ready4srvce4all
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Just from a novice's perspective. How each couple perceives their relationship is their own dynamic. But to call my submission a gift seems odd to me. I view it in this manner: Each person has a need. A Dominant needs a submissive, a submissive needs a Dominant. One switch has to be in the up position, the other in the down position. And so on it goes, one needs and fulfills the other. We provide something for each other. A service if you will. With that thought, instead of saying something like, "Gift of submission" use that same terminology in everyday circumstances, where one person is thanking the other for a various "gift", despite the fact it is nothing more than an expected service. "Thank you for the gift of vaccinating my dog." "Thank you for the gift of serving my food." "Thank you for the gift of sanitizing my bowling shoes." Now to equate a relationship with the above may be apples and oranges. My thoughts are, they are apples and apples. I have a need that Mistress fulfills. Mistress has a need that I fulfill. Some may want to call that a gift, and that's fine for them. But when I offer Mistress a gift, I think of Godiva chocolates. I don't think of my submission as a gift. It's who I am. I often wonder if the thinking that submission is a "gift" has to do with that submissives are often on the receiving end of play. For instance, I enjoy the fire play Mistress and I engaged in. Does that mean because I am the one being set on fire, I am providing a gift? To reuse the analogy, does that mean I walk up to the local bowling alley attendant, offer my "gift" of submission, and let that person set me on fire? That would be folly, because Mistress knows what She is doing, and I have explicit trust in Her knowledge and skill in that area. Isn't She then providing the gift, by virtue that a form of risky play I enjoy is being done by an expert practitioner in the craft? Dominance and submission also isn't just about play, IMHO. When I mow the lawn, do the laundry, clean the house, or any other task that pleases Her, are they gifts? If so, does that mean I can choose when I want to give that gift again? My need is to be owned, and to serve. If that need is a gift, couldn't I have just knocked on any neighbor's door, and simply said, "I am your gift. Use me as you see fit." That sounds like the kind of trolling email we read about so often. I simply can't equate my being to something that conjures up images of a box with a bow and a ribbon on it. I am a person. I want love, care, respect. I am a slave, I want to serve, honor, and obey. I'm not next years yard sale item. I'm much more than that. I am half of a whole, just as special, but not more so. (edited for spelling...this was not intended as a direct reply to any particular poster, other than to throw my two cents in for the thread)
< Message edited by ready4srvce4all -- 6/6/2007 11:26:17 PM >
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