krikket
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Joined: 11/17/2004 From: Washington, DC Metro Area Status: offline
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i tend to agree with those are saying he doesn't have the "right", but then again some Doms do think our going without any underwear on a first meet is a show of future obedience, which is certainly their right -- to think what they want, i mean. i try to make it pretty clear, up front, that a first meet is more a meeting of equals, to see if we're even compatible on the most basic of levels. The only thing i'm willing to exchange with them at a first meet is my respect, but then i "expect" the same of them at that point. Since i'm rather large myself, 40DD, i'm not even sure my street clothes would fit without a bra..lol. It's also, for me, a form of humiliation "play" and that's not something i'm willing to do at a first meet. At subsequent meetings, at our homes, when i've gone bra-less i've either been nude or wearing a man's shirt to keep the chill off. i've refused to go bra-less when asked to do so in public, to the point with a couple over the years, of making it a "hard" limit for that particular meeting. my thought is that if they can't respect that limit then how will they react when, during a (much) later scene, i have to use a safe word. Just my 2 cents worth.. cheers, jimini
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