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ORIGINAL: LadyNTrainer

Do you have ANY idea how offensive it is to categorize a transgendered woman as "pseudo" or fake?  That's just disgusting and shameful, and shows a total lack of understanding of what it actually means to be transgendered (eg, actually having the brain of one sex in the body of another sex, where something went developmentally wrong in the early stages of fetal growth).   Do you also hate handicapped women?

For the record, I have two X chromosones and I would NEVER consider an ignorant bigot for any kind of personal relationship.  So you're doing your own filtering here and reducing your chances of being considered.  I am not the only female dominant who is likely to be quite offended at your attempt to call people with a medical condition "fake".  

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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

So the sex education classes you took didn't explain to you that a TV is a transvestite.  Those who dress in clothes of the opposite gender.  Aside from that, no changes have taken place.

TGs are transgender.  Those who have transitioned to another gender through surgery, hormones, or a combination.  "Pre-op" means they still have their original genitals, and post-op means they don't.

As far as the rest goes - I was taught early in my career never to throw out unsupported bullshit or make up numbers.  You say that there are 25 malesubs for every female Dominant, and that you have been forced to see over a hundred male profiles who misidentified as female.  You also claim that males have a desperate need to be selected while females coolly pick their choice from the ravening hordes baying at their feet.  Obviously, you never got trained to substantiate things the way I had.

Also, you complain about the deceitful TVs/TGs who manipulate poor helpless men in some unspecified way.  Please note that anyone over the age of 18 is legally allowed to make their own choices.  If there is something in the collarme software that is coercing impressionable naive sub men into decisions against their will, I'd love to hear about it.

Okay.  All snark aside:  The search ain't easy.  For men, for women, for Dom/mes, or for subs.  Get used to it.  Use that as a life lesson that things worth attaining generally are not just handed out.

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ORIGINAL: YourToDeny

I don't get into the specifications of the categories - but is there not an option when someone fills out their profile to classify themselves accurately? I'm not phobic but I do expect to find whatever it is you want to call it when the woman has the XX chromes in a search for dominant females.

As far as the dominant female submissive male ratio it is undisputed, entirely, that the dominant women have handfulls of choices. 25 males for every 1 dominant female is probably an underestimation.

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2a. Women unlike men have much less a need to advertise their single-ness

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2b. What this means is that if we have non-women posting themselves as women, we get a disproportionate amount of men in the search - I have hidden at least a hundred men from the search (every time I see a wrongly classified page I hide it) and they are still overwhelming the submissive male's search for a dominant female. This hampers the effectiveness of the website.

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2c.  It is not fair to the submissive males to drown her out. The difference between a pseudo-female and a female is that pseudos still have that male desperation to be selected (something women don't have to worry about) so if you put your profile in your category you are putting a practical barrier between two groups of people who work hard to find each other to live the life they feel they need.

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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

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ORIGINAL: YourToDeny

I don't get into the specifications of the categories - but is there not an option when someone fills out their profile to classify themselves accurately? I'm not phobic but I do expect to find whatever it is you want to call it when the woman has the XX chromes in a search for dominant females.

As far as the dominant female submissive male ratio it is undisputed, entirely, that the dominant women have handfulls of choices. 25 males for every 1 dominant female is probably an underestimation.

Collarme's categories are IIRC male, female, or trans.  I have always assumed that trans meant TG, although I could see a TV classifying themselves as such.  I consider CDs/TVs to simply have a specific crossdressing kink.  So I'm confused by your terms because you seem to be using a kink term to classify people's physical genders.  There are also intersexed, or hermaphrodites, those who have genitals of both genders.

I will agree with you on the surface that there are more men who self identify as sub than women who self identify as Domme.  But the 1:25 ratio strikes me as very high.  And despite that ratio, I know several Dommes who are single because they cannot find a good male match.

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ORIGINAL: MaamJay

*Sits back and waits for the entertainment to begin ....*

Maam Jay aka violet[A] (another one of those so-called hard to find really female Dominants!)

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ORIGINAL: YourToDeny

TV's, post-ops, no offense! But do you have any idea how hard it is to find a female dominant even when all of the matches are women?

Logic behind the complaint:

1. For every dominant woman there are about 25 submissive men

2a. Women unlike men have much less a need to advertise their single-ness

2b. What this means is that if we have non-women posting themselves as women, we get a disproportionate amount of men in the search - I have hidden at least a hundred men from the search (every time I see a wrongly classified page I hide it) and they are still overwhelming the submissive male's search for a dominant female. This hampers the effectiveness of the website.

2c. The reason TV's are drowning out the dominant females is that basic difference between a woman and a man - I am not telling you how to define yourself (and never will) and I say as respectfully as possible, TV's advertising as females are starting to outnumber the women on this site. The true dominant woman is a rare breed and she is rarely available. It is not fair to the submissive males to drown her out. The difference between a pseudo-female and a female is that pseudos still have that male desperation to be selected (something women don't have to worry about) so if you put your profile in that category you are putting a practical barrier between two groups of people who work hard to find each other to live the life they feel they need.

3. Moral grounds: it seems wrong for a TV to post as a dominant female and assume a position of power under false pretenses to try to manipulate submissive males who are looking for what they truly want.

4. There is a category for TV's and if submissive males are looking for them, they should know where to find them.
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Again I make this protest with the utmost respect for those involved in this practice, and I mean no offense, but in this lifestyle the right Woman and the right man have a hard enough time finding each other without all the biological females being drowned out unfairly and blocked by a group that should technically be in another category.

YTD