lizi
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This really has nothing at all to do with D/s, it's just dating. You seem to put far too much emphasis on roles, thinking that D/s brings something different to the gameā¦it doesn't. This has been said on your other threads, but until such a time as you and a man decide to enter some type of D/s arrangement, there isn't any kind of dominant/submissive/BDSM dynamic to pay attention to. It's just the usual world of dating and the usual rules that apply. I'll preface this by saying I am monogamous. Would I tell a man that I was just meeting, or begun to date, that there were more men I was interested in? Yes, if it came up. If not, I don't see the use of it, I'd assume that we were free agents on either side until such a time as we decided to be a one on one couple. At that time there is usually a conversation of some type saying it's just you and me now. I'd liken it to dating in high school until the two of you "go steady". Until i have an arrangement with someone, I am free to date whoever I like, and will assume he is doing the same. Yes, sure, I'd ask someone out on a date, why not? Why would that be inappropriate? There are women that like to be pursued like Blonderfluff, that's fine. I tend to take a more proactive view of my own life, if there is something or someone that I am looking for, I tend to get out there and look for it as opposed to only taking what falls into my lap. I have contacted men first before, I have asked men out on dates before - both situations have been successful whenever they occurred, and each time the man professed to be flattered. I have never had a bad experience yet at being the person to reach out first. If I did find that man that was put off by me contacting him or asking him out, that's good information that we wouldn't be a match and I'd be glad to get it.
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