daddysprop247
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Joined: 6/24/2005 From: DC Metro area Status: offline
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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania My Daddy uses me for his own pleasure, does not pressure me into a response that might be hard to obtain (in other words if I know it will take a long while to orgasm I will tell him this information and he can do about that what he wants). I do not see him as being selfish or uncaring that he takes his pleasure and release without my release. I get pleasure from this, very deep satisfying pleasure from this. I do not think that it is an ego thing for all men, I think it is an exchange of energy when orgasms happen. I have a very tantric bent on orgasms, they can be a spiritual experience, and I would never deny my partner that experience if he desired it and I could provide it. I do not mean to degrade people who are nonorgasmic by suggesting that without orgasms energy is not exchanged, because it is. It is a different feeling though. I know I have yielded my orgasmic response in ways with Daddy that I have never done with other men. I feel like my orgasms are a form of my submission to his pleasuring me. He truly enjoys taking his time to do this, and it would seem unsubmissive of me to deny him when I am capable of it. If neither of you enjoy your orgasms, that is fine, but I am wondering why you care what other dominants desire this from their submissive.... especially since orgasms are an intense bonding experience (at least for me they are) well honestly i have never understood the idea of orgasms, or anything sexual for that matter, being a bonding experience. for me sex is using or being used, serving or being served. well with the exception of what i call "vanilla" sex, which i view as sex with the desire/goal being mutual pleasure and excitement (as opposed to mutual fulfillment...something different). it's a curious thing to me that sooo many Dominants seem to be so focused on a submissive's orgasms and sexual arousal in general because as Dominants i would think that 1, their top (not necessarily only) priority would be their own pleasure, and 2, they would understand that a submissive's main (again, not necessarily only) priority and focus would be on pleasing them. i understand what owned was saying, in that just because a particular Dominant wishes for his submissive to experience sexual arousal does not mean that is making sex "all about the submissive." as i told Aquatic, i can't imagine any Dominant going there. however the intense focus on the subject, especially from so many Dominants, is what i have a difficult time understanding.
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