Aswad
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ORIGINAL: Wildfleurs 1. You are focusing on orgasm, I keep on trying to point out that she mentioned sexual arousal and thats what I've been talking about in my posts (and to be more clear I was focusing on why my owner actually wants to have sex with someone thats sexually aroused, not with someone who is not). She made a stronger point about the O's. And, as she pointed out, she engages in sex actively. But, yeah, I see your point. Personally, I have no need for sexual arousal in my partner, but I'd not be happy about it if they weren't emotionally fulfulled. For some, though, that doesn't necessitate arousal. quote:
2. You focus on pupil dialation as an indicator of, "mentally aroused and/or feeling intimate and/or liking you" except again I'm talking strict automatic physical sexual responses to someone. Autonomous physical responses may be something that interests your Master. For me, I'm more interested in what's going on in their heads, and whether they're happy about things. Pupil dilation is a better indication of whether it's a positive experience than arousal is, IMO, although by no means the only indication, and not really the best one either; I initially mentioned it to someone, maybe you, who said the physical signs needed to be present for it to be anything more than "going through the motions", which I disagree with. A sub can put a lot of passion into something that doesn't get him/her off. quote:
3. I'm not even touching the issue of rape, because I think its a red herring that takes away from the value of the actual topic It's a valid point. If the autonomic responses indicate arousal, as you said, then the person on the receiving end of one is aroused. If it indicates desire, as I feel you implied, then the person on the receiving end desires it. I would like to know which of these is the case, if any, and what you base it on. The citations are relevant to thread in general, though. quote:
4. You already agree with me that there are automatic reactions that happen to indicate arousal (it can't be autonomous if its all happening inside the same persons body). Autonomous, in a biological sense, refers to mechanisms in the organism that are self-regulated (closely related to the concept 'automatic', but not quite identical) and generally beyond direct conscious control, with some notable exceptions like breathing. quote:
However, you say that the automatic reactions I'm pointing out to indicate sexual arousal, "is designed to welcome semen for fertilization, not to indicate that an emotional connection to the mate exists." Again I think you misunderstood my post because I never said that those automatic responses indicated an emotional connection to the mate. Why then would it be, in any way, negative for a sub to engage in sexual contact without sexual arousal, or a Dom to use a sub for sexual purposes? That was kind of the point, earlier, that it's a perfectly valid, and positive, way to go, as well as the idea that a Dom requiring physical responsiveness from their sub in order to get off is more about the Dom than simply using the sub for the Dom's pleasure is. quote:
And while the automatic reactions may be designed for one thing, given the different gender couplings possible these days, thats hardly its actual use. No, but it does give a few pointers as to what the causual relationships might be. For instance, the same things that underlie her wish not to want children (IIRC) could quite plausibly be the reason she does not get aroused (if she doesn't). Sorry if I've misunderstood your posts. Your answers to this one should clear things up.
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"If God saw what any of us did that night, he didn't seem to mind. From then on I knew: God doesn't make the world this way. We do." -- Rorschack, Watchmen.
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