Tantriqu
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Dear LP: So sorry to hear what you and your family have been going through. To share my experience: I went out with a sub for six months, who'd been a friend of a friend for years. We were sexually very compatible, not so much on the vanilla side, so it was not much of a surprise when he said we should break up. Shortly after, the stalking began, and quickly escalated. I was frankly surprised since he had broken up with me, but later understood it was a control thing as well as a sociopathic thing. The police were polite but said they 'had to build a pattern' since he used various ways to try to disguise his tracks. After his most precise and sadistic threatening 'phone msg which I played to the police sergeant, the latter, bless him, said, 'Thank you, Miss, and when we track him down, with any luck he'll resist arrest. A lot.' That little jolt of black humour was my antidote, and made me realise I wasn't in this alone, and there was legal help and human sympathy. It also completely changed my focus from what a misogynist threatened to do to me and mine, to what a couple of VERY large and fit constables could be doing to him. I fortunately live in a society where cops wouldn't do that, but the sergeant let a girl can dream ;-) It was the last sick msg, since they indeed got him shortly after. I never found out if he DID resist arrest, and I was fortunate that I didn't have to testify in person since the tapes were evidence enough. And I sent the sergeant chocolates :-) And ever since, I've had a serious thang for good men in uniform, especially once I discovered so many have the taste and predeliction for subliness. Best wishes to you and your family for a rapid and satisfactory ending to what you're going through. And may you find a different focus as I did: perhaps use it as an opportunity to get some leaded bullwhip practice going on a punching bag with a Wilson-like volleyball on it as a head and flick a fly off its ear. Or another target... T.
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"Then I did the simplest thing in the world. I leaned down... and kissed him. And the world cracked open." - Agnes de Mille
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