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tulipgoose -> RE: 18 and maturity (3/31/2007 8:04:31 PM)
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I first must say: I know there are many mature adults and young adults on this site and many mature people of all ages elsewhere. Something else I feel is of importance: One may be mature when it comes to a particular subject, and not when it comes to another. We all make fools of ourselves sometimes, and mistakes or lowered guards and concern do not determine our underline maturity or understanding of the world and how to face it each day.
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ORIGINAL: Dnomyar
I see a lot of young people comming on this site claiming to be mature beyond their years. This is a conception that IMHO is total BS. Someone explain to me how a 18 year old is mature and wise beyond their years. Have they been married and raised a family. Owned a home, had a job. What qualifies them as being mature?
Dnomyar: I see myself as mature at 20 in part by the fact that I AM NOT raising a family or married to someone unsuitable. I have had many opportunities to do so, but do not wish to bring children into a home I have yet to afford and create to be comfortable. Just because you have gained these things which previous generations claimed to be "life goals" does not mean you are mature. Maturity is simply that... Maturity. Maturity is being respectful and respectable. It is have the ability to make the right choice and knowledge that just because we are able to doesn't mean we always will or can in certain situations beyond our control.
Aside from that, one of my best friends was married at 17, via his parents happy and understanding consent, his wife had a baby when they were 18, and has been happily married 5 years, renting an apartment, with a job for himself and his wife. They have their whole lives ahead of them, with common goals.
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i like the 18-20 year Dommes with 5-8 yrs of experience !! that cracks me up, they
were beating other kids in grade school ??
And yes, 18 yr olds are not mature, I dont' care how many drugs they've done to grow up,
fact is, we were all that age and I remember we thought we knew everything too, only
later to discover that you do indeed continue to learn throughout life, not just the first 18 yrs.
In reply to BeatMeDaily:
I have never once denied the need to learn through my entire life. I do not claim to know everything. Knowing everything does not make one mature, but would in fact make them the opposite I am quite certain as one human being could not possible hold such a vast amount of information. If you thought you knew everything, that was just being stubborn, something entirely unrelated to immaturity, but a means of which you could show it off (ie: Through you firm rooted belief at said point of knowing everything you may have acted "childish" in your means of expression of such things)
Generic responses and comments beyond the first two posts:
My favourite saying is: "All the experiences in the world do not prepare one for what is to come."
We cannot always help our experiences. Of course, many we can avoid or reach for.
I have always had interest in "spanking" as well as other things and dabbled with friends when I was younger, thus gaining "experience" is that a bad thing? I don't think so..... 18 though a technical age of comprehension for a community is rarely an age for a person to open their eyes and say "Oh wow, things exist and I want to try them now that I am 18 years old!"
Another thing of importance here is that children these days are RARELY allowed to be children.... I didn't have a very tough life, compared to many around me, but still, I needed to be mature. Kids are being filled with information, ideas, options. What is the point of giving them all these things without new outlets of which to express their knowledge? When I was in earlier years of school I would come home to my mom and show her things I was learning and she had never seen much of it before. I have met children who are the age I was then within the last few years who know things I never learned. They need to take in all this new stuff, the stuff I knew, AND the stuff earlier generations knew...... It is overwhelming. Older people truly aren't as smart even with age and experience.
I have a scenario I have been using the last few years about what the internet can prove about age. It goes like this:
There is a 12 year old child who is in his bedroom browsing the internet on his computer. He enters a chat room and decides to start a conversation one-on-one with another user in the room. Conversation is as follows:
12yearold: Hello there. How are you today?
oTheRuZer: oK howZ R u?
12yearold: I am doing just fine, thank you. What brings you to the room?
oTheRuZer: i wuZ board u
12yearold: Oh, I am just looking for someone to chat with.
- it goes on and on a bit longer..... but guess who the other user is? The other user is this child's parent!
The thing is..... I have a solid foundation for this scenario's existence. I have been in chat rooms with people who have family members in a chat room with them. While this is a great concept, and many parents should keep a close eye on their children in such a way, most times I have seen it where a parent ends up being the room problem, the one who swears uncontrollably, acts extremely immature and sets a terrible example for their child.
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