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RE: do married guys have much luck here? - 3/16/2007 6:11:25 PM

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ot mention that's about the height (5'4") and weight range (190) I'm in. Plenty of people think I'm sexy so :-P

That's right about where I am...I'm 5ft3 and around 200lbs and plenty of folks find me sexy too!

And I do think you are adorably cute Aquatic! You're perfect as you are.

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RE: do married guys have much luck here? - 3/16/2007 6:17:22 PM

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yay, ur boutyfull' just as you are!!!! *kiss

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RE: do married guys have much luck here? - 3/16/2007 6:19:59 PM

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ot mention that's about the height (5'4") and weight range (190) I'm in. Plenty of people think I'm sexy so :-P

That's right about where I am...I'm 5ft3 and around 200lbs and plenty of folks find me sexy too!

And I do think you are adorably cute Aquatic! You're perfect as you are.

I may even be.... *looks around* adorkable!

*Grins*

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RE: do married guys have much luck here? - 3/16/2007 6:23:55 PM

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LOL, yes, you most definately are~! I will share the term with you because you are cute and geeky which is the exact definition of adorkable, according to my ex who invented the word (at least I think he did, lol)

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RE: do married guys have much luck here? - 3/16/2007 6:27:46 PM

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LOL, yes, you most definately are~! I will share the term with you because you are cute and geeky which is the exact definition of adorkable, according to my ex who invented the word (at least I think he did, lol)

Yay!

To be honest I've been wanting to steal it ever since I saw it.

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RE: do married guys have much luck here? - 3/16/2007 6:28:33 PM

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My advice is for someone 5'11 and 225 is don't show your photo! Even as a sub/slave youe photo is a big turn-off, and with the choices that most Dommes have you need to show your best side, not your fat-handled ass side.
Also lose about 30-40 lbs, then think about showing that much skin. Other than following that advice, I strongly suggest considering a professional Domme.

My suggestion to YOU chrissyslave is to not resort to cheap and childish insults. You show yourself to be a small person in every way when you do that. It takes all types to make the world go round and even if you don't find him appealing, someone else will. So, stick to the topic and stop being so nasty.

Hey, it's just another view and possible reason he is not getting enough, or any responses. Fact is the one photo is NOT flattering, and if you think it is "yummy" to you then please speak up! Most guys at least in vanilla-land have figured out that looking good in a sports shirt or suit (maybe even a tux) is far more flattering to what woman generally appreciate in a man, then later they are able to overlook any physical shortcomings. As it is he showed an unflattering side, in MY view, and think it IS good one reason for not getting any responses. I still suggest drop that photo, get a few DRESSED photo and market yourself better. And dear other woman here WE are judged by different standards so don't take my comment to a guy as the same if speaking to you.

But heck...being a bi-woman note that I would say something similar to you if it came to my personal preferences, other views and preceptions allowed their due consideration. Whatever works for you works! What I hope is ALL together we offer him some reasons for the lack of responses from a Domme, and I stand by my comment that I find that ONE offered photo a turn-off, and how he could do better. Argue with that one point and then we can "all get along." If you try to make my comments about yourself then may I suggest making a separate post about it and we can all respond in due course.

BTW, I am trying to lose another 3-5 lbs so I can take my midriff baring photos in summer wear pretty soon, plus some tennis wear. But that's just me! BTW, I have personally sold over $1 million dollars in plus size woman's wear as a past clothing sales woman, and more as a manager, and I respect such sized woman, even though I am aware of the various concerns many of them have. More power to you!

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RE: do married guys have much luck here? - 3/16/2007 6:41:51 PM

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I apologize to the OP for challenging him as a possible hit and run. I am actually glad to see you came back, although you seem to be burying yourself deeper. Unfortunately, your responses thus far are confirming that you are being discreet so that your wife does not realize you are "cheating" (Yes, it is cheating no matter how you try to spin it, dear). I am sorry that what I had to say is not what you wanted to hear, but I do hope you will consider it and give it some weight as you are doing your running around.
For the same reason that you feel that paying a Pro Domme puts you in charge, being married and seeing a FemDomon on a regular or semi-regular basis also puts you in charge. Neither scenario, when one is married and cheating makes for a strong D/s relationship. Please keep that in mind,too.
As to My comment regarding your less than appealing picture, ( I would just like to throw in My 2cents here since that subject came up) it had nothing to do with any weight issues and everything to do with the attitude that comes across. I would make the same comment to an Adonis with great pecs. It is inappropriate and sends out the message that this is how you want to be viewed. Would you post a picture of yourself presenting your backside while dressed in a pair of jockey shorts on any vanilla dating site? Of course,you would not! So your photo, to Me, is just further confirmation that you consider this a site to hook-up to find the kinky release...certainly not one in which you project yourself with respect and the submission you claim to have. Unless,that is, your submission is completely and exclusively tied to BDSM adult play. And you have already made clear that it is. I'll give you honesty points. Not they will help you in the end...but... you are very consistent.
Remember, jojoba, you are sneering, at this point, at the Ladies who are Lifestyle FemDoms, on this site, and in your state. You are projecting the attitude that this is all about BDSM adult play (i.e. kink) and any Lady who has a profile here but does not have this same idea as a first priority, is not a valid FemDom, in your opinion. Be careful about using terms like "so-called". It's insulting.
There is no problem regarding what you want, provided you are willing to pay the consequences for your personal choices and you can get someone else to go along with your progam. But don't come onto the message boards and whine about how we all have a wrong attitude and how that is making it hard for you to get your jollies. It's not becoming and it certainly isn't submissive!

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RE: do married guys have much luck here? - 3/16/2007 6:42:18 PM

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My advice is for someone 5'11 and 225 is don't show your photo

I am 8inches shorter than him and only about 20lbs lighter, so I disagree with your statement.

I wouldn't go so far as to ridicule him for his size.

I think what's he's doing is despicable but I'm a good 90lbs overweight myself, and it ain't gonna keep me from showing my bod!

Bringing weight into it is hitting below the belt, even when dealing with a sleazeball. I'd be pretty hurt if someone told me I shouldn't show any sexy pics of me unless I lose weight.

For the record, I find larger men quite attractive and I think if I was a domme, his size wouldn't bother me. What bothers me more is that the picture is poor quality and taken from an unflattering angle, indicating that he is not taking special pride in presenting himself to his prospective domme.

What I'm speaking of is in terms of "marketing." The market for a sub-male is far less than a sub-female, and to show one's shape in that kind of photo is simply "poor marketing." Of course even for a woman here in CM-land what sells well is a bit different than what goes over well in vanilla-land, which is likely why more BBW are here than the averages out there. Better marketing for bigger and self-confident woman works better here. So we are speaking of apples versus oranges and his "product" has a variety of reasons for not going over well, and his photo is just one key one of many. As the ONLY photo he shows it is cheap and slezy looking, and matches his profile in general. No wonder few or no takers.

BTW, I have been a bit bigger in the past and in general the takers are far more then I am at the size I am today, or I would not be able to wear what I do in my own photos. The fact that I could weigh more than I do (143 lbs at 5'9", size 11/12) shows I value my own appearance and health, and both are better for it. Again, it comes down to marketing and I market myself in various ways, all with due respect of course. And the best to any others that are successful in their own presentation choices, but if one comes here and bitches about how no one is turned on to their profiles then ALL parts of it comes into some due consideration....photos included. BTW, it's not his weight per sec but that it doesn't look good on him and just comes across as a middle aged guy looking to get a few cheap thrills while cheating on his wife. A dime a dozen in my book.

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RE: do married guys have much luck here? - 3/16/2007 6:59:05 PM

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I'm sorry to say that you completely butchered the quotes and my words came out as yours, and someone else's came out as mine (careful about editing quotes please!). Fact is I'm still waiting for a show of hands that indicate that his photo was a turn-on. And especially from a Domme here! Like "oh yea baby, show me your love handles in briefs....it turns me on!...let me whip that ass!!" The silence... is almost deafening. My original point still stands.

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RE: do married guys have much luck here? - 3/16/2007 7:16:02 PM

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i felt crissyslave was just being honest with her opinion.... as we all were before this became another body size thread.

Seriously, the OP's photo is from an unattractive angle regardless of his size. Are we not allowed to say what body size we prefer without it being taken as an insult by those who are different?

And it is clear to me that the more voluptuous women here at CM get the majority of interest by the male segment, but i have yet to see a thread hijacked by us smaller women complaining about... but we certainly could and it would not make a difference, you girls still rule with the guys - so why so defensive?

In the end, its not about size but about how we present ourselves to others - put your best side forward! Hell, you will never see me post a picture with my tiny size A's straining to look like more than freckles but if you have a good looking set of girls - put them out there for all of us to admire. To each his own, just make it your best for the rest of us that have to see you when you post it!
just my opinion...

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RE: do married guys have much luck here? - 3/16/2007 7:32:02 PM

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i felt crissyslave was just being honest with her opinion.... as we all were before this became another body size thread.

Seriously, the OP's photo is from an unattractive angle regardless of his size. Are we not allowed to say what body size we prefer without it being taken as an insult by those who are different?

The thread was about married men. Not about his looks. Nobody asked her if she liked the picture. Further, she was purposely insulting in her remarks. If she were really trying to be helpful, she could have said tactfully that he might try a better picture. But again, who asked her if she liked it?

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RE: do married guys have much luck here? - 3/16/2007 7:43:38 PM

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You could put a mask on, or paint your face, I know one cat lady here who's had her face painted up as a cat and it looks fantastic. You don't have to put up pictures it's not rquired. It's nice but not required. Bondage pics are not allowed here due to the obsenity law thingie, but You could have a nice simple picture of your arms behind your back in cuffs. the list of possibilities goes on and on.

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ORIGINAL: azjojoba

I am getting a lot of flack over that picture. OK, so besides a direct face shot which I won't do for reasons of privacy, what kind of picture do you suggest?

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RE: do married guys have much luck here? - 3/16/2007 7:44:35 PM

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OK Chrissy slave Ill be more blunt and say get YOUR foot out of your mouth and your head out of your ass...
You knew exactly what and who I was talking about even if the quotes did get choped up and if you got it I know everyone els here did..

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RE: do married guys have much luck here? - 3/16/2007 7:47:13 PM

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My advice is for someone 5'11 and 225 is don't show your photo! Even as a sub/slave youe photo is a big turn-off, and with the choices that most Dommes have you need to show your best side, not your fat-handled ass side.
Also lose about 30-40 lbs, then think about showing that much skin. Other than following that advice, I strongly suggest considering a professional Domme.

My suggestion to YOU chrissyslave is to not resort to cheap and childish insults. You show yourself to be a small person in every way when you do that. It takes all types to make the world go round and even if you don't find him appealing, someone else will. So, stick to the topic and stop being so nasty.

But heck...being a bi-woman note that I would say something similar to you if it came to my personal preferences, other views and preceptions allowed their due consideration. Whatever works for you works!

BTW, I am trying to lose another 3-5 lbs so I can take my midriff baring photos in summer wear pretty soon, plus some tennis wear. But that's just me! BTW, I have personally sold over $1 million dollars in plus size woman's wear as a past clothing sales woman, and more as a manager, and I respect such sized woman, even though I am aware of the various concerns many of them have. More power to you!

Could you be more condescending? A bit more arrogant maybe? Some people might be getting the idea that you're not a snob.

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RE: do married guys have much luck here? - 3/16/2007 7:50:01 PM

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i felt crissyslave was just being honest with her opinion.... as we all were before this became another body size thread.

Seriously, the OP's photo is from an unattractive angle regardless of his size. Are we not allowed to say what body size we prefer without it being taken as an insult by those who are different?

The thread was about married men. Not about his looks. Nobody asked her if she liked the picture. Further, she was purposely insulting in her remarks. If she were really trying to be helpful, she could have said tactfully that he might try a better picture. But again, who asked her if she liked it?

Technically, his post was about being married and not having luck with finding a Domme, but it was pointed out by many, not just crissyslave that the photo might be just as much a problem~

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RE: do married guys have much luck here? - 3/16/2007 7:52:31 PM

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Yes, but the first few people who mentioned the pic had at least a semblance of tact. Her comment was utterly and completely devoid of that trait.

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RE: do married guys have much luck here? - 3/16/2007 7:55:32 PM

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not only was it lacking tact it was not just directed at the op and his photo it was directed at the masses whom she feels are not as good as her because they arent her picture perfect self.

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RE: do married guys have much luck here? - 3/16/2007 7:58:33 PM

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Yeah, that too. But I'm trying to stay out of that mess LOL

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RE: do married guys have much luck here? - 3/16/2007 8:03:26 PM

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I humbly apologize for engaging in a back and forth about one person's nasty comments that should have been ignored. I posted the reply I had to the thread and I won't say more. I'm certainly not here to argue or debate with anyone. My Master would not appreciate this behavior. In fact, He instructed me to not argue with people in general.

So again, I humbly apologize to the posters in this forum.

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RE: do married guys have much luck here? - 3/16/2007 8:04:06 PM

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