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ORIGINAL: Timonat

I am beginning to find submissives my age somewhat tedious and am now leaning towards the older more experienced submissive. I do not have any experience with older women and would like to talk to some and discuss the idea. I find it psychologically fascinating, and the mind is the most erotic part of the body. In our society we are used to our elders being figures of authority, pretty much all the way through our lives. To turn the concept on its head by dominating an older woman is very exciting and psychologically wonderfully intense and fascinating in my opinion. So, I am looking to speak with some "mature" submissives about this dynamic, so anyone interested feel free to message me. Thanks for reading

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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

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ORIGINAL: Timonat
First of all, I would NEVER just write "Hi I like mature women". What kind of a brain dead troglodyte do you think I am?

Do you have any idea how many emails I get that say that very thing? How many guys that have walked up to me and said that very thing?

When we speak of this approach, it's coming from EXPERIENCE. Sheesh.

I'm done. Go off do your thing, come back and tell us how it works out.

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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

~proud to be hilaribad!!~

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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

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ORIGINAL: Timonat
First of all, I would NEVER just write "Hi I like mature women". What kind of a brain dead troglodyte do you think I am?

Do you have any idea how many emails I get that say that very thing? How many guys that have walked up to me and said that very thing?

When we speak of this approach, it's coming from EXPERIENCE. Sheesh.

I'm done. Go off do your thing, come back and tell us how it works out.

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ORIGINAL: RedMagic1

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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

~proud to be hilaribad!!~

Ha. I had no issue with your response, because that Bambi person seems to have a brain in general. Bambi's page 1 post though, was a total case of head up ass. No it isn't a fetish, even in the uberloose way some kinksters use the term, to want to date someone more mature because one is looking for more maturity. That page read like women stridently railing against their own dating baggage instead of actually engaging the content of the OP.

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ORIGINAL: RedMagic1

A lot of women in their late teens or early twenties decide they are "ready for an older man" because they are sick of the immature bullshit "boys" their age play. This isn't the same thing as having a fetish for older men....... It's more wanting someone who is emotionally stable, financially has their shit together, and wields some kind of power (which is sexy as hell even for nillas).

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ORIGINAL: RedMagic1

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ORIGINAL: Timonat

I am beginning to find submissives my age somewhat tedious and am now leaning towards the older more experienced submissive. I do not have any experience with older women and would like to talk to some and discuss the idea. I find it psychologically fascinating, and the mind is the most erotic part of the body. In our society we are used to our elders being figures of authority, pretty much all the way through our lives. To turn the concept on its head by dominating an older woman is very exciting and psychologically wonderfully intense and fascinating in my opinion. So, I am looking to speak with some "mature" submissives about this dynamic, so anyone interested feel free to message me. Thanks for reading

I stopped reading the responses you were getting after the first page, because I thought they were hilaribad, so if someone's already said the following, I apologize.

You're describing something that's extremely common for women, both kinky and nilla; you just happen to be a guy experiencing the same thing. A lot of women in their late teens or early twenties decide they are "ready for an older man" because they are sick of the immature bullshit "boys" their age play. This isn't the same thing as having a fetish for older men, though it can turn into one, I suppose. It's more wanting someone who is emotionally stable, financially has their shit together, and wields some kind of power (which is sexy as hell even for nillas).

Also, it is statistically true, at least in the United States, that as women age they become more sexually dominant. More willing to insist that they come, more willing to initiate sexual activity, and so on. I think "mature submission" is psychologically intriguing for that reason alone. How does a woman (or male sub) reconcile within herself her growing understanding of herself and her needs with being subordinate to another?

The issue you raise is a profound one. Have fun exploring it with women you enjoy!

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ORIGINAL: Timonat

The juxtaposition of self confidence gained by life experience with giving power to someone junior in every respect. It is so tantalizingly naughty and at the same time challenging the most fundamental structures within which we live. The concept alone, let alone doing it, is so deliciously juicy even just from the emotional implications one could literally write entire books on it

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ORIGINAL: Rochsub2009
I agree. You'd think that he had committed a hate crime by expressing an interest in older women.

That's why I tried to help him. He seemed to be receiving grief for having a preference that apparently isn't popular with some. I guess age is as sensitive a subject as weight often is.

IMO, a few people put words in his mouth that he never said. For example, I never saw him say that he was going to approach an older woman by saying "Hi older woman. I like you exclusively because of your age, and I plan to use you to satisfy a cougar fetish". Yet, reading the thread, you would think that that was exactly what he said.

I agree with some who said that he may have to be patient and diligent in his search for an older submissive female. That's likely to prove true. But that's not the same as it being impossible. Heck, most of the male subs on this board would probably say that finding an available, local, and compatible lifestyle Domme (as opposed to a pro or financial Domme) is "impossible". But all things come to those who wait.

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ORIGINAL: Timonat

I am beginning to find submissives my age somewhat tedious and am now leaning towards the older more experienced submissive. I do not have any experience with older women and would like to talk to some and discuss the idea. I find it psychologically fascinating, and the mind is the most erotic part of the body. In our society we are used to our elders being figures of authority, pretty much all the way through our lives. To turn the concept on its head by dominating an older woman is very exciting and psychologically wonderfully intense and fascinating in my opinion. So, I am looking to speak with some "mature" submissives about this dynamic, so anyone interested feel free to message me. Thanks for reading

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ORIGINAL: Timonat

I would like to make one more point, and I will use a very basic example to make it. Let's take a very basic act in the D/s dynamic, being tied up. For a submissive, being tied up is about not having control and being in someone else's power. Being tied up does not give you any physical pleasure, you could say it is physically benign, it is purely a psychological sensation, it is all in the mind. I do not think anyone can argue with me on that. A submissive gets psychological satisfaction and excitement by being tied up. So what is the difference between a submissive getting a psychological kick out of being tied up, and me getting a psychological kick out of dominating a woman who is older than I am?

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You'd think that he had committed a hate crime by expressing an interest in older women.

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ORIGINAL: littlewonder

When I was young, I hated old men who approached me with "hey baby. I like young hotties like you.". Now that I'm older I hate men who approach me with "I like older women".

To me it says, I like you not because of the qualities you hold but because of the stereotypical fuck that you think I am.You have zero desire to get to know me as a person. You only care about that little fantasy in your head that you think those types of women are like.

I was always attracted to men my own age because we both had much more in common and could understand each other. The problem you are having is YOUR age and not being able to communicate with women older than you. It's an age gap thing which is why it rarely works for long term relationships. It works however, for a little casual fucking and playing if that's all you're looking for. There's tons of older women looking for that but I'll be honest...the majority of them are dommes. So unless you're willing to switch, I have a feeling you will be looking a very long time..unless like I said, you're not seeking a romantic relationship.

Good luck.