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ApexD -> RE: Female slaves Headshaved (8/25/2009 6:12:55 AM)
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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven
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ORIGINAL: DomCoupleBeijing
I'm sorry for all the off-topic responses to your post. Gasp -- maybe you're not "experienced" enough for this website. (If my reply were to resemble the others, this is where I'd add some completely irrelevant remark that's more about me and my particularities then about your question.)
I think you misunderstood me. I did not want to imply that he was too inexperienced for the site itself, but to own a slave.
Owning a slave is in some ways analogous to raising a child. You have complete 100% control of another human being and are responsible for his or her wellbeing.
Picture a childless couple about to adopt. I would expect them to ask lots of questions from their friends who already have children. I would also expect them to spend lots of time with families with children and perhaps even babysit their kids. There may be seminars on parenting given by the adoption agency. Of course, there are numerous books an childraising as well. The more they study, the more they learn, and also the more I would consider them to have a desire to do the job right.
Similarly, someone who wants a 24/7 slavegirl should spend their time learning what the hell they're doing. This would involve attending local functions, meeting others who live as Master/Mistress and slave, asking questions, trying things out with subs, reading up, and learning.
Red flags:
1. OP's first post talks about steps he wants to take with his new slave, and he hasn't even met her. He seems to not understand that a relationship consists of people, and that the rules depend on what works for them.
2. He talks about breaking a slave down and rebuilding them. Without having any experience.
3. His profile shows a pic of a fetish model instead of a pic of him.
4. His profile does not describe himself or the woman he wants.
5. His profile does not describe the activities he expects from his slave. Does he want a service slave? A sex slave? Body worship?
6. He states that the slave will be unclothed at all times at home. He is unacquainted with the menstrual cycle or else simply hasn't thought things through.
Basically, he has a fantasy and no clue about the responsibility he would bear as an Owner.
Let's be real here. Most people DO NOT do all these things you mention before they have a child. They all sound like great ideas...but rarely are they done. Even if you say 50 million people did it, I can point to a billion who did not. Thsi being the case i cannot agree that everyone needs to go seek the advice and opinion of all these other people before they choose to enter a 24/7 D/s relationship. The sub/slave is an adult as well, not a newborn infant. For some specific activities advice and practice/supervision are essential, but none of that is necessary for the basics of a D/s relationship. Just like every other relationship they will all be unique and need the efforts of both people to work. BDSM is NOT the umbrella that Dominance and Submission fall under. BDSM is a kink. D/s in the way I refer to it is like being born with red hair or green eyes. No one needs to go to a munch and meet a bunch of people who have BDSM kinks to learn about TPE.
The OP is guilty of having a less than great profile...just like half the profiles on the site.
A lot of people have been quick to hop on the bandwagon criticizing everything about this persons post and profile who would also pitch a fit if they were criticized for their own preferences. It is one thing to say "Yes I would" or "No I wouldn't" and even say why but it is quite another to say you wouldn't and then judge him because he would.
I would not personally shave my girl bald above the neck, but I won't presume to know the OP's level of experience simply because he has a preference that isn't practical for most people.
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