BeachMystress
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From: Naples Island- Long Beach CA - Southern California
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I would keep the housekeeper that I have coming in once a week so he or she would have more time to spend with me not doing chores because that is important to me.
This is the exact reason I'm seeking a domestic sub. My "wife" works a full time job. He comes home and has to cook dinner, do housework, dishes, laundry and such. It leaves him only a small amount of free time. We are fairly newly wed (2 years in June) and I want to spend time cuddling, playing and enjoying my lil one. At times, I let some of the housework slide because I desire play time or "us" time. Because I don't NEED a domestic, I'm being very selective in my search and it is taking a while to find someone who fits my exact criteria. In the mean time, I must admit I have considered hiring a service.
Beach you seem to have found a submissive "gem" there.
Since you both work full-time, why not get a weekly/bi-weekly or monthly cleaning service?
More time to play and allow him to serve you!
I have no problem with a cleaning service, especially if you both are working full time!
I rather have a cleaning service come in, and it will give him more time to cook and pamper
and play with me!
I've considered getting a service, but since I don't work, it would mean strangers underfoot. And while most cleaning services are reputable, even the good ones occasionally end up with an employee who will "liberate" an item (aka steal.) Top that off with having three cats; one who is fairly normal, one who is intimidated by strangers (rotating crews would make him tres neurotic (- well, more neurotic than he already is anyway) and the third, who is a recent feral rescue that attacks when he perceives any type of threat. Having one sub who came on a regular basis would be easier on them.
And yes, I did find a gem. *smiles* I found him after giving up on subs totally. I had a vision of what a sub would be, yet what I was meeting were bedroom subs. After years of not finding a submissive who even came close to wanting a true 24/7 power exchange relationship, I thought I had unrealistic expectations. While I found many who claimed to want it, none were actually able to give up their ego enough to actually live it. I am not "programmed" to live as other than the head of my household. After a lifetime of having boyfriends who were submissive (I've chosen "submissive" boyfriends since I first started being interested in boys) I tried a "normal" man who was more assertive for my last long term relationship before my husband. And while it lasted 8 years it was constantly adversarial, with both of us battling for the head of household role. I knew I could never live that way again. I decided to go back to dating submissive "vanilla" men rather than deal with the kinky men who claimed to be submissive, yet wanted life outside the bedroom to be "normal." I joined Club FEm because I wished to have contact with others in the lifestyle without dealing with males. Yes, there are subs in Club FEm, but I ignored them.
Then the Club FEm so cal dungeon, man's Ruin, opened. At the opening night the Club FEm subs were supposed to behave a certain way.. but of course, they were more focused on enjoying the party than the service they were supposed to provide. Except one. He was good looking and caught my eye. (Hey, I was ignoring them, not dead...) And to my surprise, he was actually serving! He didn't force himself into conversation but instead made himself available if someone wanted to talk with him. If he saw a woman holding an empty plate, he asked to dispose of it and if he could get anything else. He got drinks, was attentive and unobtrusive. When we got to the Female Domination portion of the party (where the subs got naked except for a thong, cuffs and collar and the unowned were available for use to anyone the head mistress knew enough to trust) I realized he also had a great ass and body. Then when I asked the headmistress which of the single subs was available for use, (It had been a while since I played and a one off was sounding juuuust fine to me) he shouldered several men out of the way to present himself. I liked his attitude, attentive and servile towards women yet willing to compete with other men. I selected him for play. It was magic for both of us. (My blog of it His blog of it) After knowing him for a while, I realized I didn't need a submissive male or a vanilla pleaser one. I needed a submissive pleaser. They do exist, but are few and far between. I wish you the best of luck on finding yours!
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