AAkasha
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ORIGINAL: petdave quote:
ORIGINAL: MzMia The idea that a man could not work and attend to domestic chores is ludicrous at best. The debate is not whether he CAN work and do domestic chores, the issue is whether or not he wants to! i certainly wouldn't debate that it's impossible for a man to do both, just that if you (general you ) want somebody to work full-time, do *everything* around the house, AND be a partner/friend/lover (and of course i understand that not everyone expects one person to fill both roles), something is going to give. i am in agreement with thetammyjo that there's an ingrained double-standard- a female submissive can be "just" a housewife (particularly if she's also a mother), but the general expectation is that a male submissive MUST contribute financially to a household regardless of how much he does around the house. As a person who does have a lot of "service sub" drive, i find it frustrating that with our current situation, there's always a stack of things that are un-done, or not done to satisfaction, because my job leaves me exhausted, with little free time during the week, and often depressed and/or angry. If i could devote the working hours to getting the household projects done, and the evenings to my wife, i think both of us would be much happier. But, modern "life" being what it is, that's the way things will be at least until our mortgage is paid off. I have to echo what petdave is saying. Sure, my husband could probably work and do all of his chores. He volunteers pretty regularly depending on his free time, and he has a nice chunk of time for reading, physical exercise, personal development. But during the time period that he did hold down a job and try to handle the chores, with me handling some of my own, and then paying a maid, we were both a lot less happy. There's something very valuable about having a man who is well rested, physically, emotionally and mentally *available* when I get home from work, and things are in order with leftover time to spare. That means we can have a leisurely dinner that he did not rush to prepare, and we can generally be assured our weekends are absolutely free if I am not working -- this is so important. Sure, he could get done chores on the weekends, and do the piled up maintenance, errands, etc -- but having that all handled during the week is far less stressful. I am also able to manage my workaholic lifestyle with the assurance that my home time will be free of stress or watching him do chores while I relax. The stuff is pretty much handled. Oh, and best of all - it means when I travel on business, he can go with me. That alone is worth having him not have a job. He could never do that if he had a full time job. Akasha
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