stellauk
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I'm with Lockit on this one...
I'm coming into a thread on the fifth page which looks like a dog's dinner.. I read the OP's profile, not all of the words went in there, I just couldn't listen to the audio journal entries, because they were all over the place.
Without going into details over who said what and why seems the OP has a knack for rubbing people up the wrong way..
i have to admire the OP, I'd have a nervous breakdown pretty quickly with that amount of drama in my life.
And over what? Three people having a shag? I mean, that's what it boils down to from the way I see it.
All this boils down to one problem - communication. It all starts with communication. You don't get anywhere here without.. communication.
Some people skip this step, but it's essential - first you need to be able to communicate effectively with yourself before you can with anybody else. If it's not clear to you in your mind and in your heart what it is you are seeking and with whom then you won't be able to communicate that to anyone else.
Please bear in mind you're dealing with strangers here. Nobody is going to go out of their way to understand you or try and find out what it is you really want. You have to somehow find a way of getting that across to these people, what you want, need and with whom.
You get back what you communicate out. Always. I dread to think what could be coming into your Inbox. The profile was bad enough. And I just could not get through any of the journal entires. I'm sorry. No structure, no coherence, no organization. You put a mess out there on your profile you're going to get a mess coming back at you through your Inbox.
In that situation starting a thread there probably wasn't your best option. Asking someone for advice, one person, maybe two or three, might be a step forward out of all of this.
I think the biggest lesson you will learn here is that you just cannot fish a couple of people off the Internet straight into a cuck relationship or arrangement. It doesn't work out like that.
It's a process. You get to know one person, meet them, and then develop a relationship with them.
When you're both okay and agreeing that this relationship is solid enough then you start the process all over again.
This applies to dommes as much as it applies to anyone else. Nobody gets a free ride here. Nobody.
Oh and another thing, you never really get who you want here. You end up with who you deserve. If you want to be with quality people you have to put in the time, the effort, and the communication. If you're not bothered to do all this then you have to put up with the drama, the mishaps, the incompatible subs, the no shows, the wackjobs and everything else you can find on this site.
That choice is always your's to make. It's your profile, you're the one receiving the messages, you're the one making the decisions and the choices.
If you're not happy with what is coming in through your Inbox or with the people you're meeting then you just need to make different choices and different decisions.
If you are doing the right things there's no need to study humanity, society or gender politics. There's no need to wonder about the sexual orientation of a whole gender of the human race.
You just need to examine the way you are communicating, and the decisions and choices you are making.
I hope this helps.
< Message edited by stellauk -- 4/11/2011 6:26:17 PM >
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