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RE: How would you react, ladies? - 3/12/2014 7:19:25 AM

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Today was a really hard day. My children were assaulted again. My children!

We have asked for a year to be left alone. This is what it becomes.

When someone is sick, twisted beyond health, when you can't get away.....

You can't get away. It burns your inner soul. You can't just be happy. You just can't.

My children? For the love of Christ! What in the fuck is wrong with you?

I honestly can't understand what is wrong with somebody like that, that's not just crossing a line, that's like crossing every line there is. I think it's definitely time that the police gets seriously involved. That is along the lines of somebody who has no moral compass at all and therefore is a danger.

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RE: How would you react, ladies? - 3/12/2014 7:36:07 AM

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The on-line scenarios aside, because there's no way for real-time contact to take place without it seeming alarmingly creepy and stalkerish, would you agree Greta that short of utilizing the services of a matchmaker, this option is a non-threatening one for a suitor take: Namely, find a go-between in common (without going about doing that inappropriately), and have this person sing his praises? Old-fashioned, but more likely to net favorable results. It creates a safe space for mutual interest to build up, like germinating a seed, and helps soften the blows of potential rejection.

What I'm also wondering is if this Domme is a pro-Domme, then why didn't this man contact her on a professional basis and just set up a session as a client instead of this elaborate process of tracking her down privately.

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RE: How would you react, ladies? - 3/12/2014 7:42:05 AM

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The on-line scenarios aside, because there's no way for real-time contact to take place without it seeming alarmingly creepy and stalkerish, would you agree Greta that short of utilizing the services of a matchmaker, this option is a non-threatening one for a suitor take: Namely, find a go-between in common (without going about doing that inappropriately), and have this person sing his praises? Old-fashioned, but more likely to net favorable results. It creates a safe space for mutual interest to build up, like germinating a seed, and helps soften the blows of potential rejection.

To find an in-between would be even more complicated for this dude, since he would have to now track down her friends and try to befriend them. Perhaps he should stalk her at her hang out, like social clubs or even bdsm clubs that she goes to, and just turn up and chat her up, pretending to be simply someone who was just there, and not mention about knowing about her through the online site.

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RE: How would you react, ladies? - 3/12/2014 8:14:17 AM

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I would be creeped out. Someone once did that to me and it's too long of a story, but it took a long time to get rid of him.

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RE: How would you react, ladies? - 3/12/2014 8:22:04 AM

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Nothing to add, but a question: Does it help to explain to a stalker that what he's doing is causing grief, and why it's causing grief? Ever?

If so, what kind of explanation works?

Nope, remember we talked about mine, he thought he had to punish me for rejecting him, I had never even met him, I told him I'm not comfy being friends with somebody who uses the N word. We were internet friends, exchanged emails, never seen the guy in my life, and it turned out that all he told me about himself were lies...
Stalkers are just CRAZY, as in several fries short of a happy meal

Actually...in the case of the first of my 2 stalkers (2nd was not dangerous but still a real pest) he cosidered some comments he did whilst stalking me with "that was just fun"...

therefore I would say "nope" either....

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RE: How would you react, ladies? - 3/12/2014 9:45:38 AM

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Nothing to add, but a question: Does it help to explain to a stalker that what he's doing is causing grief, and why it's causing grief? Ever?

If so, what kind of explanation works?

Nope, remember we talked about mine, he thought he had to punish me for rejecting him, I had never even met him, I told him I'm not comfy being friends with somebody who uses the N word. We were internet friends, exchanged emails, never seen the guy in my life, and it turned out that all he told me about himself were lies...
Stalkers are just CRAZY, as in several fries short of a happy meal

Actually...in the case of the first of my 2 stalkers (2nd was not dangerous but still a real pest) he cosidered some comments he did whilst stalking me with "that was just fun"...

therefore I would say "nope" either....

Add me to the Nopes.

He liked getting a reaction out of me...be it positive or negative. He liked that it caused me grief. It was when I stopped responding at all that he became really bothered. It got worse for a short time and then he gave up.

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RE: How would you react, ladies? - 3/12/2014 9:55:18 AM

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Lucky you, for most people if they ignore things become a lot lot worse, but if you respond they also feel encouraged, it's a clusterfuck!

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RE: How would you react, ladies? - 3/12/2014 10:01:25 AM

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Ladies, a question for you. As described, the initiator was interested in the person, but did not see a response on CM, and did not see that the object of his affection had even BEEN on CM lately. If he did the same detective work, but then sent a snail mail letter (and JUST a letter) - would that still trigger the creep-o-meter in you lades?

YES!

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RE: How would you react, ladies? - 3/12/2014 10:03:54 AM

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Today was a really hard day. My children were assaulted again. My children!

We have asked for a year to be left alone. This is what it becomes.

When someone is sick, twisted beyond health, when you can't get away.....

You can't get away. It burns your inner soul. You can't just be happy. You just can't.

My children? For the love of Christ! What in the fuck is wrong with you?

I'm so sorry, LP.

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RE: How would you react, ladies? - 3/12/2014 10:16:54 AM

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Lucky you, for most people if they ignore things become a lot lot worse, but if you respond they also feel encouraged, it's a clusterfuck!

It did become a lot worse. I feared for my life for awhile. It wasnt nearly as bad as it could have been, but that kind of fear is horrible.

I moved, changed my number, changed my job, changed my car, and changed my looks (weight, hair color, style) - not because of him, just a lot of major changes over time. I think he lost track of me for awhile. But every time I get anonymous flowers, cards, etc., that awful feeling comes back.

I agree though, it's a clusterfuck. If it ever happens again I'd probably accept the offer to have him killed.

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RE: How would you react, ladies? - 3/12/2014 10:34:41 AM

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I still freak and jump if the door bell goes unexpected or I get a call (changed numbers a lot) and nobody answers, took over 4 years to actually slow down... It's a damned if you do and damned if you don't situation.

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RE: How would you react, ladies? - 3/12/2014 12:23:14 PM

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Fast reply.....

Thank you. Thank you, all. For here, the messages that I've received, both here and the other site. It's a completely amazing feeling. You folks are incredible!

I felt bad for speaking out. I did. But, you can't. This subject of this thread is tip of the iceberg kind of stuff. It's the kind of behavior that gets so much worse.

If it helps any, there aren't any weapons left. I'm ok, and if you're reading this, you can be ok, too.

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RE: How would you react, ladies? - 3/12/2014 12:30:17 PM

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I think it is fantastic that you spoke out, seriously, keeping silent about it is exactly what gives those creeps power, if people realize how often it happens and that they aren't the only ones, they are less accepting about this kind of crap...

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RE: How would you react, ladies? - 3/12/2014 3:02:40 PM

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I don't like it. Whenever men have said - aha I have found out who you are aren't I a clever boy, presumably you now adore me... I think gosh what an idiot with a low IQ. If I have said I don't want someone to know who I am until we meet and then he does the opposite that is psychologically going to make him the man I least want on this planet when the process you are going through as a potential girl friend/sub is can I trust this person. If they actually took that further and tracked me down to real life that is even worse. No way would I be remotely interested. Instead they should shut up about having discovered the identity, continue to get to you know you, take it to phone calls and then meet and then there can be mutual disclosure IF and only if you actually fancy each other on the meeting and we all know that on most meetings most of us do not find the other person attractive a lot of the time.

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RE: How would you react, ladies? - 3/12/2014 3:07:42 PM

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If it can be Me, it can be anybody, right?

I'm sorry you folks got dragged into this. I really do have regret.

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RE: How would you react, ladies? - 3/12/2014 3:15:57 PM

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Think of other women reading it, look at how many other women (and men) this happened to...

Shit does happen, if people realize it does happen, they might not just shrug their shoulders and assume the person who has this happening "brought it on" somehow, they also realize that they can do something, they don't need to be ashamed.

Why should you feel sorry for something? Not like you did anything wrong or dragged people into it. The people who do this count on silence, speaking out about it takes a lot of their power away.

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RE: How would you react, ladies? - 3/12/2014 3:26:23 PM

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This thread has been an inspiration.

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RE: How would you react, ladies? - 3/12/2014 3:33:06 PM

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Sounds really like a storm in a teacup.
A few years back I recognized a woman in one of these forums as one I had seen locally, so I did send her a message. It turned out she had noticed mine but wouldn’t approach me, but she was quite pleased about my interest.
So after a few messages we decided for a face to face meeting, which was set for one of the local watering holes.
We both meet up and spend some hours talking, where upon we went each our way. I would say that there really was no spark, what so ever from either side. I later, quite by accident found out her address, and she probably has mine, as that with the info she has on me it would be a couple of clicks on the PC and it is there.
If I do bump in to her in the streets is say “Hi” and she answers back with the same.

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RE: How would you react, ladies? - 3/12/2014 3:37:40 PM

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Sounds like you have no clue, though surprised (but very grateful) that you didn't entertain us with one of your stories about your sexual experiences along with your opinion...

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RE: How would you react, ladies? - 3/12/2014 6:34:56 PM

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If it can be Me, it can be anybody, right?

I'm sorry you folks got dragged into this. I really do have regret.

Exactly. It could be any one of us, at any time.
By sharing, You've taken away his power, and given it to all of us.
You should regret nothing. You did nothing wrong.

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