Timonat
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ORIGINAL: Rochsub2009 I agree. You'd think that he had committed a hate crime by expressing an interest in older women. For the record: The majority of us weren't against the interest in older women. We were against it being the only reason for approaching us. ie: the emails that we get that have one line "I like older women". It was the approach, not the objective. quote:
ORIGINAL: Rochsub2009 IMO, a few people put words in his mouth that he never said. For example, I never saw him say that he was going to approach an older woman by saying "Hi older woman. I like you exclusively because of your age, and I plan to use you to satisfy a cougar fetish". Yet, reading the thread, you would think that that was exactly what he said. Nope. It was simply pointed out that the majority of us don't like that approach. He was the one that wanted to find loopholes in why we feel that approach is offensive. quote:
ORIGINAL: Timonat The general opinion seems to be that "you" do not like being found interested for simply being older rather than for who you are. But the reality is, we are all looking for certain characteristics in our mates. Is not me saying I am interested in "you" because you are older similar as me saying I am interested in you because you are submissive? both are preconditions. I am not trying to find loopholes, it is just confusing. First of all, I would NEVER just write "Hi I like mature women". What kind of a brain dead troglodyte do you think I am? But, I need to be honest and say what I want. So where does that leave me? If I say I am approaching "you" because I am interested in mature women, I am the troglodyte described, and if I hide my true intentions, then I am a so called "player". I am damned either way. I think by being honest about what I want, I am showing "you" the respect to choose, knowing all the variables, rather than trying to manipulate my way into your affection, all the while hiding my true motives. And before someone says I am "forcing my fetish onto others", I would never write to anyone twice if they chose not to reply to me. Again, on a conciliatory note, I do fully understand you objections in the approach. I am an imperfect being but I do not mean any harm or offence. One more thing a discussion on this issue I think warrants is pointing out that this is a compliment, not an insult. Surely being desired (for whatever reason) is a good feeling? Is it not nicer to know that one is desired, than being found totally uninteresting ? I doubt that deep down there is not even a slight sense of being flattered? or would it be better if all men just had a cut off age after which any female being ceases to be of sexual interest? I think this discussion has gotten quite complicated as we are speaking on two tracks. I understand your objections to being liked for your age ALONE, not your personality and qualities, but at the same time do not mind the age difference as long as that is not the one factor motivating me (or others). But there must be a middle ground?
< Message edited by Timonat -- 8/16/2012 9:00:37 AM >
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