MasterFireMaam
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Joined: 3/1/2006 From: Charleston, WV Status: offline
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ORIGINAL: michaels4evr the rare posting got me thinking... As a switch, i'm always both Dominant and submissive although I don't always act on each role simultaneously..therefore, its puzzling to me when groups ask that switches come to functions in "Domme mode" or "sub mode" only. What does that mean really? If I happen to accept a spanking from someone that evening, then I cannot spank someone that night? Or if someone who is usually submissive towards me addresses me as Ma'am, I should correct them and say tonight I am slave michael's?? Well tonight I am simply....me. Anyone else sick of the discrimination? -michael's I am a founding member of a group who ask the men in attendence to only be in submissive role if they are a switch when they attend our functions. Many here on CM also know that I feel that top and bottom role are seperate things from relationship roles. However, IN THIS GROUP, we defined it to be Top=Dom=Master/Mistress, bottom=sub=slave. We did these things for several reasons, but the two main ones were/are: 1) We are a Fem Dom support group, thus the men are welcome in submissive role. Women are welcome in any role. Male Dominants, while highly appreciated and valued, are not allowed. 2) There are many, many places that a het or bi man can go to be Dominant and/or sadistic. In our group, we are fostering a place where the opposite is comfortable. We have found this to be a very important point to submissive and masochistic het/bi men who are new to the lifestyle. There's value in having restricted space when there are also many opportunities for unrestricted space. Some people, in particular the men we run across, are not comfortable in unrestricted space. Yes, it's a failing of their own self esteem to no be comfortable around Male Dominants...but, one step at a time. They first need a place in which to become comfortable with who they are! I actually stepped down as an officer last year after several years of being one of two people who ran the group. I don't totally feel I belong much anymore having taken a turn in my life towards being a Master (which, for me, is different than my path of being a Mistress) and I actually prefer pan space. But, when I do go, I respect the rules that the group has set up. If I don't like a group's rules I simply don't go. If there's not a group in my area that has rules I can abide by, I know I can form one. Master Fire
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The power of who we are can be intoxicating. The power of who we could be is humbling. ----- Ms Relationship Books ----- BDSM How-To Books
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