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RE: do married guys have much luck here? - 3/23/2007 5:32:00 PM

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*huggles*

Awww, thanks! I feel ever so much better now!

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RE: do married guys have much luck here? - 3/23/2007 5:35:39 PM

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Dusty from the angle of this post I think I can see up your skirt!

Slurp!

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RE: do married guys have much luck here? - 3/23/2007 9:42:41 PM

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Oh you and your slurping...

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RE: do married guys have much luck here? - 3/23/2007 9:43:42 PM

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Slurp!

Where did that hit ya Aqua?

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RE: do married guys have much luck here? - 3/23/2007 9:54:14 PM

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Slurp!

Where did that hit ya Aqua?

Nowhere I can say in public.

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RE: do married guys have much luck here? - 3/23/2007 10:11:22 PM

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C-mail dam it! I want c-mail!!!

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RE: do married guys have much luck here? - 3/23/2007 10:14:58 PM

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C-mail dam it! I want c-mail!!!

I want the pantless picture...

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RE: do married guys have much luck here? - 3/23/2007 10:17:16 PM

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Beg you hussy! Send your fuk'n beg mail and your pic like the rest of them.

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RE: do married guys have much luck here? - 4/17/2007 7:22:20 PM

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Brava Jewel! Well said.

I'll keep my above average bra size that is sans plastic, my above average work out routine, my above average guy and our above average sex and above average relationship.

Settling for typical has never been my bag.

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ETA: Ooops, didn't realise this was an old thread. Followed the link from elsewhere. Excuse me.

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Well, gotta say I have views on this thread similar to this gentleman. I have no problem with other views...weightier or not, just don't try to make mine wrong because I stated the obvious. And again, I'm not hearing any Domme's lining up to take him on. As for other gals I wish you the best and the most weight to your body choices...that just means more of the typical guys left for me! Now for me I have another set of skiing exercises to do with my "Heavy Hands"...oops that's "hand weights" for you woman eating pizza on the couch tonight!

chirssy - a-one and a-two!

Yanno... I find that reading the message boards is an excellent way to find out who you would want to spend time with and who you wouldn't want to be around longer then a few minutes. Size isn't nearly as important as attitude (read "good attitude"). It's one thing to be opinionated, but you are simply a snob about it. The dominant that finally claims you better have lots of mirrors in the house as admiring yourself seems to be your forte'.

You can have your "typical" guys, all of them. No skin of these ladies back, they, after all, have the above average guys for themselves.

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RE: do married guys have much luck here? - 4/21/2007 9:25:43 AM

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I'm not fond of tighty whities on males over the age of 3, but that's my own personal preference.

You want to play with someone who will be OK with the fact that you are married, but going outside your marriage without your wife's knowledge or consent. You want that person to be discreet so that your marriage will not be jeopardized. Obviously, you'll also need that person to be flexible about meeting times; there will be times when you're unavailable due to your work schedule...or your wife.

You can't/won't offer your play partner a commitment, money, or any significant degree of control. You don't want to bring up the topic with your wife. That really doesn't leave a world of options open to you. I'd suggest revisiting a ProDomme [already suggested], serving your wife in ways that are not necessarily related to your sexual gratification [also previously suggested], and/or being open to serving a Master [may or may not have been suggested; it's been a long thread]. Oh, or you could just be patient and keep searching. I get the feeling a lot of male submissives are making that last option work the best way they can.

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RE: do married guys have much luck here? - 4/21/2007 9:36:15 AM

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Does your wife to consent to this? If so, just keep looking...you'll find someone.

If you're wife doesn't know, try checking out www.cheating/husbands/who/cant/be/honest/with/their/wives/about/their/perverse/desires/and/there/fore/need/to/do/the/right/thing/and/ get/a/divorce.com.

Bet you'll find lots of folks there.

Nicely said.

Think that is all that needs said.

That right there should pretty much END this thread.

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RE: do married guys have much luck here? - 4/21/2007 9:40:57 AM

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Does your wife to consent to this? If so, just keep looking...you'll find someone.

If you're wife doesn't know, try checking out www.cheating/husbands/who/cant/be/honest/with/their/wives/about/their/perverse/desires/and/there/fore/need/to/do/the/right/thing/and/ get/a/divorce.com.

Bet you'll find lots of folks there.

Nicely said.

Think that is all that needs said.

That right there should pretty much END this thread.

BRAVO!!!! <sharp whistles> WOO HOO BRAVO!!! *did i mention i agree with this post?

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RE: do married guys have much luck here? - 4/21/2007 12:46:25 PM

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I haven't read the seventeen pages of replies.

You seem to have two questions: whether dominant women play with married submissive men, and whether dominant women will engage in play without serious relationships.

I play with married men. That is, I play with married men in open marriages, in polyamorous relationships, or who have entered in other kinds of non-monogamous agreements with their spouses. It's a question of ethics. Married guys seem to have some luck on Collarme if they are poly or otherwise ethically non-monogamous and if they seek ethically non-monogamous partners.

A number of dominant women I know, including me, engage in ongoing, casual play or "tertiary" relationships. Most of us practice some form of ethical non-monogamy, so this means that your pool isn't really getting smaller--good news!

Monica

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RE: do married guys have much luck here? - 4/21/2007 1:08:00 PM

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... A married man could stand on his head, balancing a book on each foot, while reciting the pledge of allegience backwards trying to persuade Me that the situation was acceptable to his wife, would not get in the way of the marriage, or harm his wife in any way, and I STILL wouldn't buy it for a dollar.

I'm neither submissive nor looking to engage in a relationship with someone who is married but, if someone can prove to me that their S.O. is okay with the situation (such proof would consist of her S.O. inviting me out to a local bar and asking me to PLEASE spend some time [and details of what that time might entail] with his lady), then I probably would (if all other criteria are met).

If there's truly no deception, where's the issue? If it's a matter of time constraints, I might understand that but dishonesty has, now, been removed from the equation.

Peace and comfort,

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RE: do married guys have much luck here? - 4/21/2007 1:13:43 PM

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I'm neither submissive nor looking to engage in a relationship with someone who is married but, if someone can prove to me that their S.O. is okay with the situation (such proof would consist of her S.O. inviting me out to a local bar and asking me to PLEASE spend some time [and details of what that time might entail] with his lady), then I probably would (if all other criteria are met).

If there's truly no deception, where's the issue? If it's a matter of time constraints, I might understand that but dishonesty has, now, been removed from the equation.

Unfortunately many married men don't take a simple "no thank you" for an answer, and will proceed to harass and whine and plead until blocked from whatever names (yes as in multiple) they happen to be using.

A tactic I found worked better is to tell them I'd consider it but I need to meet their wife first, and when can we all meet for coffee?

Never had anyone take me up on that, and chases them off like a charm. :-)

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RE: do married guys have much luck here? - 4/21/2007 1:15:17 PM

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Now that I got that initial post out of the way, I'll answer the original question.

While I'm not married, my better half, Jo, and I live together so, for all intents and purposes, I'm "married".

I have found that there are sooooo many submissives that say(and I quote): "I don't share." That's it. No: "Gee, everything else you said makes sense but, I need to POSSESS you, all to myself." (Which would be more honest).

So, in my experience, we don't "do well"

I would suggest that in the case of the original poster, you're a male submissive who, for lack of a better term "has to answer to" your wife. Few dominants (who believe it is them you should be answering to [and rightly so]) are going to want to share your time. The old Biblical quote: "You can't serve two [sic]masters" comes to mind.

When I lived in Arizona, there were a few kink-related clubs in Phoenix but, they weren't exactly advertising on billboards. Look around, you may find some luck, there.

Peace and comfort,

Michael

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RE: do married guys have much luck here? - 4/21/2007 5:01:29 PM

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azjojoba: Look, I've been in an open relationship with my wife for the majority of our 23 year long marriage. The one time I really fucked up was when I first tried to go outside of the vows behind her back. The LYING is the corrosive part of this, not the sex with other people (kinky or not). No one likes to be lied to. Simple as that. Not to mention, all of BDSM is based on trusting each other. You, your wife, the potential Domme, the swedish bikini team, the guy selling you the equipment...

If you can't invite your potential Domme home, to meet the wife over dinner, then maybe you'd best think about other, more honorable, options.

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RE: do married guys have much luck here? - 4/21/2007 6:55:20 PM

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... A married man could stand on his head, balancing a book on each foot, while reciting the pledge of allegience backwards trying to persuade Me that the situation was acceptable to his wife, would not get in the way of the marriage, or harm his wife in any way, and I STILL wouldn't buy it for a dollar.

I'm neither submissive nor looking to engage in a relationship with someone who is married but, if someone can prove to me that their S.O. is okay with the situation (such proof would consist of her S.O. inviting me out to a local bar and asking me to PLEASE spend some time [and details of what that time might entail] with his lady), then I probably would (if all other criteria are met).

If there's truly no deception, where's the issue? If it's a matter of time constraints, I might understand that but dishonesty has, now, been removed from the equation.

Peace and comfort,

Michael

Michael, I put this on another board that might shed some light on this. I have yet to meet the married man who would meet with Me and his wife, say during lunch, have her listen to a detailed description of what her husband/My submissive would engage in for activities, and have her look Me in the eyes and say that the situation would work for her. (BTW, I should mention that ID is required to prove it's the wife.) When the day comes that such a scenerio happens, I might change My mind. So far, no one has ever lived up to the challenge. Be well.

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RE: do married guys have much luck here? - 4/21/2007 7:43:32 PM

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Michael, I put this on another board that might shed some light on this. I have yet to meet the married man who would meet with Me and his wife, say during lunch, have her listen to a detailed description of what her husband/My submissive would engage in for activities, and have her look Me in the eyes and say that the situation would work for her. (BTW, I should mention that ID is required to prove it's the wife.) When the day comes that such a scenerio happens, I might change My mind. So far, no one has ever lived up to the challenge. Be well.

Oh, believe me; I hear ya. Somehow, the basic principles to which I subscribe have gotten lost on many who claim to be in this lifestyle and I agree that it is not easy to get "permission" from one's partner. I would suggest, however, that those situations exist.

I had a lady I was speaking to, from another site and she, essentially, said the same thing and boy oh boy! Was she surprised when my (then) girlfriend and myself showed up for a wonderful evening of dinner and karaoke and "getting to know" each other. Essentially, we were "on a date" and it blew her mind because she ASSUMED that any man that was "involved" MUST be without honor and, therefore, a "playa".

I tend to give people the benefit of the doubt (within reason) and assume that they are telling the truth (while still asking for some assurances).

Peace and comfort,

Michael

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