quote:
ORIGINAL: MadameMarque Oh, save us all from the pitiful moral state of justifying our own bad acts by pointing at someone else and saying, "But they knew!" It's not only irrelevant to the fact that you did something you know is wrong, but it doesn't even make any sense. If you choose to do what you freely agreed not to do - presumably, in this case, get romantically and/or sexually involved with someone outside your current relationship - without letting your partner know before doing it (so that they, in turn, can choose what they want to do, before you've ever betrayed your agreement) and without letting them know after (so that your partner can have a chance to choose whether or not they want to expose themselves to the various problems and risks you've brought into the relationship), then you're keeping it a secret, aren't you? And if your partner knew, then you wouldn't have to hide it at all, would you? And if they discover or realize you're cheating, but can't bring themselves to confront it, because they're scared of losing you or can't stand to deal with the pain, how does that make you any less guilty of doing something wrong? "But they knew I was cheating." This is a cheater's argument. And "cheating" is wrong. Look it up - the word, I mean. I responded to the original post on page 8 of this tome. But I was amazed to see the thread still active, and I come back to find it's degenerated into the, 'but they knew I was cheating' defense. Arggh "Those are my principles. If you don't like them, I have others." - Groucho Marx
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