MidnightMaiden
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I am in my late 30's. For the past 2 years (before Master) I have had relationships exclusively with men aged 21-24 years of age. With no disrespect to you, I will give you the observations of the men I have dated and loved during that time. Whilst you may not feel this describes you, there have been commonalities between all of these relationships, that with hindsight I feel are age related.
The single biggest thing they lacked is perspective. Most were fresh out of college/tertiary education and hadn't had much time in the workforce. They don't know what hard work is. They don't know what it means to support someone, be responsible for someone, and they have a hard time being responsible for themselves. When something goes wrong they are petulant. They don't understand what suffering is, or pain. They don't have patience. They lack humility and grace.
This is a description of the men I have dated, I mean no generalization or offense. It comes from very personal observation.
Can you find someone to grow with. Of course, but its most likely with somebody who isn't miles ahead of you on the life experience scale. Heh I remember once talking to the youngest man I dated, the 21yr old, and he said I was the greatest teacher he had ever known. I chuckled and explained that often it took a great deal of patience to be with him, because the things that he was going through, I had already gone through, and I have paid my dues.
I want to grow too... so I need someone that isn't going to be playing catchup, that can start walking the journey with me at around the same level and pace as me... otherwise I will always be taking two steps back for every step forward to make sure they don't fall so far behind. And whilst there is great joy in being there with someone and watching them learn and grow... I have three children that fill that role :)
Why do you want a slave at such a young age? Why on earth would you want that huge burden of responsibility for? You can get your sexual fix with a sub, you should be looking at a slave as a LIFETIME COMMITMENT. Go around the world and meet submissives. Learn to say "kneel bitch" in several different languages.
If it is true that the difference between a sub and a slave is mostly one of the level of commitment, then perhaps whilst playing with subs you will find the one that you can grow with and who will become your slave. In the vanilla world, if you were to put an ad in the personals, would you immediately ask for a wife? No you would be looking for a woman for friendship and more, with view to a long term relationship. Why is it different in this lifestyle?
< Message edited by MidnightMaiden -- 11/12/2007 3:37:17 AM >
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RE: Can someone help me... - 
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) that is generally interested in the same kinks as you, and also a beginner it can be a beautiful and rewarding friendhsip even if it does not last. Even if you eventually grow apart. Sooner or later the probabillity is that you both develop a taste for different paths and part ways. Such are all beginnings. 
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