RE: Am I a switch?

Join Our Community

Collarchat.com

Home Login Search

RE: Am I a switch?

View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest

All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Ask a Switch >> RE: Am I a switch?

Page: << < prev 1 [2] 3 next > >>

Login

Message

<< Older Topic Newer Topic >>

RE: Am I a switch? - 10/11/2007 8:25:27 AM

InnocentYoungSub

Posts: 210
Joined: 8/7/2007
Status: offline

I think I agree with hawkwolf that almost everybody is a switch at some level. Personally I call myself a sub because that is my nature in most instances, but sometimes I do feel the desire to play the alpha male(dominant) role with women.

_____________________________

I live for.. I die for.. I breathe for..

(in reply to ddthrill)

RE: Am I a switch? - 10/11/2007 1:17:19 PM

Posts: 8
Joined: 10/4/2007
Status: offline

Pretty much, that's how I operate - The chemistry with some people is such that I top them - with others, I generally bottom - and with a very few switches I know, it can go either way.

Oh, yeah...aren't we all freaks of nature? After all the chromosomes randomly mixed...Besides...normal is overrated. All it means is average and I don't choose to be average.

OK...How do I get rid of the ice cream cone? (newbie to the site)

< Message edited by Bryghteyez -- 10/11/2007 1:19:09 PM >

(in reply to JennyWench)

RE: Am I a switch? - 10/12/2007 1:49:25 PM

Posts: 11
Joined: 9/14/2004
Status: offline

I am 99.9999% sub. I have an interest in experimenting with being Domme
Am I a switch?
Is there something wrong with this question or is it just me?

(in reply to JennyWench)

RE: Am I a switch? - 10/13/2007 6:54:40 PM

teal

Posts: 8
Joined: 9/29/2007
Status: offline

Yeah, it's just you....how is any question wrong? Even yours....just asking........shrugs

Anyway, i found this thread interesting because of my own recent experiences. When i found my way to this lifestyle, i identified 100% as a sub, couldn't comprehend switching. But then, the men i was drawn to were very Dominant types themselves, so no, it wouldn't have come up anyway.

Until recently, when at a party, i met a delightful, sweet sub boy, the chemistry was instant, and we are exploring this relationship. I am definitely the more dominant, and truly enjoying his submissive nature toward me. Still i cherish my role in my relationship with my Mentor Dom.

They're both me, so what am i? just me.......and i can live with that label!

teal/his Lady me

(in reply to lordhedon)

RE: Am I a switch? - 10/17/2007 5:23:45 AM

Posts: 5
Joined: 10/16/2007
Status: offline

I haven't had much experience with either I'm afraid. I know I'm a masochist and feel like I'm mostly sub. I'm not sure if I could be a sadist even to the right person. I am definitely having desires to dominate also but I'm not sure in what sense. For now it's all about exploring what my boundaries and desires are.

I don't think you're crazy. Welcome to the freak of nature club.

(in reply to teal)

RE: Am I a switch? - 10/17/2007 6:28:49 AM

Posts: 2311
Joined: 10/25/2004
From: South Central CO
Status: offline

Hi. I have two profiles here... 'bearlee' and 'MsBearlee'... I consider myself a submissive who likes to Top.

Just yesterday I received a one-line e-mail that said "You really do need to make up your mind whether you're Dom or sub." followed a few minutes later with "Perhaps you need to give up your dominant profile or call yourself a switch." (Not to worry, we're becoming fast friends...he's much more reasonable than he started off... LOL )

It is my contention that I am not really a switch...in that I don't. Well, not with individual people. I am mostly (and strongly) submissive... but I do sooooo love the physicality of Topping. It turns out I have a sadistic streak a mile wide...but I'm a pleaser, too.

I have had the exciting honor of playing with some very experienced, and thoroughly Sadistic (in a consensual kind of way), Dominants and so I have intimate knowledge of what it feels like to be on the receiving end of floggers and whips and canes and things. For that reason, I like to beat people! LOL

Having said all that...I am seriously into The Power Exchange. I like the idea of giving up control and authority of me, with regard to most things, to another. But once that has happened, I don't know that I could ever swap. Ya know? Perhaps it's because I don't play at the relationship side of D/s? I am either submissive OR Toppy; I can submit to someone, or I can Top them...but I cannot do both with the same person. And...I contend I'm no Domme (much to the dismay of some less masochistic-type boys).

So...it's for those reasons that, while I'm generally considered a switch; I just don't think I am. Perhaps it's semantics, I dunno. I also know better than to never say never. Heck, it seems to me the ones who CAN switch with the same partner might be having more fun!!!

I like the fact that we are so open to this sort of stuff...that some people can switch at the raise of an eyebrow, and others with the switch of a partner....and neither are 'wrong'!!!
beverly

_____________________________

Click here for GREAT discussion on living this real-time.

How to use Code on Collarme

(in reply to Ivy1309)

RE: Am I a switch? - 10/17/2007 11:23:35 AM

Posts: 311
Joined: 4/25/2006
Status: offline

I think it depends on your own personal definition of a Switch also. I think some mistake Switch for Top. I only Switch once every 5 years or so it doesn't change how I view Myself though. I have 2 weeks till I get to do it again and it is very exciting to Me.

Just My opinion.
LordVelvet

(in reply to Bearlee)

RE: Am I a switch? - 10/17/2007 6:40:07 PM

Posts: 26
Joined: 10/9/2007
Status: offline

I thought that I was the only one who felt that way.

I agree, if someone dominates me, I would not be able to switch and dominate them. I was actually told by my first dom to go ahead and do what he did. I couldn't stop laughing because it didn't feel right.

If someone submits to me, I cannot have them dominate me.

I am just so happy that these feelings are common.

(in reply to BayouSub)

RE: Am I a switch? - 10/18/2007 9:19:14 AM

Posts: 23
Joined: 5/28/2007
Status: offline

Looks like i might be one of the freaks... I'm pretty easy going one way or the other... Though i'm primarily submissive, i've ended up changing roles multiple times with one person, and, on occasion, multiple times while playing.

I must admit, though, that the relationship was, if anything, primarily the 'b' part of the bdsm... not sure what that counts for, if anything, though.

I'm also a believer that for one to be a top/bottom/sub/dom/walrus/elephant, it's important to have experience the flip side of the coin at least once. Something along the lines of 'to truly learn something, one must teach it'. Don't ask me where i got that quote from, though, i've got no idea. Could've been karate kid, for all i know. But that's probably getting a little off topic.

(in reply to onesweetsubbie)

RE: Am I a switch? - 10/20/2007 4:20:11 PM

Posts: 3613
Joined: 4/15/2005
Status: offline

Jenny,

no, it just means your curious about the power exchange, which happens to many.

CP

(in reply to JennyWench)

RE: Am I a switch? - 10/25/2007 8:45:27 PM

Posts: 28
Joined: 10/6/2007
Status: offline

I have found this to be a very enlightening discussion thank you to who started it,
I'm still a newbie but I'm learning oh so much with every bit of information that I gather from these message boards.
Thanks to all for sharing.

MissAnn

________________________________________________

The Journey begins with the first step onto the path of enlightenment.

(in reply to CelticPrince)

RE: Am I a switch? - 10/28/2007 5:20:48 PM

Posts: 147
Joined: 1/6/2007
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: JennyWench

I am 99.9999% sub. I have an interest in experimenting with being Domme but not with anyone who is usually a Dom with me. I'm only interested in Domming to a sub that is always a sub with me and never Dom. I want to keep consistancy within the individual relationships as to who's on Top. Does that make sense? Is that normal or am i a freak of nature? (Don't answer that. I already know.)

I feel the same as you do. I prefer to Top someone who would ALWAYS sub to me. I wouldn't want to top someone and flip the script one night and have them top me. No no no..LOL!!! So no I dont think your a freak of nature. Quite normal I think

_____________________________

~ Good communication is as stimulating as black coffee, and just as hard to sleep after.

(in reply to JennyWench)

RE: Am I a switch? - 11/4/2007 11:03:25 PM

Posts: 142
Joined: 10/22/2007
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: MiGTeK

Looks like i might be one of the freaks... I'm pretty easy going one way or the other... Though i'm primarily submissive, i've ended up changing roles multiple times with one person, and, on occasion, multiple times while playing.

My previous partner was all about "turning the tables", pretending to get off on the power struggle rather than the power exchange. Further exploration determined that he really wanted to be dominated but he didn't want to give in easily, hence his attempts to switch our roles. He wanted to be so "seduced" that he had no choice but to give himself over. For gods sake just let me tie you up and smack you if thats what gets you off! Why do people fight who they are?

One of the things I truly love about being a slave... not having to be on top every damn time

In response to the OP, I am firmly a slave... but if I could go back and bitch slap my ex, tie him up and call him susan, I'd so get off on that.

< Message edited by MidnightMaiden -- 11/4/2007 11:07:42 PM >

(in reply to MiGTeK)

RE: Am I a switch? - 11/5/2007 8:20:27 AM

Posts: 80
Joined: 1/16/2006
From: Pittsburgh/Chicago
Status: offline

I wouldn't list myself a switch on a site. But like a lot of people some males turn on that other side with me. I am a Dom by nature. I know two partners/friends that I like to switch with.
But with them we do not have a power exchange. Its more of a power stuggle then anything else. I love to Top from the bottom. Something about fighting my way back into control just does it for me. *Shrugs*

(in reply to MidnightMaiden)

RE: Am I a switch? - 11/5/2007 11:19:06 AM

Posts: 1
Joined: 8/22/2007
Status: offline

It's all at what cum's natural to you, That happens when you try to be something your not. your heart will tell you what you are

(in reply to angelicslaveMDF)

RE: Am I a switch? - 11/11/2007 4:34:21 PM

Posts: 82
Joined: 11/19/2006
Status: offline

So many fellow freaks of nature! I am submissive to one, and only one. He "gave" himself to me once for 24 hours and I just couldn't do it. lol
But give me a good sub and watch out. Our girl actually took well over a year to truly give herself to me because, in her words, my intensity as a dominant "scared her". Even my submission to him, in whatever form it takes (usually very mild, but sometimes rather extreme), doesn't lessen my dominance over her, in her eyes.
So... that being said.... welcome to the club!

~BotanicalMiss~

(in reply to JennyWench)

RE: Am I a switch? - 11/19/2007 1:10:03 PM

Posts: 350
Joined: 11/14/2007
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: lordhedon

I am 99.9999% sub. I have an interest in experimenting with being Domme
Am I a switch?
Is there something wrong with this question or is it just me?

It's you.

_____________________________

Proud Owner of Zubi
(my boy "ToyZ")
Claimed & Collared 9magick#2008

"An it harm none, unless they deserve it, do what ye will." --Scorpio Creed

A- Rh-

(in reply to lordhedon)

RE: Am I a switch? - 11/19/2007 11:52:29 PM

Posts: 182
Joined: 11/14/2007
Status: offline

Just wanted to drop a quick line to say that what I found here was very informative and common. I'm glad I found some confirmation of the answers I've already discovered.

meesha

Forget the freak. You're just nature.

(in reply to JennyWench)

RE: Am I a switch? - 11/19/2007 11:54:26 PM

Posts: 182
Joined: 11/14/2007
Status: offline

Hi there. Loved what you had to say. Thanks for sharing it.

(in reply to MidnightMaiden)

RE: Am I a switch? - 11/19/2007 11:56:53 PM

Posts: 182
Joined: 11/14/2007
Status: offline

I accidentally posted something. Don't know how to kill it. Just wanted to add that I'm learning more and more with each post that comes up. And once more for good measure!!!! Say it with me folks!!!

FORGET THE FREAK

YOU'RE JUST NATURE!

(in reply to InnocentYoungSub)

Page: << < prev 1 [2] 3 next > >>

All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Ask a Switch >> RE: Am I a switch?

Page: << < prev 1 [2] 3 next > >>

Jump to:

New Messages	No New Messages
Hot Topic w/ New Messages	Hot Topic w/o New Messages
Locked w/ New Messages	Locked w/o New Messages

Post New Thread

Reply to Message

Post New Poll

Submit Vote

Delete My Own Post

Delete My Own Thread

Rate Posts

Collarchat.com © 2024

Terms of Service

0.160